Holiday Nightmare!

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AIBU here?

We have come away the two of us for 10 days. Had a bit of a nightmare the first 3 days as our cases didn't come on the plane with us, they turned up 3 days later so I spent the first 3 days on the phone emailing etc.

Anyway, cases did turn up on day 3! Great let's get on with enjoying the holiday.

Thursday afternoon all of a sudden I felt I had been hit by a bus. I woke up in the middle of the night with a high fever and aching from head to toe. Ended up in bed all day yesterday because I felt so bad.

Managed to get up today and get to the chemist as I knew it was more than a cold. The chemist gave me some stuff for the flu and a Covid test. Top and bottom of it is, I've tested positive for Covid hence the reason why I feel horrendous.

Partner seems really pissed off. Hardly speaking to me! That's the vibe I'm getting. He went to the adult only pool yesterday until 6pm as I told him pointless sitting in the room with me.

Today after I got the positive test he's annoyed again. Saying well I have to spend the holiday on my own! Didn't ask how I was feeling or any regard for the fact I feel horrendous with a temperature and I'm wasting my holiday stuck in bed in the room.

At least he can go out round the pool in the sun! AIBU in thinking he's being a bit selfish in just thinking of himself? It's really getting on my nerves!

Take care OP. I hope you feel better soon.

I can only assume we have a few thick men posting and suggesting you can sit in the heat by a pool when you’re feeling very unwell with Covid. 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

Hoping this isn’t a serious relationship because I think you need to dump him when you get home. It’s bad enough being ill but when you’re ill on holiday, he should be stepping up to ensure you’re ok and not whining like a pathetic teenager.

I stupidly stayed with my DP when I was ill on holiday and he was equally unhelpful. He went off exploring for hours on end completely oblivious to my suffering and this was in the days before mobile phones.

Thankfully, he did improve 100% after he suffered from a very serious life threatening condition and appreciated me taking care of him. He’s actually brilliant now, checking in on me and doing stuff, even if I’ve just got a migraine. 😂

The current strain going around is supposed to be a distant variant of omicron, and it's supposed to be slightly better at evading our immune system so people are getting quite ill with it. I hope you feel better soon.

Is he usually horrible like this to you though? He sounds like someone who it's quite uncomfortable to be around. Is this what you want for your life?

We've been together for 13 years and married for 9.

He isn't the most attentive when I'm poorly but he's gone to the beach now but left his mobile phone here.

Some people are heavily invested in insisting that covid is 'just a cold' and they don't like it when people point out it can be extremely debilitating.

Are you taking four hourly paracetamol/ibuprofen? That usually brings temperature down. Don't quote me on it but I think you can take both together or alternate if paracetamol doesn't work on its own.

13 years and married for 9.

Funnily enough it was our wedding anniversary on Thursday.

In fairness, it doesn't sound like he's been 'nasty' so far. You say he 'seems pissed off' and it's the 'vibe you're getting'. I do have sympathy with you as I've had food poisoning on holiday before and it's shit being ill while you're away.

However, I've also had a holiday that cost a fortune but rained most of the time and my partner got food poisoning, spending 2 or 3 days in bed. It was really shit all round and I'm not sure how well I coped with it. I wasn't nasty, but I WAS pissed off - not with him, just in general.

any children?

@BoneChinaPlate people have different attitude if you don't need A&E in this house you get on with it. Paracetamol/ibi is dosed based on current weight husband pushes is luck a bit further.

OP can you go float around the pool? I find being in the cold pool nice if you don't feel 100%

Sorry to hear this OP, from his behaviour I was expecting this to be the first holiday in a new relationship! He is being so uncaring. Dare I ask how your relationship has been over the last 6 months?

I hope you start to feel better soon. Keep up with your fluids, especially important in a hot place.

Fingers crossed that you are able to enjoy the end part of your trip a bit. Definitely a conversation to be had once you arrive home and are feeling better.

What does 'just getting on with it' look like? Is no one in your house allowed to rest when they have a fever unless they're hospitalised?

Sorry you're feeling so unwell on holiday OP.
Your DH sounds like a total prick.

Wow, if my partner treated me like that when I was ill he would be an ex.

Surely that would put everyone else on the plane at risk of catching covid?

