Holiday Nightmare!

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AIBU here?

We have come away the two of us for 10 days. Had a bit of a nightmare the first 3 days as our cases didn't come on the plane with us, they turned up 3 days later so I spent the first 3 days on the phone emailing etc.

Anyway, cases did turn up on day 3! Great let's get on with enjoying the holiday.

Thursday afternoon all of a sudden I felt I had been hit by a bus. I woke up in the middle of the night with a high fever and aching from head to toe. Ended up in bed all day yesterday because I felt so bad.

Managed to get up today and get to the chemist as I knew it was more than a cold. The chemist gave me some stuff for the flu and a Covid test. Top and bottom of it is, I've tested positive for Covid hence the reason why I feel horrendous.

Partner seems really pissed off. Hardly speaking to me! That's the vibe I'm getting. He went to the adult only pool yesterday until 6pm as I told him pointless sitting in the room with me.

Today after I got the positive test he's annoyed again. Saying well I have to spend the holiday on my own! Didn't ask how I was feeling or any regard for the fact I feel horrendous with a temperature and I'm wasting my holiday stuck in bed in the room.

At least he can go out round the pool in the sun! AIBU in thinking he's being a bit selfish in just thinking of himself? It's really getting on my nerves!

Oh no, what a massive shame! I can see how you have no interest in sitting by the pool, I was roasting when I had covid and it would have been absolutely unbearable. I was sweating sitting still.
Try and get as much sleep and fluids as you can. I really hope you feel better in a few days.
Some people are really odd when others are ill. It's not like you've done it on purpose! My dad can be like this with my mum. I'd love to know the psychology behind it.

What a bastard. Change your flights to come home early, change the locks and dump his stuff on the drive. You deserve so much better than this.

Honestly, what’s wrong with you. She has a fever and is ill.

Oh I wouldn't. Having lived abroad, there is nothing worse than the searing heat and sunshine. I felt like I was shrivelling up.

With food poisoning I continued with a beach trip, making my friend come with me (also ill). The worst day ever, what a waste, both of us miserable and making the family with us miserable too.

A hangover in the sun always feels 10 times worse too.

Given you've mentioned it's Covid, why oh why do some people insist on ignoring the fact that you actually feel ill. Do they not believe that people do feel ill with Covid? Surely it doesn't matter what the illness is, would you want someone with a temperature and looking rough, eating their dinner at hotel restaurant alongside you, when they obviously have an infectious disease? Would it be acceptable if it was flu? Norovirus? Do some people think it's OK to do this, and ruin everyone else's holiday by passing it around? I'm sorry you're feeling so bad OP, and as a result it's ruining your holiday. The only appropriate response, from both your DH and MN, is sympathy. It's not like you got ill on purpose.

Who wants to sit in the sun/shade outside when they have a temperature and feel terrible?

She's best in the room sleeping

So clearly you didn't feel as rough as the OP

Because it’s still helpful to know if she gets strange symptoms later on they’ll look for blood clots in the lungs etc. I’m guessing you don’t want your urine sample checked at the gp for infection or a throat swab taken with the chemist either, or ever have any bloods taken.

Yes my ex always behaved strangely. If I was ill it could never change our plans. It was part of his control and selfishness.

I was once ‘made’ to go to visit his mum when I was obviously sick. I sat outside ‘green’. My MiL asked ‘ what on earth are you doing here, you should be at home in bed’ Really difficult to say ‘he made me come’.

Quite abusive.

I can only assume you've never been very ill @sleepyscientist! Perhaps your family have very impressive immune systems.

Nevertheless, for us mere mortals it's more sensible to follow the advice of rest and fluids along with meds to recover rather than vigorous gardening or drinking alcohol.

So you weren’t ill then, because if you are truly ill you would not want to drink cocktails by the pool. You would take paracetamol every 4 hrs and it would likely hurt just moving your head.

Your post is ridiculous.

I agree with you, it's ridiculous.

I think some people have never had proper flu or Covid. I was ill in bed for 6 weeks with Covid last year. I could barely move, I have never felt so ill in my life.

@SoupDragon I'm surprised at your ridiculous thick response. She has a fever and feeling absolutely sick and you think sitting in the sun is the brightest idea? Some people smh.

Me too. I remember falling asleep around 10 in the morning and woke up in the exact same position 7 hrs later. Hadn’t moved. Just to fall asleep again.

Everyone behaves differently on hols in this situation. I had an upset stomach/sickness for a couple of days last year and DH stayed in the room with me. I kept encouraging him to go out but he didn’t want to.

I remember thinking I wouldn’t have done the same … I would have been kind and caring but would have gone to the pool and for a walk, popping back to see him.

Yeah totally agree, I learned how to fit a cannula on YouTube so I just rig up a few drugs I bought on eBay whenever anyone's ill in my family and we just get on with it.
I had a broken leg, shotgun wounds and pneumonia and I still hiked up Everest no trouble.
Some people are just soft whingers

No! you are not being unreasonable. If you took time out of your holiday to try and locate everyone else's suitcases the least your partner could be is 'more sympathetic'. You probably caught covid before him due to the stress. If he totally ignored you, not offering to bring you food, drinks ect. Then that's really selfish of him. A stern word to him would be called for once you recovered.

Yep and it's also quite risky to fall into deep sleep in very hot sun- you could get easily badly burnt.

Yeah some people have excuses for everything 🙄 If I had two broken legs I’d still run a marathon.

Poor you, I hope you feel better soon! And I think your DH is a bit of a dick in this situation.

Yeah exactly. Covid can make you feel awful, but it can also put your mind at rest to know WHY you feel awful.

OP doesn’t not “feel 100%”, she feels ill. I had Covid and couldn’t get out of bed from the day before Xmas Eve till the day after Boxing Day. Christmas was cancelled. I didn’t need A&E but I was far too poorly to “get on with it”. I literally had to crawl to the loo, I couldn’t wash or eat. I absolutely couldn’t have dragged myself to a swimming pool! I can’t believe that nobody in your house has ever been really poorly.

Have you never felt so unwell that you had to stay in bed?

When I had COVID it was horrendous. I had to stay in bed and certainly wouldn't have been able to sit round the pool even if I did keep a distance from people!

Who the hell wants to sit outside in the heat when they have a fever?

A different attitude? Just get on with it? Float around the pool?

You might not ever have been really ill, but your head certainly isn’t 100% right either.