DH booked a trip for him for my birthday

[MrsDurrells]

DH asked what I’d like for my birthday (last weekend), I clearly said no trips as I end up doing all the packing, planning, unpacking washing etc.
Hes booked us glamping, leaving after school today. All week I’ve reminded him I’m not packing, meal planning, shopping etc and guess what-he’s done a bit of a shop but no meal plans (eg we have bacon, broccoli and cookies?), there’s 3 kids to pack for still and the weather is set to be hot, cold, sunny, and rainy so all weathers really, and he’s not packed a thing yet!

Part of me says don’t help but another part of me knows it’s me and the kids that will suffer because frankly, we’ve experienced similar before! He is so unprepared about most things in life as he knows I always step in and sort it and he openly says he thinks I’m a perfectionist (I’m not I just like to be prepared and have saved his arse so many times!) It’s exhausting. It’s more a jolly for him than me isn’t it?

Low bar?
Hardly.
Couldn't find that bar with the help of a well digger.
😂

A low bar is staying with a cheat or abuser! Letting the small things go in a presumably happy marriage is definitely no a low bar
And still they come.
Small things are the toilet seat up, not loading the dishwasher properly, not totally ignoring his wife when she says 'NO'.

You know....
Hundred small things killed a donkey...

What planet are you actually on? He did nothing of the sort! Thoughtful my arse!!

Well that's good!

I agree with a PP that it might be fondly remembered in the future as the trip that Dad organised & the making do because X,Y,Z had been forgotten was great fun.

Don't forget he also needs to do the unpacking & laundry when you get back!

Are you the husband by any chance, or just a wife who, because you do it, thinks every other wife should do all the work with zero support?

This is the only way he'll learn.

aneNo · Today 16:54
People get so overly invested in an anonymous forum don't they. You would think they have no life of their own to worry about 😅😅😅

And here you are commenting, and actually taking the time to think up bollocks and wind people up

Don't forget it's your weekend treat, so when you get there the only thing you need to do is put the kettle on or opening the wine, having a potter around site (it takes a long time to go to the toilet sometimes!) and watching him unpack. If it's the wine option, then you won't be able to drive when he's forgotten essentials for evening meal!!!

Seriously though, have a great weekend - you've got the weather for it.

Are you my MiL?

@NC10125 bacon and pears 😂

Guessing they took the bus as they’re still waiting for the Bugattis Andrew Tate promised them.

I hope you packed yourself a bottle of wine so you can sit having a drink whilst he sets everything up!

THIS. Dont lift a finger- you said no, he did it anyway so its all on him.

If you cave now, he will never ever learn.

Reminds me of my husband booking me a 'surprise' trip to his home town to go to his shit local festival with his mates and get wasted. He didn't even pay for it, he used my card.

Yeah cheers mate.

OP’s husband might be single sometime soon after this and on the market for an accommodating… woman.

Don't wrestle the pigs, folks. You get covered in shit and the pig likes it.

Based on your singular experience of your mother?

I find it more like shooting fish in a barrel.

twinkleshite · Today 15:09
I'd just pack. Having a break away sounds ace! I normally happily organise the kids stuff and food. He does his own clothes. It's a non issue

Read the room on this 'non-issue'
She did not want a trip. She said she didn't want a trip. She gave reasons why she didn't want a trip
She got a trip. 'ACE'.

'Put up and shut up, woman, of course you want a trip'. That is unfortunately the attitude of some of the women on here.
We are doomed.

I find it more like shooting fish in a barrel.

Not worth the ammo, tbh.

The mind boggles.

Hey, this is weird, I don't remember planning this camping trip but it sounds so much like the sort of thing I would do. Try to be nice and it all completely backfires because I'm a bloke with a simple mind that only thinks for the immediate moment and am incapable of planning anything further than that.
I hope the weekend is actually a fun time and you get some good family and couple time together, he's not meaning to be unkind and would be mortified to think you've written on this forum.
Us blokes are genuinely dumb, you girls are fantastic (and complex). Couldn't last a moment without you. Yet for you if you had to choose between a car or a bloke would go for the car because it's more useful and you couldn't manage without it. X

Assuming you're not in the back of beyond, leave it all to him. He'll figure it out and have to shop for whatever you haven't got. Pack a few bottles of wine! If it's glamping there may be a shop or even a restaurant/bar on site. Let him do it his way for once it may be fun not being totally prepared, and relax.

Edit: You may laugh about it for years to come.