Sorry to read this OP. Do you have a room with a balcony, if not you should request one. The first few says of covid are usually the worst. Hopefully you will be well enough to be down to the pool side & out & about soon.

Sorry he’s not being very caring 😞

pragmatically it probably is best for him to get out and enjoy the pool etc as he’s more than likely to feel ill himself soon….

She has a fever and feels really ill. I wouldn't want to be dragging my ill self out of bed and down to the pool to sit in hot sun if I had a fever and felt very unwell. I'd be in bed probably sleeping a lot.

You can take paracetamol & ibuprofen together. Hope you start to feel better soon OP. I couldn’t be with someone who doesn’t show care when I’m ill, especially on holiday. DH has his faults but he used to be a medic & is a great person to have around when you’re poorly.

I agree his reaction isn't great. But I couldn't hand on heart say I would be any different if the roles were reversed.

If my DH fell ill at the start of a holiday and needed to stay in bed all day in the room, then as much as I might feign a bit more sympathy than your DH is displaying, I would still be disappointed and pissed off. I would try to make the best of it, but it still wouldn't be the holiday I had been anticipating. But I would try not to show it.

Hope you start to feel better soon. Keep hydrated and taking paracetamol and/or ibuprofen if you can and get as much sleep as you can.

If you were at home you’d be sitting at home alone trying to avoid giving it to the rest of the household.

It is proper rotten to be unwell on holiday but whilst he is showing a lack of empathy in his reaction he’s probably sad that his/your shared holiday is ruined, plus unseen to spend time with someone who is contagiously ill. I’d be wanting a separate room. And a bit worried that I couldn’t because I was on holiday.

That sucks OP.

I was away with a friend for 5 days once and she was ill in bed for 2 of those, and still very fragile the last two days.

Yes it wasn't ideal for me and I may have fleetingly wondered if she was being dramatic, but then I gave myself a talking to and said of course she ins't being dramatic. Who would chose to spend their holiday in bed if they didn't have to?

So I went about my holiday myself, checked in on her every few hours, made sure she had enough food, water, and medicine, sat with her sometimes so she wasn't always alone.

Hopefully your partner realises he's being a dick and starts being nicer. And I hope you feel better soon and can have a lounge by the pool

Similar happened to me. Was on holiday abroad, woke up with agonising abdominal pain, couldn't move. I asked partner to go chemist, he stomped off to pick some bits up, threw them on the bed, then got a beer and a book and ignored me, quietly seething on the balcony.

I told him to go out and enjoy himself, rather than stay sat on balcony in a mood with me. He did as I said, but when he popped back for things, was still in a mood with me.

Long story short, I called a doctor, who called an ambulance. As I was being taken to hospital, he was bleating "We are meant to check out tomorrow!" I shouted back, "Well best pack then!"

He didn't offer to come to hospital with me, didn't speak to reception to see if we could have a late check out and didn't text me to see how I was. I was alone in a foreign hospital, in pain and petrified.

I was moved to ICU for 12 hours and the next day was moved to a side room, he then turned up with our luggage, still in a mood. Sat there tapping on his phone furiously, still ignoring me.

A couple of days later, I was allowed to go home, but we needed to book new flights. His mum sent us the money (we would pay her back the following week) and when he left his phone unattended to go out for a fag, I checked his phone and he'd been texting his mum saying how disgusted he was that I wasn't acting more grateful towards him for his mum lending us the money to get us home.

I was so upset that he didn't show a shred of care towards me and was furious at me for being ill. We'd been together three years, I was so shocked.

We split up shortly after. I ended things.

Suggest you think long and hard about the person you're with. Hope you feel better soon.

Why would not taking the test make her less ill?

Hope you feel better soon OP. The last time I had covid was at the height of summer and the high temp / fevers were horrible combined with the heat. Just rest up

@BoneChinaPlate pretty much tho using the correct drugs dosed properly at the correct intervals usually keeps the fever down. We also take sufficient upset stomach relief on holiday, make use of the lacks attitude in chemists etc with plenty of caffeine for fatigue. DS had an ear ache last year, chemist at 9am by 1pm the drops had released a lot of the pressure and he was back to normal. Wouldn't even have a NHS GP appointment in that time.

If we were on holiday even with a fever I would likely laze at/in the pool with a good book pre DS it would have also likely involved a decent dose of cocktails. DH has the same attitude be spent COVID isolation gutting the garden