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Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To ask if you’ve got 3 kids?

142 replies

Coconutsandpalmtree · 23/06/2024 17:33

How do you live? Ie how big is your home and what’s your set up?

how much do you earn gross and net monthly?

i know it’s super invasive but we’re all friends/ anonymous strangers here. My reason for asking was the fact I was absolutely slaughtered by some poster about my tiny tiddly 4 bed home by some posters on my other thread, so I’m genuinely wondering if I’m delulu for considering a 3rd

OP posts:
ToddlerIs2 · 23/06/2024 18:04

DH earns 30k and I get carers and UC top up. Three kids, three bed house, eldest in the box room. There may never be loads of space but that's life.

candyisdandybutliquorisquicker · 23/06/2024 18:05

Justwingingit2005 · 23/06/2024 17:58

Three dcs.
Large 3 bed house. 3 double size bedrooms.
Younger two share.
We have a low mortgage. I would like to move to a 4 bed but honestly nothing I've viewed has made me want to double my mortgage payments.
We prefer a nicer lifestyle.
Kids won't remember how big their house was but will remember travelling and seeing the world.

We have the same philosophy. We recently moved to a smaller house in a much better school district and don't regret it. All of the things I miss about the house, the kids don't notice. But they love our holidays!

OP - three kids in a detached four-bed house. Around 2,500 sq. feet.

questionningmyself · 23/06/2024 18:06

I have 3....single parent

"Small" 3 bed house - just the one bathroom which is a killer with 3 young children!

Boy/girl twins share
Eldest room on own

I would totally have had a 4th 😂

LewishamMumNow · 23/06/2024 18:07

I have 3 in 3 bed house. 2DDs share, and I share with baby DS. A very tiny room is spare single/study (I work from home a lot)/general mess room. Planning on moving somewhere bigger.
I earn c70k, but live in London, and am a single mum (all the time - no other money).

Summerfreezemakesmedrinkwine · 23/06/2024 18:07

3 kids in a 4 bed. Previously 3 kids in a 3 bed large terrace.

Honestly, you have to be quite strong headed to have three and be resilient to the kind of criticisms, most of which built on a bed of nothing, that come your way if you opt for a larger family.

Personally, I think having three kids is fantastic, full of adventure and joy. I wouldn't do it differently.

ExhaustedHousewife · 23/06/2024 18:08

Won't say income but 3 kids,4 bedrooms.I think the most important thing with children is a big garden! Chuck 'em out when you need some peace!.I have always prioritised a large garden.In fact,half the garden was a tennis court in the 1920's.
Edited to say 3 is wonderful, I felt like I really knew what I was doing by newborn number 3.

MalcolmTuckersSwearBox · 23/06/2024 18:08

3 children
5 bed detached house
household income of around £270- 500k (bonuses so variable) (UK).

kids adults now, only at home. Income lessened as we work less but answered based on when we had 3 children at home. I realise we are not the average family.

BiffandChip1 · 23/06/2024 18:09

We have 3! 2 bed house.

Boys together (4,3) and baby (10m) in with us. Room for full size cot.

Go for it 😍

BiffandChip1 · 23/06/2024 18:10

MalcolmTuckersSwearBox · 23/06/2024 18:08

3 children
5 bed detached house
household income of around £270- 500k (bonuses so variable) (UK).

kids adults now, only at home. Income lessened as we work less but answered based on when we had 3 children at home. I realise we are not the average family.

😯

DappledThings · 23/06/2024 18:11

2 children, 4 bedroom house. One of the many reasons that I didn't want a third is not wanting to give up our spare room (lots of family and friends far away who need a room often) and didn't want to make anyone share.

Tumbleweed101 · 23/06/2024 18:13

I had four children in a three bed house. They shared a room. I had a boy and three girls so I had to separate the biggest bedroom into two smaller bedrooms when the eldest boy and girl got to a certain age. Boy has long since moved out (mid 20s) but all three girls still live at home. Two share the separated room and one has the box room. I have the middle sized room. One toilet and bathroom in the property.

I'm on £24k and a single parent in a council property £550 a month. Been single 13 years now.

Small houses aren't ideal but a family can still function well enough. We have a big garden and if I earned enough i could easily add space with a garden office type set up.

bergamotvetiverthyme · 23/06/2024 18:14

I have 3 children all under 8yrs old.

Live in a 3 bed house and at the moment all kids share a room (their choice), husband and me in other double room, box room as spare room/dumping ground

Our house is very bottom heavy with a separate living room, separate dining room, kitchen/dining room/living area, utility room, and bathroom. So at the moment we don't really use upstairs apart from sleeping and bathroom.

