..to expect my 15 year old son NOT to be wanking in front of MY computer in MY living room in the middle of the day when I walk in the front door with his younger siblings???!

[BloodyHell]

Before you all say it's healthy.. it's normal... I know, I KNOW! But it is NOT healthy or normal to have to wonder now what DD (9) is thinking and how the hell to broach the subject with her!!

Fortunately DS (7) has SN was oblivious but DD at the very least, saw him sat there with his jeans round his ankles! We all did! He didn't even make any move to pull them up, I suppose he would have had to expose himself in the process. He jsut said "sorry.. sorry" and waited for me to leave the room so he could run upstairs!

It would have been much easier to have just daughters I swear. Why the HELL couldn't he go and have a wank on his bed! He KNEW we were due back at some point in the afternoon!

Obviously he is appalled and humiliated but as far as I can see he's brought this on himself. This is not the first time I've caught him red-handed; last time it was late at night on the sofa, whilst watching the "free ads" on the porn channels on the telly. On that occasion I said would you PLEASE not wank in my living room!! And certainly not when we're all walking around upstairs still having only just gone up! I was looking for HIS clothes he'd requested for the morning on that occasion.. like a sucker, while he played with it downstairs!

I have just been and shouted at him (rightly or wrongly; I'm angry, that gibes me a right I feel) that I don't want him to use MY WORK COMPUTER for that, even though it is a family computer in all other respects which is fine. But I really DON'T want that on the hard drive. And why the hell do men HAVE to so recklessly take advantage of the oh-so-freely available visual stuff.. can't they just use their imaginations??! (I shouted that at him too!)

I am shuddering that his bare arse has been on this very chair, and his (topically from a thread last night!) "penisy hands" been all over THIS mouse!

Ugh ugh ugh.

He needs to wank.. fine, but I don't see why I should have to keep catching him doing it!! I don't want it to be any of MY buisness but it seems I keep having to be "involved"! And I am SO cross that his younger siblings who are too young (perhaps thankfully) to know what he was doing, had to see him sat there like that!

Bloody men and boys.

blimey 'too much time on his hands' - teenagers days are FILLED with exhaustin wanking schedules, there is no time for chores

I don't think threatening him with the sex offenders register is going to be a very constructive approach

Maybe it's also a sign that he needs more adult supervision.

MP - you don't think letting him know the law is constructive? Ignorance of the law is no defence, I understand.

As someone who was once a teenage boy ...

He saw the opportunity to quickly crack one out. He is a teenage boy - his mind does not work like normal people's - so he did so. In three years' time it will never occur to him to do this in your living room in the middle of the day. But at 15 the drawbacks didn't occur to him. I guarantee you he is more horrified than you. Absolutely guarantee it. Do not taunt him about it - one conversation is quite enough - or he will hold it against you (so to speak).

When I was that age, I was once caught doing the same thing by my great Aunt. It was midnight and everyone was in bed, but she got up for a glass of water and I was in the living room. We both pretended I was not wanking, that it was perfectly normal to be sitting on the sofa with my erect penis out.

Lol, Allfalldown, although you probably didn't think it was so funny at the time!

Having the read the OP again I now realise that the teenager was alone when he started, and (however stupidly) didn't realise he was going to be interrupted.

Missed this. @ some of the earlier 'off the cuff' comments.

FWIW BloodyHell I'm with you all the way. I have two boys (19 & 16) and the train of thought that I shouldn't admonish them for wanking in the living room floors me actually. Bless their cotton socks; they'll be damaged for life They share a room too and will do 'til they leave - it's no feckin excuse for disrespected you.

Am nodding at all MB's posts.

Sharing a room is a bit of a red herring on this occasion though isn't because the room mate was out with BloodyHell...

Agreed. If he had to do it (and I'm sorry I don't get this 'his mind doesn't work like normal people's'- he's not 12 - at 15 he should have learned a tad more control) he should have done it upstairs where he'd have had an extra couple of minutes to stash it away.

or in the bathroom?
or under the covers?
but, it sounds very plausible that he just saw the opportunity to whack one out- after all, it probably doesn't take long when you're that old!
I have been really surprised at some of the negative feedback on this thread, though. A lot of tongue in cheek amusing comments being taken very seriously. This issue surely is not something a mum to boys is supposed to look forward to? Like a father to daughters really dreads her bringing home her first boyfriend, it is surely something that we imagine is going to be difficult and require careful handling and therefore worthy of a little trepidation?

