How would you feel if your partner came abroad with no money?

[Iwilldestroyyou345]

You'd booked the flights and accommodation in advance. He didn't bring any cash, only a credit card which doesn't work in that country. Has savings of several thousand but couldn't even dip into them for say £100.

Obviously dipping into savings is unwise, but knowingly going abroad with 0 spending money is unfair to the other person no?

At least he's shown what a selfish fucker he is. Now you can make plans to dump him when you get back.

@jackstini I spent a week in Lithuania recently and only ever paid by card (mix of credit and debit) so that list is not accurate.

I would keep track of what you spent and send him a request to reimburse you for the money you spent on him. If he refuses, dump him and get on with your life.

Well he has to go back home now, what a shame.

I'd assume said partner wanted to lose a lot of weight quickly, unless it's all-inclusive.

I wouldn't be doing any bailing out.

This

This happened to me on a trip to Sicily with my ex BF… I’d paid for flights/hotels and drive us to the airport (paid for parking) and he declared he didn’t have any spending money. We muddled through and he was dumped once home. I can still remember all these happy couples dining out in Taormina and I felt so angry I was with a CF. Bell end.

Can he not go online and transfer money to his current account and then transfer to you, OP?

I’m not in the UK so assume “current” account is the equivalent of my “chequing” account.

We've just come back from abroad. DH took his credit card so he had a limit to what he spent. He took his bank card also, just in case there were any problems.

I also took my credit card and bank card as I didn't know how widespread Apple pay was but everywhere took it.

I did have to notify NatWest that I was in the country I was from date x to date y but I imagine if I didn't, I still would have been ok.

And Indonesia? Really?

I’d think he was a squeaky tight arse and I’m afraid I wouldn’t be with any guy like this. To me, meanness and greediness is a massive turn off so I’d be gone I’m afraid.

Fucking hell op. That’s awful.

Exactly what I was thinking.

But either you leave him to eat dust for a week and go and enjoy yourself as best you can - but tricky if he is in the same bed. OR you sub him to a degree to make the holiday manageable and he pays you back the agreed amount when you get back.

But still, what credit card doesnt work abroad? Can he (or you could offer to) call the number on the back of the card and get "roaming"

I’d leave him to starve on holiday and's dump him while there or as soon as we return.

He's either incredibly tight or incredibly thoughtless- neither of which I’d find endearing, so ✌🏾✌🏾.

Maybe OP has relied on him to pay for everything and now he's turning the tables?

An ex once had his card not work in India - not sure why. It was a genuine error and he was really stressed about it and that wasn't a problem. He paid me back straight away when when we got back. What does your DP say about it?

My adult stepson did this - we were in Spain for 6 weeks - invited him out to stay for a week, paid his flight, picked him up from the airport and he had bought no money at all with him. Spent lots of time suggesting we go out for coffees etc bur never on him. I get that he was with his dad but at late 20s I expected him to buy a round or something occasionally.

Never invited him away again after that... thankfully our joint oldest actually has a morality bone and is always fighting to pay for coffees etc and he's only 17!

I haven't taken money overseas in 10 years. I use my credit card, so if he was thinking the same thing I have complete sympathy

This is what we do - expectation as a SAHM that HB pays for family stuff, but i have savings for silly things i fancy and I always take current account cards and credit cards in case something happens (DH gets mugged or something). Kids older/teens and will take their cards too. We all have apple pay.

DH forgot his wallet on one holiday - he transferred a chunk of money over to me for the week.

It's always possible that something has gone wrong. Stuff happens. What matters is how the partner is dealing with the problem.

Running through how to transfer money to you in order to provide some contribution is very different to sitting with arms folded waiting for you to pay up.

These are Very very different scenarios. Which is it ?

@Iwilldestroyyou345

So there's been a lot of good advice on her, how are you handling this situation?

surely he has online banking or can get some emergency cash via telephone banking?

if credit card doesn't work he can use his credit card on moneygram or similar and moneygram you some cash. get someone else to do it from the uk for him with his card details if it's also blocked on that country's internet.

That’d be some passive aggressive bullshit. He’s a grown man, not a 5 year having a strop.

If he doesn’t want to pay for any/everything, he needs to communicate that to his partner.

DH… not HB!! Am on the vino (paid for by aforementioned DH…🤦🏽‍♀️