DH booked a trip for him for my birthday

[MrsDurrells]

DH asked what I’d like for my birthday (last weekend), I clearly said no trips as I end up doing all the packing, planning, unpacking washing etc.
Hes booked us glamping, leaving after school today. All week I’ve reminded him I’m not packing, meal planning, shopping etc and guess what-he’s done a bit of a shop but no meal plans (eg we have bacon, broccoli and cookies?), there’s 3 kids to pack for still and the weather is set to be hot, cold, sunny, and rainy so all weathers really, and he’s not packed a thing yet!

Part of me says don’t help but another part of me knows it’s me and the kids that will suffer because frankly, we’ve experienced similar before! He is so unprepared about most things in life as he knows I always step in and sort it and he openly says he thinks I’m a perfectionist (I’m not I just like to be prepared and have saved his arse so many times!) It’s exhausting. It’s more a jolly for him than me isn’t it?

Bleugh. Time to step up a gear then, buddy. Don't try blowing smoke up women's asses, try matching our capabilities.
There is nothing 'nice' about giving someone a present they very pro-actively said they don't want. At best it says I think I know best or I didn't bother listening at worst it says I don't give a shit about you and what you want. None of those scenarios makes it a 'nice' present.

Yes you are.

I will never understand people like this

I wouldn't have agreed to go in the first place

Lol, I was expecting a bit of snowflakeism tbh.

Let him go glamping with 3 kids and you stay at home enjoying a house to yourself!

Here for the updates, however I suspect most of the thread will now be taken up with posts from people who have just read the opening post and are not aware the OP is probably half way to the glamping site by now, with whatever DP decided to pack (or.. not).

Glad the cats are being looked after.

You should have said no.

We don’t do camping / glamping as I know it will fall to me to sort. Please do stick to your guns while you’re away and let him address any problem 100% himself.

completely echo the poster who said some men think going on holiday means holding their passport through passport control. The week before May half term someone at a party asked dh where we were going to on holiday. He couldn’t name the country we were going to, much less the resort. All the other men thought it was hilarious, me, not so much.

I think if I'd expressly told my husband that I did not want to go on a trip for my birthday, and he planned one anyway, I wouldn't go.

He thought about it and did it anyway?

Oh this is ridiculous!

I hope you're not actually the 12 year old boy you sound like.

Do you manage to hold down a job?

How?

Lol, I run a couple of businesses, and employ a few. But I'll delete my post now because I see it offends a few wet behind the ears that don't accept true life.

You might want to take on board what the grownups are saying

You clearly think you're being funny but I wonder whether your wife thinks you are

Oh, and less of the 'wet behind the ears' comments Sonny Jim.

I'd be mortified if you were a son of mine with an attitude like this

You can't delete your own posts and fortunately there are plenty of men who would be embarrassed to be as incompetent and unthinking as you

‘I’ve booked us a trip that is in a place you don’t want to visit and it doesn’t have all the facilities like a private bathroom or electricity that we have at home. Even though you clearly said no trips, I booked it anyway because I don’t care about what you want’

What kind of shit birthday present is that? I would have refused to go.

Lol, I run a couple of businesses, and employ a few. But I'll delete my post now because I see it offends a few wet behind the ears that don't accept true life.

Unfortunately men playing dumb and doing exactly as they wish, whilst dumping on their wives is true life. We reserve the right to be offended by it and reject it.

You don't run a couple of businesses and employ a few. Guess how I know?

OH MY GOD IT"S HIS WIFE

'OH MY GOD IT"S HIS WIFE'

No, mine's cute.

I thought we were 'fantastic (and complex)'. Is that just until any of us disagree with you?

Well you're probably on the way now so I would relax and have a good time making clear it's your birthday treat, which means not preparing meals etc and sitting there with a nice glass of wine while DH plays with the kids. I wouldn't mind it tbh and it sounds as though he tried to get it together, apart from obviously ignoring your initial request!

send him glamping with DC and you have a weekend at home alone - perfect!

He caused a mess.
UGH.
Lots of deleted comments and rage, I see.
Hopefully, the OP will be able to enjoy herself and put her feet up....at least for good couple of hours.
The bloody "glamping" for her birthday got me.
Young children as well.
I'm not sure how I would approach the situation from here, no such experience, no love for "glamping", no kids.
(And I sometimes pack for my husband,
for many reasons, his age being one).
The kids probably gonna like it.
What difference it would make
if this damn husband listened to the OP.

Ugh. Do any real women fall for this ‘we are so useless…’ bollocks? Yeah, not useless when it comes to stuff you actually want to do, or paid (more than women) to do are you?

But donkey work and domestic slavery you’ll happily sit back and leave it to us ‘fantastic girls’. This whole post is misogyny hidden behind a charming tousled-hair man-boy persona. Utterly cuntish.

I would rather go thru labor again then this trip. At least the hospital has ac.

Let him take the kids away for the weekend and you spend your birthday doing what you would prefer to do.
You'll probably get lumbered with the laundry when they return but at least you have a couple of days to yourself.