I hate working

[KarenMorgan49672]

I hate working and would rather be at home or with friends and family

thats it thats the thread.

That’s not the same as saying they are boring for liking them. You aren’t talking about the same thing.

Oh I agree that purpose is an important part of a fulfilled life and that as a society we must still produce the resources we need.

The system we currently have however results in the majority producing the wealth for a minority - hence the alienation of labour and huge divisions in society.

I suspect we both think there must be a better way!

I often envy my friends and neighbours who don’t work ..they go on long walks, coffees with friends, yoga and Zumba classes, membership at the local spa, wine lunches, matinee shows…

However, where is their sense of purpose? Reward in doing a satisfying job? Helping others? A sense of achievement? Making a difference?

Perhaps you can have too much of a good thing when it comes to the lifestyle of others I sometimes envy…they’re not “giving back” to society which I think is a wonderful thing

I'm not being critical with your post and agree with a lot of it but I think you underestimate how disempowered some people are and how narrowly their opportunities have appeared.

So taking myself as an example: my school was very traditional (I'm quite old) and the careers 'advice' was just all about traditional jobs: fine if you want to be a lawyer, accountant, teacher, doctor or nurse but crap if you don't. Both my parents did boring office jobs (their assessment, not mine) and encouraged me to be a civil servant, work in the council or become an air steward (so they could get cheap holidays). None of these jobs remotely suited my personality or interests but no-one ever stopped to consider what I might enjoy. Not only that but they all put quite a lot of pressure on me to do one of these trad jobs.

If you've never been encouraged to pursue your dreams it can be quite difficult to imagine finding a job you enjoy. I was also brought up to be very compliant and that made it difficult to break out of the expectations.

I didn't know any actors, directors, editors, musicians, personal trainers, psychologists, sports physios, self employed people, speech therapists, cafe owners, osteopaths, website designers, architects, podiatrists, journalists, gardeners etc, etc so it was hard to imagine breaking out of the mould. I know there are a lot of people who do but there are I'm guessing an awful lot of people with less confidence and drive who find it harder without external encouragement.

I tried going to a careers counsellor and an employment agency who both offered traditional jobs and neither helped me to work out what I was suited to (I'm not saying they should, but just that it's not easy to find the right kind of support).

When anyone is unsure about what they want to do and asks for my advice I start with their values, interests and temperament. For instance, no point in someone who hates hierarchy, structure and deadlines going for a corporate role. No point in someone who hates self-determination and uncertainty being self-employed etc. If you prefer being outside, what jobs facilitate that. If you are creative, are there roles that suit that etc.

Oh I believe people can enjoy and even love their job - absolutely

You've asked another poster about this and it seems a simple point to me.

In the current system, where I am required to work to obtain money, I am extremely content with the job I have. There is no other job I would rather do.

However, my preference would be to have access to money without selling my labour. Lottery win, trust fund, universal basic income etc.

Broadly speaking, yes @nopestillnotmanagedto

Why do I feel like I'm being set up for something?

@nopestillnotmanagedto . My issue, please don't take it personally. I try not to post on Aibu too often but was intrigued by this discussion.

I don't know anyone with one of these jobs either, that's not so unusual. I know warehouse workers, engineers, hairdressers, office staff and teachers.

They perhaps feel they are prioritizing themselves, giving back to themselves.

I get that helping others can give some people a sense of happiness which is fabulous - but so can helping yourself

I'm broadly neutral towards work tbh.

I just get up in the morning and go. I'm neither happy nor sad. It's just what the routine is, so that's what I do. I neither hate, nor love, my job.
I would say though, that I'm a pretty routine driven person by nature, so I like the predictability.

I never understand when people say this. Not working (assuming because you don’t have to) doesn’t mean you’re locked in your house all day with no control over your life. You could do what you wanted when you wanted, wake up when you wanted, stay in or go out, it’s up to you. You’re a free agent, your own boss, how can that be boring?

Yes i can go in and out, but that is not all that i want in life. I like to be challenged intellectually, feel some pressure to achieve things, learn new stuff. I don’t really have a hobby that gives me the same excitement, maybe hiking in the mountains comes near it… but I don’t live near any mountains so it is not something can do every day. And i have kids to take care of so I am not free to completely fill my days with exciting parties and trips.

I really like the contrast of having a lie in on a sunday and having to get up early on weekdays. I’d get just very lazy if i could stay in bed every day.

Hi.. just interested to know (if you don't mind sharing) what work is it you do from home?
I,ve never worked from home. Not a fan or working either but I know I need to work. Thanks

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