To think some of the things said on here, very few people actually think/do in real life?

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Some of my favourites

• The classic ‘toilet brushes are disgusting’. Observationally everyone I know has a toilet brush. I’ve been checking when I remember at friends and family’s houses and so on since the last time I saw the post

•Money is a poor reason not to consider a second child. Just don’t be so shallow and never go on holiday, the kids can have bunk beds in one room well into their teens!

•Expecting favours from your family, particularly your parents or in-laws, is wrong and selfish. (Feel like this one is usually people who are bitter that they don’t have a close relationship with their relatives or live too far away for it to be possible!)

•Don’t be so naïve- of course you can’t work from home ever at any point with your child around you unless the child is of high school age

I’m sure there’s more that I’ve missed. It just baffles me how people say these things yet in real life I know of many people who would do the exact opposite of the advice or sentiments on here.

LTB. Yes, there are so many harrowing tales on MN, but equally there are so many LTB over minor transgressions, obviously bringing 3 kids up on your own on minimum wage, running yourself ragged, worrying about every bill, is a better life than picking your husband's underpants off the floor.
And there's the folk who seem to have no comprehension about poverty - well just go out and buy some then, or why are you in a NMW job, get a better job?

But - I don't have a toilet brush!

Yeah, but then something related to those views are presented in the MSM as a 'Twitter storm' and there are demands for the government to take action to resolve the supposed grievance.
In reality, it's half a dozen nut jobs and agitators.

@JacquesHarlow I can honestly say that in real life, in my experience, it's only the ones who are very obviously taking the piss that cause the issues.

One woman I spoke to had recently taken over a new team. She'd picked up quickly that there were issues with one person but she couldn't quite work out what they were as this woman has HR-agreed reasonable adjustments to take into account a disability and she was concerned that the team didn't appreciate that. But then she discovered that the reasonable adjustments weren't the problem - everyone was fully supportive of those, whcih had been in place for a long time. it was the fact that the reasonable adjustments had been bastardized by this woman - so originally they were designed to help her avoid rush hour so come in early leave early or com ein late, leave late. But instead, she was coming in late (post school run) and leaving early (pre school run) and was completely offline on either side of it. Last I heard, this woman was considering disciplinary processes.

I've also often had clients tell me that x or y won't be on the call or will be dialling in late becuase of emergency childcare issues, and the sense has always been that it's no big deal.

So my experience is generally nicely balanced although I'm sure it's not like that across the board.

I agree with you on most but I really grew up in a house with no toilet brush and have never had one in any of my homes as an adult 😀

Opposite sex siblings (wanting to share a room) until one moved out at 19? That's weird and sus nothing to do with finances!

In real life I see quite a few instances where someone is rude but normally the person doesn’t stand up to them and create a scene whereas if you go by MN the standard response is to put people in their places.

Yes to the majority but I, genuinely, have never owned a toilet brush - they’re disgusting. Sorry!

Er...what do people use if not a toilet brush?

I agree that people are often deliberately contrary or hugely exaggerate their own assertive/ witty come backs when in tricky situations but I can assure you I don’t have a loo brush and never have.

Oh my goodness I so agree.
Lots more I come across on Mumsnet daily but never see people doing in real life.
i thought it was just me living some alternate universe to people on here! 😂

Gloves and a sponge 🤢🤢🤢

It’s similar to when someone on here uses certain words of turns of phrases to make themselves seem posh or superior and belittle someone else like “oh do” followed by what they want to say or something like that but no one actually talks like that or on a posh thread of the queen or someone that everyone obsesses over they’ve got to be using their most posh words

Bidet hose

I haven't seen some of these comments. But I think toilet brushes are truly disgusting and wouldn't have one in the house

Copious amounts of bleach. And leave for a while before flushing. I’ve never had anything in my toilet that this didn’t fix!

The faux misunderstanding when someone uses the wrong words - draw/drawer, bought/brought - never happens in real life. Everyone knows exactly what is meant and doesn’t feel the need to belittle someone for a wrong word.

I’ve never forgotten the vile poster who, on a thread where a woman had been punched in the face by her partner, pretended not to understand what “we’ve just brought a house and all my money is in it, I’ve got no savings left” meant.

Nobody in real life would actually say to someone in clear distress “I don’t understand, where did you bring your house?”

The women on here whose husbands never get bloody pissed off because the kids are screaming their lungs out/mother in law is staying for six weeks/the new car has been pranged. The women who say their husbands would never be unfaithful because they are too respectful and "not the type". Ditto, their husbands would never watch porn. The women whose teenage kids always clean their rooms and clear up after making a sandwich. The women on here whose husbands have half a can of lager a week, at most.

I do sometimes wonder if I live in some strange micro bubble, although I have friends and colleagues from a fairly broad range of ages and backgrounds. Are these perfect situations real?

I put on rubber gloves and clean it with toilet cleaner and a cloth which I then wash (I don't use it for anything else) then loads of bleach

That's routine cleaning, though. Surely you don't do that every time there's a mark on the bowl.

Yes. I don't actally mind cleaning toilets - i mean, I've had DC and had to clean up endless poo plus you know, cleaning myself daily for 50 odd years. It's the "hanging around with bits of poo on it indefinitely" that I have an issue with which is why I don't like toilet brushes.

Now that we seem to have more teenage boys in the house I am planning to buy a new one of those disposable/use once versions. Not for every day, but for the odd moment post-random-teenager when a bit more effort is needed.

The rest of the time, it's a quick wipe down with tissue and a good hand wash immediately after (if necessary) and I throw toilet cleaner/bleach in regularly and leave to sit before flushing, using a sponge and gloves occassionally with additional bleach as needed.

Also, I do think different toilets are more prone to visible mess. Older ones, definitely. Assume it's something to do with the material/shape?

No, I don't expect anyone to leave a mark for me to clean up after them. If there was, I would use a big wodge of loo roll and then bleach

Ditto, their husbands would never watch porn

And then when she "just happened to be looking through her husband's laptop" and discovered that he (gasp!) had been viewing porn, she'll be told that the only solution is to divorce as he's crossed her "clear boundaries"🙄

Don't get me started on all the " You'll be so much better off without him" crap advice handed out like candy! Of course you'll be better off broke, trying to eek out an existence on benefits, raising your children in poverty ...it'll all magically work out and at least you won't have to spend Christmas with your inlaws!

Were/are you in a soft water area? If not how do you get rid of limescale without a brush? Limescale remover softens it - but you still need to brush.

We live in a hard water area. The use of regular cleaner with limescale remover (I use Harpic) is fine overall - although the odd scrub with a sponge is good. It's the build up that's the problem. Look at kettles - you don't have to scrub them. But you do have to use strong limescale remover because most of us, even in hard water areas, are not doing it frequently.