Combined income of approximately £44k although it's only recently reached that as I've only just returned to work after being a sahm

PetulantPenguin · 23/06/2024 18:15

Four children at home, five bedroom house... Sort of. We have divided a room to make it two and sort of converted the loft space. All kids have their own space now, but it was originally three beds which meant DS was on his own and the three girls across two rooms. We slept in the living room then.

Knickerknack · 23/06/2024 18:17

Three children, youngest currently still in our room. Would like & planning at least one more child. Four bed house, no option to expand, not planning to move. High income family.

Loriclimbs · 23/06/2024 18:17

Hi, If you are the one that posted about the taylor wimpey monkford(?) house then I just wanted to let you know that my house is the same size with a different layout downstairs. Reading the comments upset me as to my mind my house is plenty big enough for us, including my three children.

We earn approx 75k combined so not ludicrous money and thus is the biggest house we could possibly afford in south east England. The biggest issue with three kids is the car! I had to upgrade mine to a 7 seater to fit three carseats in the back.

TheHopefulMum · 23/06/2024 18:18

I have 3. Single parent earning approx 30k without any UC top up. I receive no maintenance but do own my own home, a 4 bed house in what would be considered a very 'cheap' area to live I imagine.

Personally it is not the size of my home that I find difficult with 3 it is simply juggling it all alone, joys of being a single parent.

mydogisthebest · 23/06/2024 18:22

blarneebeekeeper · 23/06/2024 18:00

I have 3 in a 3 bed house, though they are older now. My boys shared and my daughter had the smallest room. My boys now refuse to share (19&17) so the 17 year old has a day bed downstairs in what was our dining room. Which ever son moves out first, the other gets the bedroom. Its not ideal, but everyone is happy with the set up currently and has their own space.

Not quite sure how your boys refuse to share a room.

Lucky that me and my 2 sisters didn't refuse to share as we lived in a 2 bed council house up until I moved out at 23

blarneebeekeeper · 23/06/2024 18:25

mydogisthebest · 23/06/2024 18:22

Not quite sure how your boys refuse to share a room.

Lucky that me and my 2 sisters didn't refuse to share as we lived in a 2 bed council house up until I moved out at 23

They refuse because they are both older with their own lives and interests, my eldest gets up early for work and wanted his long term girlfriend to stay, they came to me with a solution, i weighed it up and decided it worked for us, so we moved on son to the dining room for now. It works, both boys are now happy. Not sure why you have an issue with 1 adult and 1 nearly adult wanting their own space in their home....

WayDownThere · 23/06/2024 18:26

I have three, two girls and a boy in the middle. The girls shared a room but there is a 6 year age gap, it was getting awkward with different beds times/need for personal space. We've bought a 4 bed, teen has her own room now. It is a ground floor extension, I'd much prefer her to be upstairs with us but could not afford a purpose built 4 bed or to do a loft conversion. Combined income 80k.
I would have liked a fourth child as I am one of four, but my age, costs etc.. so we have a dog.

Teeheehee1579 · 23/06/2024 18:28

3 DC, 4 bed house so everyone has a room. Combined net income of around £8k per month but south east, large mortgage etc. I know we are very lucky. Holidays are a pain in the backside as it’s 2 rooms in general.

fuckthetories2 · 23/06/2024 18:29

I have four, two of each sex, second two twins. Four bed, two bath, two older have their own room, second set share. An age gap so by the time eldest hits uni age, younger two will be year three... I think. Just me, 30K a year, north of England so doable. After my eldest moves out my younger two will get their own room. When I was a kid, four kids in a four bed house, I was the youngest so I was the last to get my own room 😂 it just works

Startrekobsessed · 23/06/2024 18:30

3 kids, 4 bed house so everyone gets their own room but no spare which is frustrating when people come to stay etc (e.g. parents).

gross joint income £190k (London)

mentally exhausted!

Cliedi · 23/06/2024 18:30

3 kids . 4 bedroom house, bedrooms are small doubles. We have 2 DD’s sharing and one with her own room and a spare room as we have a lot of visitors. It’s too small really now that oldest DD is a teenager and needs her own space.

northernballer · 23/06/2024 18:34

3 kids all within 3 years of each other. 4 bed but 3 and a box room really. Was fine when they were younger amd the older boys shared but now they are teenagers we are moving so they have a decent size room each.

They seem to get more expensive tbh, we earn 120k between us but I'm one of 3 and my mum was a single parent working as a TA do it's obviously manageable on less.

TheChosenTwo · 23/06/2024 18:34

3 kids 5 bedrooms, the spare doubles up as my office.
We made the decision to ask the dc when we did the loft conversion if they wanted to have one each up stairs slightly smaller or the 2
bedrooms on the middle floor. They went up top.
We now have one of the bigger bedrooms on the middle floor and so does ds.
Income is healthy.

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