To think this is inappropriate for teachers

[irishchick93]

Hi. My sons classmates parents are having all the teachers around to the house for end of year dinner. I'm a bit miffed as to why. Maybe it's me but I think it's not very appropriate?

Miffed mean Put Out. Annoying. Irked.

Why would you be annoyed by another parent inviting teachers for dinner? What business is it of yours whom they invite to their house?

When mine were very young they would stand by the kitchen window and as the teachers' cars pulled up it was 'You get the sherry out, I'll open the door'! Teachers can have friends you'd be surprised to hear!

If they know each other in some capacity other than as the parents/teachers of a pupil I'd say it's no issue. If the parent only knows them as he DC's teachers and has decided to host a dinner for them it's a bit weird and I imagine the teachers will feel awkward about it and not really want to go.

Maybe they're on the board of governors?

If it really is all the teachers and only the teachers I don't find it very professional.

YABU for the misuse of the word miffed.

How many teachers are we talking about?

Onlookers would probably think the parents are trying to cosy up to the teachers imho

That sounds odd to me, unless the parents are teachers themselves

Teachers can have friends you'd be surprised to hear!

Yes of course they can. The OP has not given any indication that the parent is friends with these teachers though.

Having several lovely friends who are teachers (I'm not a teacher), I'd say rather than feeling 'miffed', feel glad it's not YOUR house hosting an end-of-year gathering for them.

Teachers are absolute hooners come the end of the school year and, by christ, they can tear it up! 😂

OP, either the Mum told you about this - in which case you're friendly enough to ask why, or you've heard it 2nd hand and haven't got the facts.

This used to happen a lot at my dd's old school and there was a lot of favouritism. I think it's unprofessional unless you were friends prior to the child starting school.

Gosh, you really should put us (teachers) in a cupboard for the summer and then get someone to dust us off again in September.

In all seriousness though, no teacher I know would ever want to socialise with parents unless there is a friendship there. Ergo, they are probably friends in some capacity, even if you didn’t realise it.

I'm not sure about everyone trying to say it's fine if they're friends. Of course it would be, but how can one parent be friends with all the teachers?

I suspect OP, you don't really know what has been arranged.

If it is a parent offering to host the end of year bash for staff, I'm surprised the school or staff has gone with that, but I bet it's not.

What's inappropriate? Your OP sounds ridiculous.

The school year is finished, and your 5 year old won't be left out by a teacher because they met someone else for diner.

I am amazed that ALL the teachers accepted the invitation, they are the ones who can't relax!

Yes, I worked in the City for 20 years and thought I'd seen it all re hard partying....until the first Christmas I worked in school!

One of my parents work in a school, my children go to that school, I have had meals, drinks and days out with their teachers due to this, they are just people, they can have friendships too, just as you can separate work and personal life, so can most teachers.

A block invitation to all the teachers (but not TAs or other staff)? If it's true, it's bloody weird in my experience as a teacher and parent.
As a teacher I would have declined.
Individual friendships formed outside the school environment are completely different.

I remember going to the pub with my sister one day and asking for a bottle of Prosecco, only to be told, “Sorry, we’re all out, the teachers were in last night.” 😂😂

You don't know - or are not telling us - the whole story. One of the parents may have worked at the school, or know many of the teachers through some other way.

My DS went to a small independent school and friendships between staff and parents for various reasons weren't unusual, and parents who were very involved in a particular activity would often have parties for choirs/sports teams (including staff) at the end of the year.

I don't think it's inappropriate and you just sound a bit envious.

Perhaps one of the hosting parents is a former employees of that school -because that happened with my sil, she moved jobs when her youngest was two so well before starting school, but he went to her former school, as she isn't a fan of having her children in same school as she worked, and it was where his sibling was, plus just up road from their house, they often had xmas, bbq get togethers at theirs, as they could park cars at school overnight and walk

Miffed doesn't mean what you seem to think. Unless you're actually annoyed that this is happening.

I'd suggest bemused, but that might create its own complications...

I just don't see how it affects you or has anything to do with you.

But people socialising isn't inappropriate just because they do a job you know them for.

OK thanks for replies. No connection to school as older boy only moved into my older daughters class last year from another country.

The son said to my son at pickup yesterday "the teachers are all coming to my house" and the teacher replied " ssh you're not supposed to be telling people " thought this was very inappropriate.