To be so angry about eggs

[MissTiss]

So disclaimer: I'm pretty sure this is unreasonable and I'm 5 weeks pregnant.

Got some fancy farm fresh eggs last weekend and was looking forward to a few for breakfast this morning. Come down to realise DH has put all 8 of the lovely eggs we bought for silly price from farmer into a cake for his work. When shop with normal eggs is literally 2 minutes away.

Gave out to him (raised voice, half amused, not shouting) at which point he told me I was being a bad example to 2 year old who thought the whole.thing was hilarious.

Also my mum died 2 months ago.

AIBU? Who puts nice eggs like that into a work cake?

Also AIBU to think he would just give me a break given all I'm going through?

With a bit runny yolk right?
Ffs I need to buy good eggs!

@LondonFox , mmm, runny yolk. I like a lightly poached egg and sometimes have the white runny.

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable OP, your husband sounds inconsiderate using up all the expensive eggs and not letting you have any.

money doesn’t just grow on trees. You bought the expensive ones as a treat, he has deprived you of that.

HE is the bad example to your child, not you

But not even for them; it’s for the office? I’d be royally pissed

@Viscoelasticity

not everyone can afford to buy the more expensive option all of the time. Op was clear in her post that these eggs were expensive and she was looking forward to trying them.

I do agree with your sentiment though re chickens - I think that if you can’t get the eggs that guarantee the best animal welfare DO NOT bother getting eggs at all.
NO ONE needs eggs afterall, plenty of other foods to eat.

I cannot imagine how people can live that way.

I don't understand the "special food", unless you literally buy the exact same thing every single week. Everyone I know has just "food", could be anything depending on the shop, on the mood that day. If it's there, it's to eaten surely? If it's that special, can't you just label it?

And as for checking.. in real life, it would mean texting or calling partners at work or out before eating? Or have permanent leftovers "just in case" someone wants them? If you really must keep something, the onus is on you to tel people.

Totally agree with you.
I’m far from wealthy, I’m a single teacher. I only buy the highest welfare local animal produce, I only buy eggs every three weeks or so, chicken about twice a month and beef and sausages once a month, because I get them from the farm shop.

I feel so much better eating high-quality, high-welfare, environmentally friendly meat that supports the local economy, less regularly, than supporting and perpetuating cruel and sometimes barbaric meat production lines by buying cheaply.

@summersofdoom , the shopping here is planned for the week. If one person decided to bake the ingredients would need to be bought separately.

Unless the eggs had a red lion mark on I wouldn't eat them when pregnant, guessing if they were from a local farm they didn't

So you bought nice eggs and he used all of them in a cake not for you? Yes I'd be annoyed (not pregnant) send him back to farm for more eggs.

If the chickens are wandering around freely the eggs are probably safe. Given that OP is pregnant, and not planning to eat them raw (e.g, in mayonnaise) they should be fine.

I've been there OP i lost my mum when pregnant 4 years ago I was a living nightmare for about 18months after I feel so bad often when I look back on how I treated my husband. I mean this in the kindest way. Really keep comms open with him and don't be afraid to consider therapy when you feel ready. It was and still is my lifeline. Losing a mother especially when on the journey to becoming a mother yourself is one of tje most painful things I think we can be dealt. I feel for you x

The chickens suffer just the same regardless of who eats the eggs

How massive was this cake? I've never used so many eggs in a cake before. Are you sure he didn't eat at least 4 of them and hide the evidence?

I mean, it's quite obvious when something is special or more expensive.

There's usual groceries and then something different not from the usual store or its something that looks more expensive, a treat, special etc etc etc

I've been married 10 years and it really isn't any effort not to eat all/the last of something that we aren't sure if the other person wants.

It really is just basic politeness when living with other humans and I think especially as women, we fall into the trap of micromanaging and feeling the burden of "tell him everything or else it's not his fault".

Nope, I expect my husband to have eyeballs and to stop and check if in doubt.

As for "if it's there its to be eaten"... sure, but to finish or take ALL of something is inconsiderate

And no, we don't have permanent leftovers because it takes less than 5 seconds to say/text "hey, do you mind if I eat that last cupcake?".

The other person always says "no problem" or maybe "sure, but can you save me half".

It stops that disappointment of looking forward to something and then feeling deflated.

On the occasions we HAVE finished something or eaten all of something, we make the effort to replace it so the other person can experience the same joy or enjoyment we did.

You don't have to do this, but literally everyone I know tends to do this to varying degrees.

As with anything, I suppose it varies depending on your family and friends.

For the people who just randomly eat things from the fridge/cupboard without prior discussion with the other people who cook regarding what meals are planned and when...

How do you EVER cook a fucking meal if every time you go to the fridge there's a really good chance the items you want are not all there?

@OperationGoldDawn i would have eaten the bloody cake for breakfast.

It matters to you - it doesn't matter to me. Maybe it doesn't matter to OP's husband and he didn't know. OP needs to communicate.

Shitty reply, what's wrong with you?!

So the OP needs to explicitly state to you she told her DH she wanted some for breakfast for you to understand it's very likely he did bloody know? She needs a transcript of the whole week's conversation for anyone to even consider he was being a selfish prick?

I’m not pregnant, I’d be bloody fuming too OP.

I'd be miffed!

I have chickens - lovely free range, delicious eggs, I'd be happy to send you some if I could!

She's 'uptight' (misogynistic) because she's preganant and her mum just died.

Well yes. If she specifically wants those eggs for breakfast (a week after she bought them) then she should say.

To me, eggs are eggs. It doesn't make any difference where they came from, they're still just eggs. I don't get the concept of 'special eggs'. I would have done the same as OP's husband if she hadn't made it clear that they were special.

If I bought eggs from a farm shop it would be more about animal welfare than any special taste. They'd still just be eggs to use in whatever needed eggs.

I understand. We go to the farm shop for double yolkers as a "treat' for me because I usually chuck the yolks. Id be upset tbf and I'm not pregnant.

Send him back to the farm.

I'm referring to your staunch belief she hasn't communicated to her husband as she hasn't stated it in her posts on here. You have no idea if she has let him know she wanted some of the eggs, but seem convinced that's not the case as she hasn't posted telling us so.