To think this is inappropriate for teachers

[irishchick93]

Hi. My sons classmates parents are having all the teachers around to the house for end of year dinner. I'm a bit miffed as to why. Maybe it's me but I think it's not very appropriate?

Very true but I’d have assumed that the head or whoever would have made sure a good friends child was in a different class. One of my best friends is a primary teacher and they aren’t to accept friend requests from parents. (Obviously if they are friends before hand that’s different and they can’t be expected to lose a film established friendship)

It depends. We live in a small rural farming community where families have been here for generations. DS's class teacher's DD is in his class, the teacher's DS is in my DD's class. Another teacher's DD is in year 6. Several of the parents went to school with the class teacher and the reception class teacher is godparent to one of the children in her class who is the daughter of the local GP, so everyone knows everyone (complicated, huh?). DS's teacher also teaches part-time as she has a 1 year old too, so we also see her socially at pick-up and chat in the playground on the days she doesn't work, which was very weird initially. We are blow ins and I found it quite difficult to rationalise when we first moved here, but it's just the way it is. I've accepted that no matter how friendly people are, I can't match the inter-generational family ties through the school, so I don't get hung up when they do things together socially.

I wasn’t talking about the invite for dinner or to her house. I was specifically referring to being the teacher of a good friends child!

Very strange….

I’ve just realised that it was one of your posts I was replying to not the OP’s post. I knew I’d seen it somewhere a form teacher was involved 😂

What kind of a school is it @irishchick93 ?

Private ?
State ?
Tiny rural school on a Scottish Isle with only 3 classes and 4 teachers ?

chances of op answering this or indeed any of the questions in the thread? zero!

Be fair, she might not have decided yet.

Be fair, she might not have decided yet.

That's really weird. Just thinking about knowing my DC's teachers on anything other than a Teacher:Parent level, makes me cringe. Sometimes you need those professional boundaries.

Imagine if you had a disagreement as friends? If that teacher perhaps isn't as professional as you'd hope, then there's the potential for their DC to suffer as a result. Nope, no way.

OP, these parents just sound like they have some friends who happen to teach in schools. Nothing more than that I'm afraid. I suspect you may be getting the wrong end of the stick. Some of my friends happen to have children who go to my school, some of my friends happen to teach at DC's school.

Exactly this. Because of where we were living and working, the school was also a large part of the social life of our family, almost everyone who walked through our door was a teacher at the children's school. They, the children, learned that after 3.30pm it was first names all round until next day at school!

They could have any number of connections outside school. Perhaps they are all in the same clubs/live in the same street. I live next to a TA in my son’s school. We see each other socially, not because of the school connection just because we live in the same street and have children the same age. In school my son has to call her “Mrs x” outside he’s allowed to use her first name.

I will add to that she’s brilliant at confidentiality and she doesn’t talk
about other peoples kids. Tbh it’s the last thing she wants to speak about.

Lastly she’s never going to rock up at a parents house she doesn’t know. Cringe. She’s only going if there’s a deeper connection.

Surprised the teachers are going, definitely inappropriate

It depends. I should think if they aren’t friends outside of school it could be awkward.

She means ‘why?’ - seems obvious to me.

Sounds like she may have an integral role as part of the school, good friends, parent governor? If they want to go they can, if they don't they won't. If a case of a parent being extra friendly, same goes, which isn't normal, but hey. Xx

Seems a bit weird. Overkill. OTT.

Why is this funny?

This isn't the same as one of the parents inviting all the governors and all the teaching staff.

I have personal friendships with a TA and a teacher at my sons' old primary school (small village). It's not the same thing as what the OP's describing at all.