Holiday Nightmare!

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AIBU here?

We have come away the two of us for 10 days. Had a bit of a nightmare the first 3 days as our cases didn't come on the plane with us, they turned up 3 days later so I spent the first 3 days on the phone emailing etc.

Anyway, cases did turn up on day 3! Great let's get on with enjoying the holiday.

Thursday afternoon all of a sudden I felt I had been hit by a bus. I woke up in the middle of the night with a high fever and aching from head to toe. Ended up in bed all day yesterday because I felt so bad.

Managed to get up today and get to the chemist as I knew it was more than a cold. The chemist gave me some stuff for the flu and a Covid test. Top and bottom of it is, I've tested positive for Covid hence the reason why I feel horrendous.

Partner seems really pissed off. Hardly speaking to me! That's the vibe I'm getting. He went to the adult only pool yesterday until 6pm as I told him pointless sitting in the room with me.

Today after I got the positive test he's annoyed again. Saying well I have to spend the holiday on my own! Didn't ask how I was feeling or any regard for the fact I feel horrendous with a temperature and I'm wasting my holiday stuck in bed in the room.

At least he can go out round the pool in the sun! AIBU in thinking he's being a bit selfish in just thinking of himself? It's really getting on my nerves!

Oh OP i'm so sorry you're feeling so ill. My partner had Covid last October and i didn't want to move from his side the first 3 days whilst he got over the worst, he panicked every time i needed the loo as being alone really scared him. Your partner is a massive arsehole!

when I had covid, it mimicked the symptoms I had with meningitis, I would not be up for sitting by a pool or doing anything but sitting in a darkened room with air con.

So sorry for you OP that you're having to go through this on holiday and your partner is being less-than-kind to you while you are feeling so ill. I know if the same had happened to my husband and I, he would be making sure I was as comfy as possible and being as nice to me as possible whilst probably finding time to go and spend some pool time on his own. You are unwell and not being treated well by your nearest which must feel doubly crap.

I think this thread would have turned out very differently if the OP had said she was in bed with the flu. The moment she said it was Covid, the MN bat signal went up and a number of posters dashed on here to make sure that we all remembered that Covid - if indeed it exists at all - is not actually an illness that makes you feel unwell in any way and certainly should not prevent you going about your everyday life as normal so just carry on as usual nothing to see here thank you very much.

This is so true.

At least no one has popped up to say 'you can't be that ill if you're typing on MN' like we usually get from the unbearably stupid on any illness threads.

No , I don't think so the matter of covid is neither here nor there .

The point is about her partner not caring.

And?

I have got covid at the moment, as has my DH. We have been so unwell that for the first 3/4 days we could barely move. Fever, cough, exhaustion, rough throat, aching. I'm a week in and feel a lot better but stilll very tired. No way could I have sat outside in the hea!

She's feeling too ill to sit by the pool.

Would you want to be on the sunbed next to someone persistantly coughing?

He has just returned from the beach!

I have aired my points stating that he hasn't even checked on me, he didn't take his phone so was reachable.

He said he doesn't need to ask how I am, he knows how I am.

Said don't worry tomorrow I won't move out the room. I said I absolutely would not expect you to do that and nor would I want you to, what I would expect though is just a mere asking if I need anything or am I okay.

He said if it was him, he would be getting up and getting out!! In 30 degree heat with a fever when I keep nodding in and out of sleep.

He said how do you think it feels me having to spend the last two days on my own!

I said ditto! At least you get to go out and sit in the sun at the beach or pool! Not in bed!

Thank god you don't have children together.
He's a selfish prick.
My husband and son had it last month, both were miserable and are still coughing a month later.
Red flag that he is so uncaring.
Have a hard think when you are recovered.
Do not commit to growing old with an uncaring prick.

And so she has a fever and feels incredibly unwell and therefore doesn’t want to sit at the pool.

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I sincerely hope he gets a horrendous dose and you leave him completely to get on with it.

I presume so she knew what she was dealing with?

Rule out cold, COVID etc and then you go from there when you feel like shite.

If he gets it, remind yourself how he treated you, and treat him in the exact same way.

I hope you feel better soon

He sounds like a total arse OP, I'd be really upset if my partner treated me like this.

I'm far from the kind of person who advocates LTB over every little thing, but unless there's some real back story that you're not telling us, his behaviour would really make me question the relationship. It's just a total lack of basic care and consideration for the person he supposedly loves.

Lol I wouldn't be on a sunbed to start with but if I was and someone coughing next to me Id move. Still no difference whether it's covid flu or something else. Try looking at the quote I replied to

I think if the shoe were on the other foot he would expect you to be caring for him. I think you should absolutely match his energy. Make sure you have your bags packed when it’s time to go. Don’t bother checking that he has everything, etc. Just you look after you. Selfish shit of a man. I’m so sorry you’re sick on holiday but at least you found this out now, and you’re not married to the whiny sod.

That's funny, my DH always loses his temper on our anniversary (at an inanimate object or at the cat) he's usually quite good apart from that.

I'm so sorry you're ill OP, it must be very hurtful that the person who is supposed to love you is behaving like this when you're feeling vulnerable. I hope you feel better soon.

I think you should use room service a lot!
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life goes on

Does your life go on when you’re unwell? You just rock up to work as usual despite having a fever and feeling too unwell to lift your head off the pillow?

Honestly this thread has really brought out the hard of understanding today.

When I had COVID the first time, before we barely knew it existed, I couldn't open my eyes from the headache, couldn't move my limbs without pain and basically spent 3 solid days asleep, unless I was coughing my guts up. I physically couldn't have done anything.

I don't get ill often and usually soldier on with medication etc. but that first bout of COVID absolutely floored me.

Everyone has different reactions to different t illnesses. Try being kind and less condescending.

What an absolute baby. Sulking because he has to spend two days on his own? Can he not entertain himself? He's sitting by a pool, surely he doesn't need a hand hold for that. He really thinks you should get up and suffer to keep him company 😂. I'd be instantly turned off by that statement alone and wouldn't want his company anyway.

This. My DH would go off exploring on his own for a couple of hours, bring back food and nice things to drink and then either watch some TV or play on his phone for an hour to check for himself I was ok and not just saying it. Then he'd go off again, come back with dinner and repeat.

It's not what you want but it's not the end of the world. I'd be questioning my relationship if this was his reaction.

Well yeah, no one had suggested that the OP has died. Her life is going on, but she's feeling really ill with a fever and can't go sit by the pool because she's too poorly to get out of bed. Why the laughing emojis? It seems a bit unkind.