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Please can someone tell me if my dd is lying? iPhone question

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F0GGYCAT · 25/06/2024 07:51

She says she can't have find my iPhone turned on as she deleted it for storage, is that possible?

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CurlewKate · 25/06/2024 19:48

@Crispsarethebestfood I'm not being a dick. The only thing that might possibly happen is she sprains her ankle- and she can call home for help.

I don't think young people-particularly girls-should be conditioned to think being tracked is normal or desirable or will keep them safe. I think it's psychologically and potentially physically dangerous. And I think it's our job as parents to let our children do things that scare us.

beckybarefoot · 25/06/2024 19:51

Zanatdy · 25/06/2024 08:04

Tell her to delete something else or pay a small amount for extra storage. I think I pay 89p or something a month for more. If you want her to have it on, she deletes something or doesn’t go jogging

79p... i know this as when my now 26 year old was in school we paid for extra storage... and its never been cancelled... it makes me giggle every month! so nearly 10 years of extra storage and its all taken up by photos... i keep badgering her to download them.. but like with everything life gets in the way😂😂

beckybarefoot · 25/06/2024 19:53

it worries me the amound of parents of pre-adults insist on location apps for their phones. what has happened to good old trust?

these devices that have fall detection and crash detection are the bane of my life at work! we are forever chasing non existent happenings..

HappiestSleeping · 25/06/2024 20:01

beckybarefoot · 25/06/2024 19:53

it worries me the amound of parents of pre-adults insist on location apps for their phones. what has happened to good old trust?

these devices that have fall detection and crash detection are the bane of my life at work! we are forever chasing non existent happenings..

Quite. When I was young, 15 year olds could babysit. Now they need babysitters 🤦‍♂️

I managed these people when they hit the workplace, and they are totally unprepared for real life.

Zanatdy · 25/06/2024 20:03

beckybarefoot · 25/06/2024 19:53

it worries me the amound of parents of pre-adults insist on location apps for their phones. what has happened to good old trust?

these devices that have fall detection and crash detection are the bane of my life at work! we are forever chasing non existent happenings..

i don’t track my kids, but if my daughter (16) is going somewhere all day she will do an 8hr share on what’s app. But my kids are very sensible. If there had been issues I might feel differently. There’s still ways around these tracking apps, like leaving your phone at your friends if you’re saying that’s where you are and going off without a phone. So not foolproof

Crispsarethebestfood · 25/06/2024 20:07

CurlewKate · 25/06/2024 19:48

@Crispsarethebestfood I'm not being a dick. The only thing that might possibly happen is she sprains her ankle- and she can call home for help.

I don't think young people-particularly girls-should be conditioned to think being tracked is normal or desirable or will keep them safe. I think it's psychologically and potentially physically dangerous. And I think it's our job as parents to let our children do things that scare us.

The only thing that can possibly happen to her when she is out on her own at 6am (or any time) is that she can sprain her ankle?

The only thing? That can possibly happen?

Oh that’s all right then.

beckybarefoot · 25/06/2024 20:21

Crispsarethebestfood · 25/06/2024 20:07

The only thing that can possibly happen to her when she is out on her own at 6am (or any time) is that she can sprain her ankle?

The only thing? That can possibly happen?

Oh that’s all right then.

that and the fact that runners always find bodies

JanefromLondon1 · 25/06/2024 20:45

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HappiestSleeping · 25/06/2024 21:55

beckybarefoot · 25/06/2024 20:21

that and the fact that runners always find bodies

Nah, it's the dog walkers. Always.

alfagirl73 · 25/06/2024 21:56

I'm so glad smartphones and this type of thing wasn't around when I was in my mid/late teens! I was given a reasonable amount of independence at around 15/16 and while I wouldn't give chapter and verse, there WAS a generally mutual respectful dialogue where I'd tell my folks where/when/who with and when I planned to be back. Beyond that, there was trust. That communication continued and while over 18 I didn't have to say anything really, I did keep that mutually respectful communication going - at the very least giving some indiction of when I planned to be home (ie before/after midnight) out of courtesy.

But had there been this tracking lark then, I would have resisted it with everything I had - not because I was "up to something" but on principle. I never really did anything particularly controversial, but this "tracking people" tech gives me the creeps and would've changed the whole dynamic of my relationship with my folks.

Had it been "enforced" (a la "no tracker, no phone" or similar) then three things would've happened: 1) I'd have saved up every penny I got to get myself another private phone with the "tracked" phone becoming nothing more than a piece of plastic I would strategically take/put wherever I wanted to be "located" while I was actually no where near. 2) I'd have turned it around and driven my mum INSANE with it - constantly messaging and asking why she was in X place AND given a running commentary on where I was (including every time I went to the loo - EVERYTHING) - to where it would be stupidly boring for her - I'd comment on her every move too and if she complained I'd have responded with "but why is it a problem if you're not up to anything... I'm just checking you're safe. And you wanted to know my every move so I'm just giving you want you wanted". And finally 3) - and this is the most important one - that positive communication I had with my folks - would've been gone. I'd have made it a point to tell them bugger all - or at least fed them BS. I'd have lost that mutual respect with them and I'd have gone all out to make sure they had no idea where I was. Safer? Not so much.

I don't get the issue re the 6am jogging - it's not the middle of the night! I could understand the concern a bit more in the winter when it's pitch black and horrible then, but at the moment? I don't get the worry - I'm up at that time frequently and there are loads of people jogging at that time. It's a very common time for keen joggers to get out - either to get a run in before work or before it gets too warm/busy etc.... joggers and dog-walkers are often to be found at 6am round here (and in other places I've lived too).

I get you want her to be safe (although if I'm honest, I think you want to track her for more than just "keeping her safe"), but be careful it doesn't backfire.

Lilacapples · 25/06/2024 22:00

CurlewKate · 25/06/2024 15:57

@Lilacapples "You’re being ridiculous. Shes a child and could easily get attacked at that time of the morning or have an accident. I repeat she’s a child!"

It was you brought up Michael Mosley and the young man in Tenerife!

How many people of any age do you know who have been attacked or injured while jogging near their homes? And of them how many would have been helped by being tracked?

Eh? I never mentioned Michael Mosley or the young lad in Tenerife!

I don’t know any children that jog at 6am and I seriously doubt there are many. I also don’t know many adults that jog at 6am 🤷. I do have a child that was attacked in the park though and was kicked repeatedly in the face . The activity is irrelevant, being out alone at 6am is the issue here.

CurlewKate · 26/06/2024 03:57

@Lilacapples MANY apologies. It was @Conniebygaslight who said "Maybe the lad in Tenerife and Michael Mosely would've been found if they had a tracker on their phone"

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