I'm absolutely dying with laughter at MB pointing out that 'he doesn't have his own room' is an illogical excuse for wanking in a public room.

"Sorry mum, I haven't got my own room, so I was compelled by the lack of privacy to... erm... forget about privacy altogether..."

And seriously , the comments on the thread about things-to-say-to-the-cashier-about-your-son's-masturbation-habits were jokes, not instructions to genuinely wander about humiliating teenage boys. Like they need any help when they're capable of being twatty enough to wank in the living room in the middle of the day.

I was lauighing the other day at my 1 year-old's face when he discovered his penis for the first time during a nappy change. I told there were literally years of fun ahead.

But I don't ever, ever want to see it, ta very much.

[repressed]

told him, obviously.

Re Xenias comment about people having 'hang -ups about natural things'

No, sorry, that it is a total red herring. Having a crap is perfectly normal, but I'll be rather annoyed if a NT 15 year old started shitting in the living room.

Likewise eating is a normal biological function, but i don't eat on the toilet either.

There are times and places for all these natural bodily functions.

I went shopping this morning and didn't see a single person wanking on the roadside.....it would seem that people accept that this is more of a private function.

This thread is still going? Wow!

BloodyHell, my XP shared a room with his twin brother until he was 18 and left home, and somehow he coped with the 'lack of privacy'. And he was apracticed wanker .

Anyway, what's wrong with using the bathroom? Or going upstairs to his bedroom while he has some time alone?

I understand that his timing and the place was probably not the best decision he's ever made but my God, have none of you ever wanked in a public place before???

I don't know about you guys but when I was a teenager, anywhere any place, nowhere was out of bounds! Of course I look back and cringe now but I'm sure the op's ds will too! It's completely normal to cease the oportunity at this age!

I'm not saying we shouldn't tell teenagers off for doing bad stuff but in my opinion it's not 'bad' what he did. Perhaps slightly inappropriate given that your younger dcs were around but he really won't have had time to weigh up the pros and cons. Lads tend to whack it out whenever, wherever at that age. And from my experiences and memories, girls aren't much better!

I wouldn't mention it again unless you have a really strong relationship where you could perhaps bring it up in a jokey sense (but not to humilliate him!) like I did with my brother when I caught him at it! Just means that you can perhaps talk about it without 'telling him off' if you see what I mean?

Morning Bloody, I hope today brings fewer surprises!

Your post at 21.05 ish was very good. The wanking is a red herring that is making some people judge you.

You wouldn't do a poo in the sitting room, but it's fine and normal in the bathroom. So the issue is that he needs to take on board what's appropriate and think of the other people he's living with.

I think he will now!

PS I don't know who you are, but I'm sure I will recognise your excellent punctuation and your style of writing when I see it again. You always put italic the very same words I would stress too.

Hmmmm, little mystery.

Yes, excellent post MadameCh0let.

It's not the what is it? It's the where and when! And FGS, no-one is saying wanking is bad, it's completely normal and healthy, just have a bit more consideration for others! He's fifteen, not five.

I'm a bit baffled people don't get this TBH.

Janos, me too.

I have a robust attitude to bodily functions. I do get fed up of telling teenage boys to stop fiddling with themselves in classes.

I suppose that my saying 'Put your hands on the desk please' has scarred the little cherubs for life and I should be letting them fiddle away with impunity.

I teach quite a few where 'Hands on desks' is the norm, or they are busy playing pocket billiards....and trust me the lessons are not that stimulating!

I love that phrase, pocket billiards.

Surely everyone has done this when they were younger though? If people really believe it's normal and healthy why are they so bothered about where he does it. It's not like having a shit where obviously this would be disgusting and leave a mess. Also, there is a specific room for having a shit. If someone would provide him with a wanking room I'm sure he'd be fine! If he cleans up after his wank, I don't see the problem to be honest! Am I really on my own in thinking it's not that bad?

I have never masturbated in a public place.

He could have wanked in the bathroom!

Oh just me then! lol

I will forever read your name now as meandmy j-ooh-oh-oh-OH-OH-OH-OH