To stalk a stranger in A&E

[TheRozzers]

Witnessed a nasty accident today. An elderly lady had a fall in the street and was bleeding badly. I was coming back from the gym and had a towel with me so used it to help stem the bleeding and stayed with her until the paramedics arrived. Others helped too.

We were talking to her and trying to reassure her as she was very distressed and in a lot of pain. I'm pretty sure she's broken a bone.

I asked if there was anyone we could call. Partner, children, friends. She said she had nobody.

I can't stop wondering how she is, she's probably in the hospital A&E corridor and will be for the next week knowing the state of the NHS.

I have tried to call the hospital to enquire after her but no answer.

Would it be really weird and stalker like to go to the hospital and check up on her? Maybe take her something to eat and drink? I know her full name and date of birth so assume I could track her down?

Or would that be an invasion of her privacy?

It's also quite late now.

This is so lovely. Please keep us updated. You're very kind!

Faith in humanity restored!

Quick question, should I go to A&E first as that's where she will have been taken yesterday or should I go to the main reception?

This is so lovely, if everyone care for the elderly so much, there would never ever be a lonely old person ever again.

My job is based around the elderly and so many are alone is breaks my heart.

Thank you for being so kind, I really hope you find her.

Oh at least she will get the care she needs in hospital. Please don't worry about her. It's almost certain to confuse her as she won't know who you are.

Yes, just ask at the front desk if she’s still the department or if she’s been moved yet.

Aww how lovely OP

It’s a lovely gesture but the staff probably won’t be able to give you any info - you could take a get well soon card if you have her full name - write your info / number in the card saying you’d like to make sure they’re ok they or a relative might give you a call

A&E. just simply say you are there to see X who was brought in at X time.

Very kind - many people old and young are being left hours without water or food or toileting - we know as our dear old Dad was lying on a trolley 8 hours last week - thank goodness we were there but many people had no one 🤔💔

That is really kind and thoughtful of you.
Hope you find her and that's she's doing ok.

Ah, I'm a nurse and I think this is a lovely lovely thing to do. I hope you manage to track her down.

Out of interest would you let a complete stranger on the ward where the lady is, given these circumstances?

Do you have her name?

I think it's a kind and thoughtful idea.

What a lovely thing to do

That’s a lovely thing to do, I’d appreciate the kindness.

it's an interesting question. I'm guessing a female stranger going to see an elderly woman would have a better chance of being let in than a middle aged male stranger checking in on a young woman.

it's lovely what the op is doing, but she should be prepared for the woman to turn her away.

What a grim attitude.
SMH

Don’t say you’re a stranger just say a family friend. I hope you find her. That’s so sweet of you it’s made my night 😍

My experience of that generation is often they don't want their relatives "bothered" so will play down how many people they have around them. Normally their relatives are very relieved to have been contacted and thankful you did, but the injured person themselves will be saying "they don't want to be bothered with me, don't tell them."

You may find she has a loving family round her.

You're being so lovely! Bless the poor lady for not having anyone, and you too for being so kind- I hope she's ok

The feelings you are having are perfectly normal. I had a similar experience last year involving an elderly gentleman who fell in the street outside the grocery store. We helped him inside the store and I called emergency services while one of the store clerks cleaned up his bloody face. I got his details and he explained that he knew the procedure from being a veteran fire fighter. He was obviously stunned and a little out of it. It took me a few weeks to stop wondering how we was doing. I would watch for him when I went to that store. But, I think you did what you did out of kindness and now it's time to let go. Thank you for being a kind human being.

I think this is a truly lovely thing to do, and I hope that you manage to find her.

I would think anyone would be very touched by your kindness. I just wish there were more people around like you xx

Aww, this is such a sad thread. The thought of old, lonely, vulnerable people being on their own at a time like that is awful.

OP you sound absolutely lovely and I really hope you manage to track the poor lady down x