Holiday Nightmare!

[AmbTurn]

AIBU here?

We have come away the two of us for 10 days. Had a bit of a nightmare the first 3 days as our cases didn't come on the plane with us, they turned up 3 days later so I spent the first 3 days on the phone emailing etc.

Anyway, cases did turn up on day 3! Great let's get on with enjoying the holiday.

Thursday afternoon all of a sudden I felt I had been hit by a bus. I woke up in the middle of the night with a high fever and aching from head to toe. Ended up in bed all day yesterday because I felt so bad.

Managed to get up today and get to the chemist as I knew it was more than a cold. The chemist gave me some stuff for the flu and a Covid test. Top and bottom of it is, I've tested positive for Covid hence the reason why I feel horrendous.

Partner seems really pissed off. Hardly speaking to me! That's the vibe I'm getting. He went to the adult only pool yesterday until 6pm as I told him pointless sitting in the room with me.

Today after I got the positive test he's annoyed again. Saying well I have to spend the holiday on my own! Didn't ask how I was feeling or any regard for the fact I feel horrendous with a temperature and I'm wasting my holiday stuck in bed in the room.

At least he can go out round the pool in the sun! AIBU in thinking he's being a bit selfish in just thinking of himself? It's really getting on my nerves!

people have different attitude if you don't need A&E in this house you get on with it

You get on with it? How lame. I give 110% when I'm ill, not the bare minimum of just getting on with it. Thats a really lazy, half arsed attitude.

Some people don't like to admit that COVID is anymore than a 'cold'. Completely ignoring all the people seriously ill in hospital or in bed at home. No we can't all be 'gutting the garden' when we have COVID!

OP, sorry to hear you're feeling so rotten. Your OH is acting like an idiot. If you're sharing a room, chances are he will catch it unless he has had it recently. I always wear an N95 mask when on planes. They are hotbeds of transmission. A recent study showed people are 16 times more likely to catch Covid on aircraft than in other settings. Feel better soon.

Plus it’s actually dangerous advice to tell op to get out in the sun and get on with it. Her body is telling her to rest.

Yep. My God, now it's apparently wrong to rest when you are ill?

This place 😂

You can be disappointed - and I'm quite sure the OP is too. You can be understanding though and not be an arse.

With a bit of luck, he will get a taste of his own medicine and get it too @AmbTurn and hopefully you will be feeling better and you can in turn piss off and leave him to it!!

Get as much rest as you need, no doubt you DH is disappointed that his holiday is not going the way he wants. Hopefully he will realise he is being a dick or at least realise that he could go down with it in a couple of days and may need someone to take care of him. Keep the fluids up and hopefully in a couple of days you might start to enjoy your holiday. I am loving the responses from the "if its not a&e then its nothing" posters - fuckwitts!

Very sorry you are ill OP and hope you feel better soon

I guess he will change his tune within the very near future when he comes down with it too.

Holidays do come with an increased risk of sickness due to the travel itself and being in a different environment/part of the world. Holiday companies market a perfect happy ideal, but the reality is that you are just as likely (if not more) to be ill or a victim of crime on holiday and so really only undertake a holiday if you are happy to take the risk and live with the consequences, including having a decent travel insurance policy. Sorry for the doom and gloom, but holiday companies are not doing us a favour, they are a profit making industry that increasingly is pursuing very intensive and misleading marketing and advertising. If it were so great, they wouldn't need to advertise and market it so aggressively and continuously would they?

I am not sitting outside in 30 degree heat when my temperature is 39 degrees!

If we were on holiday even with a fever I would likely laze at/in the pool with a good book pre DS it would have also likely involved a decent dose of cocktails.

Well you're incredibly dim then arent you? because alcohol increases inflammation, dehydrates you, and lowers your immune system.

He hasn't offered to bring me drinks or anything as he went to the beach this morning at 11.30am and has left his phone here in the room so I haven't heard from him!

Just took the bank card to get a few beers from the shop for himself at the beach.

I have it just now and feel utterly horrendous, worse than the two previous times I had it.

Big hugs op.

Your DH can not really help.
Tell him to ensure you have a supply of water, paracetemol and your favourite snacks and then to go and holiday the best he can.

Bad luck.

Paxlovid is a medication for people with Covid.

There's always one who thinks every hiccup in a marriage justifies ending it.

Honestly, OP, buck up! Here is sleepyscientist enjoying her holiday - mind over matter!

No really, I'm so sorry you're ill and your dh is an arse and your thread has been derailed by the 'get on with it' brigade. Covid can make you feel even more down and upset than usual as well as all the physical symptoms. I hope you start to feel better soon.

suitable for those in the “highest risk” according to NHS eg over 85, end stage heart failure

safe assumption op not in that group

you’ve avoided answering whether any children op?

I'm really sorry to hear you're not well. Do you have anything to eat or drink, and do you have a thermometer and finger oximeter?

I've had covid badly twice and it was properly rubbish.

It might be a really good idea to get hold of some n95 masks online if you can. They might stop your DH getting it so badly and if you wear them on the plane home it might prevent everybody else from catching it.

Good luck there.

Yes, but it's also possible (given the lying by the pool) that she is not in the Uk and therefore not bound by the NHS's criteria.

No, my FIL got Paxlovid in his 70s with an autoimmune condition - not in particularly bad health, but at risk of Covid affecting him badly. Also BIL who had a heart attack in his 40s got Paxlovid, he's not end-stage! Just someone with a history of heart problems. Also my diabetic mum (type 1 if that makes a difference. They are all people who go on holiday, work, lead normal lives but are eligible for Paxlovid.

I haven't avoided the question however I struggle to see the relevance!

We have two children between us but not together and they are older so no they haven't come away with us.

What does that have to do with anything?

Presumably if your husband was looking after children that would supposedly justify his horrible treatment of you, or else you'd be in for another Mumsnet martyr lecture whereby someone would tell you 'mums don't get to be ill, just get on with it'.

Very inconsiderate! I can't imagine a caring partner being like this and I find it strange all the excuses from earlier posters. This is seriously weird and wrong.

There's some really bizarre responses here, i think the heat has frazzled some brain cells!

Anyhow, poor you, op, that horrendously shit timing and completely not your fault you're ill and your DH of over years 10 years is being a massive dick for not taking care you by getting you food or drinks and leaving his mobile phone so you can't reach him.

What's he like when you're at home and you're ill? Is he also like this?