Just found out I’m pregnant I must be over 30 weeks I am scared!

[Goldflamingo]

Hi posting here as this thread seems to get the most traction.

I found out I was pregnant this morning. I haven’t had periods for 2 years as I’ve been on the pill and they’ve stopped them. I had no symptoms until recently. My belly is tiny, I’ve lost weight. I have been feeling so sick and dizzy, Saturday I went to a theme park with my daughter, I fainted and was sick everywhere. The medic came over and asked if there was any chance I could be pregnant and I laughed it off. I recovered and we went home.

Today I thought oh I will just take a test to rule it out. I was going shopping anyway so I didn’t specifically set out to buy a test, I just grabbed one with my shopping. I fully expected it to say negative, I was just doing it to humour myself. I knew there was an extremely slim chance but I was 99.99% sure it would be negative. I didn’t even look for 20 minutes as I was adamant it was a waste of time and would be negative. But no, two lines appeared. Because I left it so long I thought a possible false positive so I went out and got 6 more including a digi. All were dark positive and the digi said pregnant.

I went in to panic mode. I have not had sex in 30 weeks, the last time I had sex was November the 24th. I was dating somebody and things broke up after a few months as he moved abroad. I have not had sex or even dated since.

I called EPU, I explained the whole situation and they’ve said as I’m over 16 weeks, they can not take me under their care and I need to do an online referral for a midwife and urge the importance of the situation in my online referral. I have done an online referral and stressed they contact me asap. I can not find a direct number for the midwife’s, only the number for antenatal day Assesment unit. I don’t know what I should do, do I just go to a&e. Do I wait until the midwife’s have got back to me?

I am so scared. For all I know there’s more than one baby, the baby could be sick, the placenta could have developed incorrectly, the baby could be deformed, the baby could have a disability. Anything; because I haven’t been checked! So now I’m worrying!

I also drink a bottle of wine most weekends.

I am terrified something would have gone wrong but I’m in limbo until the midwife’s contact me back after they’ve received my referral. I don’t know what to do, do I go to A&E?? Am I going to be in trouble for not knowing until now?

I feel so uncomfortable sat here doing nothing about it until they’ve got back to me when I’m anywhere from 30-36 weeks pregnant. My other daughter was born at 33 weeks so I’m worrying!!!

please what do I do??? Do I go to a&e???

Wishing you well @Goldflamingo , hoping you are being/have been seen and have some further info.

Hope all goes well for you, what a shock.

Blimey OP, what a shock. I hope you get somewhere with your app this afternoon

Best wishes xx

Where have you deduced that from?!

Maybe because the OP hasn’t drank whilst pregnant on purpose and can do absolutely nothing about it now, so there’s nothing to be gained from berating her and worrying her/making her feel guilty? Have a bit of compassion will you.

You obviously can't read. The op didn't know she was pregnant so didn't carry on drinking knowing this. Your comments are nasty and unnecessary

Continued WHAT?! Drinking a fairly unexceptionable amount when she didn't know she was pregnant? How is that something to berate anyone for? Exactly what would you like her to do about it? You are being extraordinarily insensitive.

She's just found out! The whole point of the thread!!

So are you saying no premenopausal woman should ever drink alcohol in case she falls accidentally pregnant while using contraception?

Take your crusade somewhere else, unless you have a Time Machine to lend to the OP. And see if you can find someone to help sort out your compassion bypass.

Ok so from lots of alcohol use during pregancy what would you advise

You're the one on your high horse about it; what would YOU advise? Nobody ever to drink, ever?

She didn’t know! What part of that is hard to understand?

You can berate me all you like . Sadly alcohol has an affect on pregnancies

@Hello38 no one is denying this but the op DIDNT KNOW SHE WAS PREGNANT? What part of this is hard for you to understand. She has not intentionally been drinking whilst pregnant

I no she didn’t no . I feel for her . Just risks are higher with drinking

You feel for her? Ok. If that was the case you wouldn't have started with these comments.

How is this helpful to the OP? Have you misunderstood and think she was drinking while pregnant on purpose?

For what it's worth, the chances of OP's baby having FAS after she has been drinking 10 units a week is 1.5%.

Even with pregnant women who binge drink most days, the chance of their baby having FAS is still under 5%.

FAS is something for people to take seriously. But this thread is neither the time nor place.

Sorry I thought OP had said she didn’t want a baby. Regardless it’s clear from her posts she’s upset, stressed and worried with an unplanned pregnancy so I don’t think “congratulations” is at all appropriate.

And the OP knows this, as well as all the other risks her pregnancy might now face. Do you think that, having just found out she’s pregnant, she is sitting in the waiting room at the hospital swigging gin? Honestly, I despair of people on the site. The OP mentioned the potential problems drinking might have caused in her very first post. She doesn’t need you banging on and on about something she didn’t choose and can’t change!