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To think some of the things said on here, very few people actually think/do in real life?

142 replies

Revolvingidea · 18/06/2024 15:16

Some of my favourites

• The classic ‘toilet brushes are disgusting’. Observationally everyone I know has a toilet brush. I’ve been checking when I remember at friends and family’s houses and so on since the last time I saw the post

•Money is a poor reason not to consider a second child. Just don’t be so shallow and never go on holiday, the kids can have bunk beds in one room well into their teens!

•Expecting favours from your family, particularly your parents or in-laws, is wrong and selfish. (Feel like this one is usually people who are bitter that they don’t have a close relationship with their relatives or live too far away for it to be possible!)

•Don’t be so naïve- of course you can’t work from home ever at any point with your child around you unless the child is of high school age

I’m sure there’s more that I’ve missed. It just baffles me how people say these things yet in real life I know of many people who would do the exact opposite of the advice or sentiments on here.

OP posts:
ghostyslovesheets · 20/06/2024 18:03

I am the owner of 3 young adult females and work in an all female team - no bullying here

I don't own a bog brush (bleach does the trick), I don't expect favours from family, I go to the cinema ,pub, holidays alone and answer the door. I am happy being alone over night and have never tracked my kids phones.

I'm fairly normal I think

NotAgain1963 · 20/06/2024 18:21

The one I find hard to believe is where posters are saying that if they were on a bus with a child in a buggy,they would ALWAYS, without a shadow of doubt,get off the bus,or fold their buggy if a wheelchair user needed the space. I have never ever witnessed this in real life. The buggy users always refuse and start causing a scene. Maybe I live in an area where there are no Mumsnetters. 😂

Crikeyalmighty · 20/06/2024 18:47

@WhatNoRaisins me too- and I don't drive either - husband does -I like stuff within 8 minutes on the bus or a walk

Crikeyalmighty · 20/06/2024 18:57

@ARichtGoodDram yep- and people forget if you are private renting you will be putting up front equivalent of 2 months rent plus the move- before you get a penny back of your 5 weeks deposit on the old place. Maybe not a huge deal if you are renting for say £700 a month- a big deal if you are renting at £1500 a month and more

Madamlulu · 20/06/2024 21:21

PToosher · 18/06/2024 15:42

"Kick him out, that's what I'd do."
Would you really? And how does that work? How does one 'kick out' someone that owns the house?

Agree so much.. can you imagine if real life friends gave advice like that!

WhisperGold · 21/06/2024 12:09

ghostyslovesheets · 20/06/2024 18:03

I am the owner of 3 young adult females and work in an all female team - no bullying here

I don't own a bog brush (bleach does the trick), I don't expect favours from family, I go to the cinema ,pub, holidays alone and answer the door. I am happy being alone over night and have never tracked my kids phones.

I'm fairly normal I think

You're the owner of what?

RedYellowPinkGreenPurpleOrangeBlue · 21/06/2024 13:56

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe

OP what business is it of yours anyway?

You clearly think that people who don't enjoy those things should just go anyway. Many of us do. We don't want to be there because we have other things that we'd rather be doing or we just don't want to - but we care about those people involved so we do them.

It's a bit dim to lump everybody into one cohort but, there are a lot of posters here who can't seem to do anything else such is their level of critical thinking, or any thinking come to that? Some people just needle others for the sake of it, never thinking that perhaps they are the reason that people don't want to socialise with them.

100% exactly this. There is certain type of poster on here who mocks anything THEY deem as being 'weird' or unusual. 'Upset you didn't get a birthday card off your DH? What are you, 5???' 'Don't answer the door if you're not expecting anyone? Do you think Freddy Kruger is going to be at the door?' And 'don't want to socialise with work colleagues? You miserable weirdo!' Comments are often followed by this emoji >>> 😂

There's a certain set of posters here who make it their business to judge people who don't think like them/don't want to DO the same things as them, and they really piss me off!

ThisOldThang · 21/06/2024 20:35

NotAgain1963 · 20/06/2024 18:21

The one I find hard to believe is where posters are saying that if they were on a bus with a child in a buggy,they would ALWAYS, without a shadow of doubt,get off the bus,or fold their buggy if a wheelchair user needed the space. I have never ever witnessed this in real life. The buggy users always refuse and start causing a scene. Maybe I live in an area where there are no Mumsnetters. 😂

I can't think of any situation, apart from being on my way to a hospital appointment, where I wouldn't voluntarily exit the bus and allow the wheelchair user on.

ThisOldThang · 21/06/2024 20:41

RedYellowPinkGreenPurpleOrangeBlue · 21/06/2024 13:56

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe

OP what business is it of yours anyway?

You clearly think that people who don't enjoy those things should just go anyway. Many of us do. We don't want to be there because we have other things that we'd rather be doing or we just don't want to - but we care about those people involved so we do them.

It's a bit dim to lump everybody into one cohort but, there are a lot of posters here who can't seem to do anything else such is their level of critical thinking, or any thinking come to that? Some people just needle others for the sake of it, never thinking that perhaps they are the reason that people don't want to socialise with them.

