To think some of the things said on here, very few people actually think/do in real life?

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Some of my favourites

• The classic ‘toilet brushes are disgusting’. Observationally everyone I know has a toilet brush. I’ve been checking when I remember at friends and family’s houses and so on since the last time I saw the post

•Money is a poor reason not to consider a second child. Just don’t be so shallow and never go on holiday, the kids can have bunk beds in one room well into their teens!

•Expecting favours from your family, particularly your parents or in-laws, is wrong and selfish. (Feel like this one is usually people who are bitter that they don’t have a close relationship with their relatives or live too far away for it to be possible!)

•Don’t be so naïve- of course you can’t work from home ever at any point with your child around you unless the child is of high school age

I’m sure there’s more that I’ve missed. It just baffles me how people say these things yet in real life I know of many people who would do the exact opposite of the advice or sentiments on here.

@TheYearOfSmallThings I agree on this- if you work for yourself- then do as you wish but if others are paying you then really you are being paid to work - unless there's an express agreement that you can make up hours in an evening and it doesn't impinge on others ability to get hold of you etc

You imagine wrong. Mine doesn’t. Nor does my husband 🤷🏼‍♀️

The ones that get me are "You should divorce DH he sounds awful" when the post is about some fairly mild grievance (e.g., DH didn't buy me flowers)
Oh yes, I'll just chuck away 14 years 😂

A water bottle with the type of nozzle that can create a jet of water when you squeeze the bottle.
You're welcome.

I genuinely don’t own a toilet brush and think they’re disgusting. 🤷🏻‍♀️

The problem is there are many people who hear the WFH with a baby/toddler and imagine trying to do their own job with meetings and client facing work.

The people who say it can be done have more project based jobs with outcomes needed by set deadlines and freedom on how to manage their own time as long as deadlines are met.

So when I did it with my DD at home from
birth (had only 4 weeks unpaid maternity because I am in the US) to the time she went to preschool it was tough but doable.

If I was proofing a website or editing a document it might be assigned on Monday and had to be handed in on Thursday. How and when I actually did the work was up to me. Supervisors and clients check in via Slack text messaging so no worries about meetings being interrupted.

I think the anti toilet brush mob give germs far too much probability of surviving a toilet clean. Once those germs are covered in bleach they are fucked. No clinging onto a toilet brush itself getting dunked in the bleach during the clean is gonna save them. The toilet brush is getting bleached during the toilet clean.

Do you know, I have only just realised that we didn't have loo brushes when I was a child. I don't even know how the loo was cleaned!

I think about 99.9% of the advice offered on here is poor and it's the opposite of what the poster would actually do

I would have said this, I would have done that. No you'd have done fuck all

Money definitely the reason why we decided not to have anymore children. But i already have 2 boys. Wanted to have another 1 but thinking about money. Even though i earn 85k but still i want my children have a full, nice and i want my children to travel the world with me. So yeah money its the only consideration for me and DH to not have another child.

Anyone who has "Projectile Vomited" 🙄

If you are hopefully awake, all vomit is projectile.

And some do it for dramatic effect. I especially dislike when OPs are encouraged to LTB over something silly that they nevertheless construe as abusive when you know full well they wouldn’t leave their partner for the same reason.

Whilst I agree it's ridiculous and annoying, that the keyboard warriors encourage other posters to be aggressive and hostile towards people - instead of just actually being pleasant and nice and sorting things out amicably, I do disagree that it's weird to not answer the door. I don't understand this bizarre attitude (on mumsnet) that people who don't answer the door are weirdos.

If I'm not expecting anybody, then I won't answer the door. I actually work from home, and do not want disturbing, and I'm quite a busy person who doesn't want to be kept at the door by people. And, if someone's at the door, (and I am not expecting anyone!) its very likely going to going to be somebody I don't want to see, or speak to!

99% of the time it will be...

Someone trying to peddle their wares on me - (or their services,) or a religious caller, or somebody doing a survey, or somebody trying to scam me, or a delivery company trying to get me to take in a parcel for a neighbour who hasn't had the foresight and intellect to sort out their delivery properly.

I don't take in people's packages. It's more trouble than its worth. You've got to wait around all day for them to come home, and watch out for them - so you can take it over to them. Or wait for them to come and get it, which is equally as annoying, (and then spend 20 minutes having small talk with them!) And sometimes they don't even come over, and so you have to take it, and you often can't get them to answer the door, and are pissing around trying to get someone to get their own package, as they CBA to come get it from you!!!

Also, I had a particularly unpleasant experience some years ago. I had taken in a package for someone - a newish neighbour three doors up - where I used to live. The item cost around £400 I discovered later. They came round to get it later that evening. But I discovered soon after, that they told the company they never received it!

And guess what? The company wrote to ME about it, asking me to 'surrender the item' and I phoned them and said I gave it to the neighbour! The woman I spoke to said she will make a note of that. Then some big burly bloke was knocking on my door a few weeks later asking for the item! I said 'I DO NOT HAVE IT!' He said 'we will have to take the matter further and pass this to the police.' I said 'knock yourself out, they won't find it here!!!'

It was so upsetting though, and really stressful! I knocked on this neighbour's door a dozen times or more, and so did DH, but we never got an answer, and we never caught them going in, as when they came in, the entered round the back of their property!

Basically. I was the one responsible because I signed for it. But I gave it to them. They just denied it. Luckily we moved house not long after. So even though I was chased and badgered and hassled - I was able to get away from it. They never knew where we moved to - and I never heard about it again. But that really, really put me off taking packages in for people.

Also, I don't have/don't want people taking packages in for me. Ever.

@wordler I totally agree on this-,it's very job dependent - not all jobs or paid work are the same- there are some jobs though where it really isn't doable if you are expected to be available 9 to 5.30 etc and it's public facing- even if remote-

@wordler I am sure it's possible with some jobs but it sounds really relentless and exhausting to be working during naps and in the evenings etc. I wouldn't choose to do it unless I really had no alternative financially.

I tend to think if 'projectile' is added it's gone further than it would normally. Like when one of my cats was sick, panicked and literally sprayed vomit across the sofa. It was impressive, in a very gross way, and generally when cats are sick it goes about 4 or 5 inches.

Anyway - toilet brushes. Yes, they're gross, but you don't have to eat with them. I think it's even more disgusting to put your hand down a toilet, even with gloves on.

@spriots I wouldn't walk alone In the dark.

I saw on here the other day , OP was saving a chair for her husband at a venue and someone took it. Another poster said she'd have whacked him round the head with it ... yes of course she would 🙄

That reminds me of the whole table saving debate. I have never seen a group of adults all queuing together "because it's wrong to send someone to save a table" but the threads on here always seem to be 5050.

You can be 100% sure I will not be forking out for wraparound care for the 1.5hrs after school when I am at home working and my 8yr old lols on the sofa watching TV in the next room.

So yes, I do work at home with my kids here - makes zero difference to me getting work done. I even let them have playdates at the same time 😱

Or only in the posh part of Islington.😁

Haha, no normal person doesn’t go and grab a table while the other one queues up.

😂
that’s what I always think

I feel like the work from home with kids really does on the age. I think, like you say: babies and toddlers is impossible with the amount of attention they require, but primary school kids can easily entertained themselves for an hour or 2 after school, particularly if they are P3 and up. My kids are late primary/early secondary and someone said I am taking the piss... 🤣

Well, many folk have no other option. I'm widowed, so if I don't go out on my own...