To think this is inappropriate for teachers

[irishchick93]

Hi. My sons classmates parents are having all the teachers around to the house for end of year dinner. I'm a bit miffed as to why. Maybe it's me but I think it's not very appropriate?

The son said to my son at pickup yesterday "the teachers are all coming to my house"

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I can’t imagine any teacher actually wanting to do this, unless they were genuinely friends.

Teachers are absolute hooners come the end of the school year and, by christ, they can tear it up! 😂

Not in any schools I've worked in for the last decade, out in the countryside. But when I was teaching in London in my 20s and early 30s... jeez! It was absolute carnage (both at the Christmas do and the summer one)!

So your problem is that you don't know why?

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I think it blurs tge lines way too much and is actually a safeguarding risk for early years teachers

Probably knows them already or invited them round to discuss the fete or something. Who cares? Why are you miffed? Do you think they are hoping a chicken casserole and a glass of wine might get little Johnny a lead role in the next class assembly?

I worked at at a school and this is very inappropriate. Unless they knew them all personally before the child started at the school.

Your update really sounds like it’s a wind up and the little boy made it up.

Like when the children at my school invite me to their birthday parties. Every grown up knows it’s not real.

Then you don't know what a safeguarding risk really is.

If it's someone moved from another country it may be a quite ordinary thing to invite teachers for a meal to thank them.

And it sounds much better than the 'random' presents teachers get usually. but I remember one mum arriving with a huge bouquet of flowers for one of my DDs teachers, made me feel a bit inadequate present wise.

I was my daughter’s head and hosted two parties for the whole team and their families each year. Some also had children at the school.

Everyone had a great time and were well behaved.

who knows how these children communicated it to other children?

When we have had the whole class over for parties with families they have been absolutely carnage.

We have this at our school. Half the teaching staff went to school with the mums and some are even related to kids in the school. There is blatent favouritism, those children are the ones picked to be ambassadors and for special trips etc. but what can you do? Gets them ready for the workplace I suppose.

I agree, think it blurs the lines, OP. Would the teachers be able to remain objective if there was an issue regarding the child?

No where in that was "dinner party" mentioned. So you are just making up the details. I guess its better you assumed dinner party then orgy.

Wow talk about making their mark..

As a teacher, I only go round to dinner with friends. Therefore, if a random parent of one of the kids in my class invited me to a dinner party I would politely decline. Why would I want to go to dinner with someone I don't know?

I imagine this is the same here. Those who are friends with the parents because they know them from out of school may well go to dinner.

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No. I also heard from a teacher that happens to be a friend of mine who is going.

Sure you did 😂

Would it be less inappropriate if you'd been invited as well op?

So what's the actual story then?

So a 5yr old said it. Sometimes kids say stuff to teachers and teachers play along because they know it's play and not real.

So, do you actually know if this is real and that all teachers really are going round for dinner?

I think there is a safeguarding problem there, actually.

Anyone who's done safeguarding training knows you don't ask children to keep secrets.I know she was joking, but misjudged IMO.

Whether the party is actually happening the way OP thinks is another thing.

Sounds a bit odd