100% exactly this. There is certain type of poster on here who mocks anything THEY deem as being 'weird' or unusual. 'Upset you didn't get a birthday card off your DH? What are you, 5???' 'Don't answer the door if you're not expecting anyone? Do you think Freddy Kruger is going to be at the door?' And 'don't want to socialise with work colleagues? You miserable weirdo!' Comments are often followed by this emoji >>> 😂

There's a certain set of posters here who make it their business to judge people who don't think like them/don't want to DO the same things as them, and they really piss me off!

At the Italians say:

De Gustibus (Non Disputandum Est)

(there is no arguing about taste as it is subjective)

XenoBitch · 21/06/2024 21:40

People who are very vocal about empty nesters under occupying a council house. They always say, if it was them, they would give up their house and move into a tiny flat so a family can have the house. Ha, no you fucking would not.
And the people saying this are not even in social housing anyway.

K37529 · 21/06/2024 22:28

I don’t have a toilet brush, my kids would play with it 🤢

RedYellowPinkGreenPurpleOrangeBlue · 21/06/2024 22:41

XenoBitch · 21/06/2024 21:40

People who are very vocal about empty nesters under occupying a council house. They always say, if it was them, they would give up their house and move into a tiny flat so a family can have the house. Ha, no you fucking would not.
And the people saying this are not even in social housing anyway.

100% agree. You'd have to have rocks in your head to give up a lovely, roomy 3 bed social-housing house, that you have lived in for 40+ years (and raised your children in - and looked after your grandchildren in - for a poky, tiny flat with no garden, and full of the type of people who are as dodgy as a nine pound note.

Very few social housing flats are nice, and are often near main roads and shops and pubs and the like. And if you want something a bit better, you'd have to go private, and pay 3 times more than the council rent. (And have NO security!)

And yeah the people saying this shit ('OLDER PEOPLE: GIVE UP YOUR SOCIAL-HOUSING HOUSE FOR A FAAAAMILY!') usually don't live in social housing. They are people with mortgages. And the jealousy and bitterness and resentment towards people in social housing drips from their posts.

Sonener · 21/06/2024 22:46

Most women in real life don’t leave their husbands yet on here at times everyone says they would, something for nothing more than getting pissed the night before and being 30 mins late home.

Pippa12 · 21/06/2024 22:49

We genuinely don’t have a toilet brush, in fact, genuinely nobody in my family have one 🤔

Pippa12 · 21/06/2024 22:55

I do find it strange how many posters despise wedding and hen party invites, describe the bride and groom as ‘selfish’ if they have a wedding which isn’t on the guests doorstep and god forbid they have a bloody baby shower 😂

These posters would go nuts round our neighbourhood- we love an excuse to celebrate.

I receive a ‘bridal shower’ invite the other day. I laughed when I (very gratefully!) accepted the invite thinking some mumsnetters would spontaneously combust receiving this invite 😂

RedYellowPinkGreenPurpleOrangeBlue · 21/06/2024 22:59

Sonener · 21/06/2024 22:46

Most women in real life don’t leave their husbands yet on here at times everyone says they would, something for nothing more than getting pissed the night before and being 30 mins late home.

Yeah, this is absolutely ludicrous. The trivial and ridiculous and stupid inconsequential reasons that some posters tell the OP to leave their husband for is hilarious. And they tell the OP she can have a brand new life, retrain for a new career, after going to university to get a degree, and will get £125,000 a year within a year, and gain a whole bunch of new friends, and a lovely man 20 years younger, and a lovely shiny new apartment in the city!

Because that always happens to middle aged and older women that leave their husband after spending 30 odd years with him, doesn't it? Hmm People act so much like real life is like Bridget fucking Jones Diary - or Shirley Valentine. So ludicrously and hilariously deluded some people are!

Truth is - 9 out of 10 women would be living in penury, on the bones of their arse, and scratting like a rat to try and get the hours at work just to pay the bills, and they would be incredibly lonely. THAT is the far more likely scenario.

RichardsGear · 21/06/2024 23:04

ginasevern · 18/06/2024 16:39

The women on here whose husbands never get bloody pissed off because the kids are screaming their lungs out/mother in law is staying for six weeks/the new car has been pranged. The women who say their husbands would never be unfaithful because they are too respectful and "not the type". Ditto, their husbands would never watch porn. The women whose teenage kids always clean their rooms and clear up after making a sandwich. The women on here whose husbands have half a can of lager a week, at most.

I do sometimes wonder if I live in some strange micro bubble, although I have friends and colleagues from a fairly broad range of ages and backgrounds. Are these perfect situations real?

😆 everything is always discussed 'calmly and politely', voices are never raised, the children are all tall and slim (girls), strapping rugby players (boys) with hollow legs and RG uni places lined up, obviously very, very popular of course and everyone has circles (well, in our circles that wouldn't happen...).
Tattle is very good (and funny) when nailing the typical Mumsnet bollocks.

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