Just found out I’m pregnant I must be over 30 weeks I am scared!

[Goldflamingo]

Hi posting here as this thread seems to get the most traction.

I found out I was pregnant this morning. I haven’t had periods for 2 years as I’ve been on the pill and they’ve stopped them. I had no symptoms until recently. My belly is tiny, I’ve lost weight. I have been feeling so sick and dizzy, Saturday I went to a theme park with my daughter, I fainted and was sick everywhere. The medic came over and asked if there was any chance I could be pregnant and I laughed it off. I recovered and we went home.

Today I thought oh I will just take a test to rule it out. I was going shopping anyway so I didn’t specifically set out to buy a test, I just grabbed one with my shopping. I fully expected it to say negative, I was just doing it to humour myself. I knew there was an extremely slim chance but I was 99.99% sure it would be negative. I didn’t even look for 20 minutes as I was adamant it was a waste of time and would be negative. But no, two lines appeared. Because I left it so long I thought a possible false positive so I went out and got 6 more including a digi. All were dark positive and the digi said pregnant.

I went in to panic mode. I have not had sex in 30 weeks, the last time I had sex was November the 24th. I was dating somebody and things broke up after a few months as he moved abroad. I have not had sex or even dated since.

I called EPU, I explained the whole situation and they’ve said as I’m over 16 weeks, they can not take me under their care and I need to do an online referral for a midwife and urge the importance of the situation in my online referral. I have done an online referral and stressed they contact me asap. I can not find a direct number for the midwife’s, only the number for antenatal day Assesment unit. I don’t know what I should do, do I just go to a&e. Do I wait until the midwife’s have got back to me?

I am so scared. For all I know there’s more than one baby, the baby could be sick, the placenta could have developed incorrectly, the baby could be deformed, the baby could have a disability. Anything; because I haven’t been checked! So now I’m worrying!

I also drink a bottle of wine most weekends.

I am terrified something would have gone wrong but I’m in limbo until the midwife’s contact me back after they’ve received my referral. I don’t know what to do, do I go to A&E?? Am I going to be in trouble for not knowing until now?

I feel so uncomfortable sat here doing nothing about it until they’ve got back to me when I’m anywhere from 30-36 weeks pregnant. My other daughter was born at 33 weeks so I’m worrying!!!

please what do I do??? Do I go to a&e???

Hope you’re appt goes well x

thinking of you OP xx

Best of luck OP, I hope you are able to get some reassurance.

I know someone who only discovered she was pregnant at about 30 weeks (and I'm pretty sure had been up to all sorts during that time, including beach parties in Thailand). She, and baby, were absolutely fine.

You’ve absolutely done the right thing in phoning the assessment unit and it happens more than you realise and they will be able to scan you and see how pregnant you are and if you’re in labour and mitigate the risks from your medication. You’ve done well getting to this point, you’re doing great. Good luck.

Good luck OP. I absolutely believe you, and I hope it works out well for you. Glad you have help in real life.

Fingers crossed here.

Wishing you all the best OP.

This. Wishing you all the best OP.

Fingers crossed that all is ok. I'm an ex midwife. I can assure you that your situation isn't unheard of, it happens and hopefully staff will be supportive and able to get the ball rolling with a scan to reassure you.

So glad you are being seen OP - you are in the right place with the right people now and they will do all they can to look after you and the baby from now on x

Thinking about you OP, I can't imagine how scary this is. Glad you are going in to get checked.

Keeping you in my thoughts and hoping for good news

my neighbour went into labour at full term when she didn’t even know she was pregnant- she was an aerobics instructor so probably did all sorts of movements daily she shouldn’t have. Plus drank etc, baby was perfectly fine.

Thinking of you. I would have thought that 111 would send you to see someone today, particularly as you are in pain. Such a shock, but you can get through it. Get as much support around you as you can x

Easily.
At week 30 you would normally get only 7-9kg. If OP had reduced apetite she could have lost 5-7kg of her own weight easily through such long time, resulting in overall weight to stay same or go up 1 or 2kg which you would not normally notice.

OP , I didn't find out I was pregnant until I was 24 weeks ,I was 22 at the time had gone through Christmas, new year ,my birthday and was out most weekends .. my baby was fine .. and is now in his 30s although he says he would of been Clever if I hadn't drunk through them 24 weeks .. but as I never had periods he was just a surprise.. he is and was perfect as I'm sure your baby will be .. try and get a scan to put your mind at rest

Hope the appointment goes well OP.

Bless you @Goldflamingo I glad you have your sister for support. Well done for being persistent in being seen. Fingers crossed here that all is well and that you have some time to get your head around whats happening.

You are in a panic, a good way to manage and calm the emotions is to plan your next steps.

List- the details so you can be prepared to have to conversations with all details.

facts;
last time had sex
last time actual period of relevant
last baby @ number weeks & weight
any other medical things

Worries:
list the things you are worried about
worried missed impt medical checks
taking pill & wine etc

Next steps:
things you would like to happen: scan, tests etc

To do & when:

1. call GP first thing Monday
2. etc

If you can write a plan of steps to take and worries, hopefully you can reduce your stress. You are in a situation you weren’t expecting and very life changing. It’s normal to be panic.

That's so scary, good luck OP!

Good luck @Goldflamingo

Hope all is ok

"I know some will suspect I knew and I’m worried the midwife’s will think the same."

It's okay. You haven't done anything wrong. You aren't in trouble, The midwives won't give you a hard time. You're not the only person to learn she's pregnant late on.

Anyway, even if it were the case that on some level you had known you were pregnant before today, that wouldn't have made you a bad person.

I'm glad they are going to see you quickly, and that your sis and BIL are at hand. Good luck with everything!!!

Good luck OP

Just want to say that you're not alone. There's lots of us out here thinking of you 💕

It's honestly possible. One of my closest friends found out she was 7.5 months pregnant. The GP was certain that at the very most she was 12 weeks... referred for a scan and they said at least 30 weeks.

I was with her - no bump, no sickness, looked like she'd put on a bit of weight but maybe a dress size no more than that.

OP, my friend was in same position - had been on meds that aren't advised in pregnancy, had definitely not taken any vitamins or avoided alcohol, split up with boyfriend months earlier etc. Baby was totally fine.