To reply to school mum on group chat?

[Whistledown1005]

I'm on my DC class group chat. It's all women. It doesn't get written on that often but today some mums have been talking about the amount and complexity of our DC homework. They are quite young still. Most other mums were in agreement that it was too much etc.

Then this one mum write a huge paragraph about how homework is the child's responsibility and we should do little support and guidance. Saying how she's lucky that her DD is independent and likes doing the homework and how they still fit in family time and hobbies and her older DC helps her younger one with homework. Says her DD takes so much pride in her homework and loves doing it. That she praises her DD with treats for doing her homework. Then tells everyone not to stress over it all.

This school mum is first to comment on everything. She ALWAYS brags about what her DDs are doing etc.

Would ibu to write something in the group chat about it being all well and good for her but not every child is like her darling DD and needs alot of support and guidance. Some of us are alone and being both parents. Some of us have full time jobs, some of us are just struggling in general. So we do find it tough and want to find solidarity with others about it. I eye rolled hard when I saw her message, she did not read the room.

I have a neighbour who’s exactly the same, very very smug, and it’s a quality I really dislike in people, so I get how annoying this is.
My neighbour likes to boast on Facebook about how perfect her kids and husband are and what a perfect mum she is. It’s all bullshit! The image she portrays is that she’s got a doting husband, kids are sweet angels, house is immaculate. Reality is her husband is shagging one of the other neighbours, her kids are rude and are left to roam the streets whilst she sleeps on the sofa, she’s lost her 2 year old a couple of times, and the house is a shit tip.
My point is we’re all struggling in our own ways and often those who gloat the most are the ones who are actually struggling the most.
So as annoying as it is, probably best to just roll your eyes and scroll by, if you speak up you just end up looking like you’re jealous.

Aww I hated primary home work. In the end I just stopped doing it. None of it was stuff that could have been done by a child independently . You'd still have to sort through the recycling, get the paints out, cover the table with newspaper, buy big pads of paper etc etc. family time is precious and as my kids didn't like school, I resented family time being taken up with it. So I'd definitely be team 'grumble'.

But, look there's always one that either gloats or genuinely it's not an issue for. At least her posts are predictable. Provide a bit of entertainment as I imagine you all think, oh what's gloaty going to come up with. Just let it go. In the grand scheme of things she's not being nasty or putting anyone down.

OMG, that’s terrible!

YABU in that homework is the child’s responsibility, teachers don’t want to see your work. Plus at primary it’s optional so if it’s too complex just don’t do it.

The majority of the children should be able to do the homework with minimal support or assistance. If this isn't the case then something needs to be said to the school.

I'm sure she's great at doing her DDs homework 😂🤦‍♀️.

I'd be making some humorous comment about my child and homework rather than trying to match a bragger. Mine is intelligent but restricted due to SEND. Getting them to do any homework was always horrific. I've always delighted in telling the braggers than mine is totally the opposite of theirs - they have nothing to compare it to.

Ours are late teens now and I saw Bragging Mum at an event. She was delighting in telling me about her child and what they were doing (Y13). I told her mine was at the OU. I didn't mention it was a Level 3 course 😂. The look on her face was worth the 17 years of bragging...