To stalk a stranger in A&E

[TheRozzers]

Witnessed a nasty accident today. An elderly lady had a fall in the street and was bleeding badly. I was coming back from the gym and had a towel with me so used it to help stem the bleeding and stayed with her until the paramedics arrived. Others helped too.

We were talking to her and trying to reassure her as she was very distressed and in a lot of pain. I'm pretty sure she's broken a bone.

I asked if there was anyone we could call. Partner, children, friends. She said she had nobody.

I can't stop wondering how she is, she's probably in the hospital A&E corridor and will be for the next week knowing the state of the NHS.

I have tried to call the hospital to enquire after her but no answer.

Would it be really weird and stalker like to go to the hospital and check up on her? Maybe take her something to eat and drink? I know her full name and date of birth so assume I could track her down?

Or would that be an invasion of her privacy?

It's also quite late now.

I hope you track her down OP. What a lovely kind gesture. I hope she's OK too.

I have come across an older lady in an accident , air ambulance was called (due to location tlratger than severity though broken bones were involved). She also said she didn't have anyone to call, when in fact she had 3 sons, a daughter in law etc. She wasn't even that old (60s) .

Thinking that it's weird is weird.
Yes OP, it's very kind of you.

I think that would be a lovely thing to do and if she has no one I'm sure she would appreciate it. If she isn't keen you don't have to stay, but I'm sure she would think it very thoughtful

In fairness the thread title does start with "to stalk a stranger", it kinda sets the tone!

That's a big assumption. She will get basic care in hospital but not company. Why do you think she won't remember the OP?

You're so kind, OP. I really hope they let you see her or at least pass along your care package to her. It breaks my heart to think of older people who have nobody.

I've never been asked who I am when visiting anyone on the ward. I went to see a friend who was barely conscious and was just asked to wear a mask.

It's a lovely gesture OP, if l was on my own l would definitely appreciate someone talking the trouble to purchase all these items and visit me. You are a lovely person.

I hope you’ve found her op. We never know how things will turn out, but you’ve been thoughtful and caring and I don’t think that’s ever a bad thing. If you find her, respecting her wishes will be important, but judging by your tone, it seems like you know that. Best of luck and I hope she’s okay.

I hope you find her well, this is so heart warming 🥰

Being alone and vulnerable must be horrendous. You’ll feel like a breath of fresh air to her I’m sure. Kindness goes a long way. You’re not a stalker so don’t worry about it. X

I did this once.
Very bad accident , the man had fallen down the stairs in a holiday home

I phone the next day and the head nurse was so nice, and I didn't even know a name.

I had a heart attack episode a couple of years ago & the Taxi driver who brought me to the A&E (I didn't have cash & he didn't have a working card machine) so we swapped numbers so I could pay him in due course, he texted me every day asking me if I was still alive, he was like a dad. so I would absolutely do this

I would go but not necessarily expect to get to see her. Can you take a card and include your phone number or something? That way she gets a touching note from you knowing you care but also leaves it in her hands as to what to do next.

I think that's very thoughtful of you. If she has no one she will most probably be very pleased to see you. If she isn't you can leave, no harm done.

You’re a good person Op, if there were more people like you the World would be a wonderful place.

this has made me tear up. Hope she's ok.

Oh op that's lovely of you, it will be awful for her having nobody ........I still think of a lady I was in hospital witha couple of years ago whose adult children lived away, she had nobody to do her washing for her and the nurses were fucking horrible to her about it as she had to wear their hospital gowns.......if you could cobble together some cheap nighties and underwear, even if they're from a charity shop it will probably make a huge difference to her.

What a kind and generous person you are OP.

Op you are lovely

I think it would be very kind, and it sounds as though the poor woman would have appreciated it. I've not finished the thread yet so I don't know whether you went, but I hope you did. Your instincts were good and kind

I've written my phone number in the card and said she is welcome to contact me if she needs anything else.

❤️

You're putting us all to shame OP. What a lovely person you are. Especially as you sound busy with your own family too.

Op you are lovely. The ratio in here is v clear - most of us absolutely think this is a kind and thoughtful thing to do.

What a thoughtful gesture. I hope you find her!