To think some of the things said on here, very few people actually think/do in real life?

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Some of my favourites

• The classic ‘toilet brushes are disgusting’. Observationally everyone I know has a toilet brush. I’ve been checking when I remember at friends and family’s houses and so on since the last time I saw the post

•Money is a poor reason not to consider a second child. Just don’t be so shallow and never go on holiday, the kids can have bunk beds in one room well into their teens!

•Expecting favours from your family, particularly your parents or in-laws, is wrong and selfish. (Feel like this one is usually people who are bitter that they don’t have a close relationship with their relatives or live too far away for it to be possible!)

•Don’t be so naïve- of course you can’t work from home ever at any point with your child around you unless the child is of high school age

I’m sure there’s more that I’ve missed. It just baffles me how people say these things yet in real life I know of many people who would do the exact opposite of the advice or sentiments on here.

The people with perfectly behaved children who got that way because of their incredibly strict parenting.
My DD once suggested we exclude a child from her all class (nursery) party. I said no, we invite everyone.
I shared the story on here and one poster told me that if that was her child- she would have cancelled the party.
Really? A 4th birthday party? Because a child privately suggested something a bit unkind?
In real life I don't meet parents that unreasonably strict.

Actually- there was one time.
I was working for a children's charity and some poor kid had been made to donate her pocket money to us as a punishment. We got something like £3.50 and a letter explaining that she'd been acting spoiled and ungrateful and now had to donate the money to "less fortunate" kids.
It made me think of mumsnet because its the kind of parenting people on here will claim they do.

We all felt sorry for that kid and we thought her Mum was a dick.

Toilet brush free zone here.

of course you can’t work from home ever at any point with your child around you unless the child is of high school age

The fact that lots of people do this in real life does not make it okay. My workplace now has quite a few people being paid to work full time but if you want to be able to reach them or get any sense out of them it had better be during school hours.

The thing is that most of us mostly socialise with other people like ourselves. So when you get a lot of people with different perspectives on one forum a lot of things will surprise you.

I have never WFH while looking after my children except when one is unwell. And I don't know anyone who does this with a child under 10.

Yup

'Change the locks!!!'

I hope you're right. Many posts are so mean spirited and "my little family" on here. It's not, thankfully, how real life looks to me.

Purely on the toilet brush thing, we definitely don’t have one, DW hates them with a passion, thinks they are unhygienic things, we do use the duck toilet wipe things but absolutely not a brush

The attitudes that surprise me are:

The large number of posters who seem really against the idea of using wraparound care - this is totally normal in my social circle but on here it's like a lot of posters would rather walk through fire than use it. It's not that bad!

The number of posters who wouldn't ever walk alone after dark - IRL I only know one woman who won't

The reluctance to leave teens at home on their own. I have seen a lot of people asserting that their kids need to be 13+ before they can be alone in the house - I don't have teens but that's not the view of my friends who do.

Oh, and all the posters who swear they've gone "No Contact" with every living relative in their family and it's solved all their problems, they are so happy, so very, very happy....unbelievably happy, don't miss the bastards, but wait a minute...WHY DOESN'T ANYONE MAKE A FUSS OVER MY BIRTHDAY????

But that's why there's a brush there. So that anyone who sees anything left behind after they've flushed can quickly brush it away, without having to waste wodges of loo roll and get their hands down in there.

I used to vaguely think the same, but then I realised that lots of people on here have had really horrible childhoods. Not to sound pious or anything, but shocking parental and sometimes sibling abuse, and thus NC.

I had decent parents and sibling, so I didn't realise the extent of this.

Or when it's time for the inheritance to be dished out.

Lots on here don’t get it. I got called selfish and stupid on here, and told my children would resent me, for refusing an inheritance from my father.

Had no contact since I was 14 (lived with my grandfather since I was 7), didn’t want anything to do with him and declined to visit when he was dying. My earliest memory is him stamping on my brother’s head. When I was 4 he set fire to my Christmas presents because I was cheeky and the reason we were removed was because I told my teacher about him burning one of my siblings with an iron as a punishment.

Apparently him ‘reaching out’ when he was dying, then making me executor of his will after I’d been crystal clear I wanted nothing to do with or from him was a sign of regret from him…

Mumsnet in a hovel full of everyone who knows better than you.

How terrible @ARichtGoodDram. I don't blame you for going NC, and I imagine most posters who have are the same.

The posters who insist men and women can never be true platonic friends and two people of the opposite sex doing something normal like going for dinner or to the cinema is automatically a date. I don’t know anyone who thinks like that. I’m sure the people who do think that would say the same though!

@CharlotteRumpling There are absolutely circumstances where cutting ties with your family is the right thing to do for your physical and mental well-being.

But on MN going "No Contact" is often thrown around as an option for things such as your children not receiving an invitation to you brother's childfree wedding or as a way to resolve an argument with your MIL. It's really naive to imagine that taking the nuclear option isn't going to have wide-ranging repercussions. It's not the panacea for all sticky family situations!

And then there's a vile brush with little flecks of poo wedged in it. No thank you!! I don't consider it a 'waste' to wipe some poo away with loo roll. But life would be boring if we were all the same

It's the "hanging around with bits of poo on it indefinitely" that I have an issue with which is why I don't like toilet brushes

@GerbilsForever24 You want a silicone toilet brush. Nothing sticks to them. Far more hygienic than standard ones. Like this https://www.amazon.co.uk/MEKEET-Silicone-Bathroom-Cleaning-Flooring/dp/B07TYXB4Q1/ref=sr_1_8?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.Sd1uFhVQEEtJnsg8ohz976HNsPj7Ju-utqEtqgcS2XhsxoPx3TTOc7OQ7xqOrWueWH2GRRDxbSgh8qHt6brVXA-TYWagxy2KX_XX9b61MwXUeK2CPmAZTx7zmLEtzvDFtFujzqQCgu12BV3ezocZTrH8NK72pyvDPon831g2Qd75Cgwd7NjATKhbQI5vtwaS_vTS_pWfyuSnRQ8tbibCVHBPsyotEpB_ornZKskz-c7N_7bgzg8J9CEgpG5OFW1Z1gViq8W3O3Fxfrmj3QvMd2aIP9zjlO2Un2ETMuG5x8Q.0SaXgLfszZ6wH2SRSukBFAgnm8hPKdZfgw9ZFws_X9c&dib_tag=se&keywords=hygienic%2Btoilet%2Bbrush&qid=1718731175&sr=8-8&th=1

Never had limescale either. I assume the bleach zaps everything.

Bleach doesn't get rid of limescale, but it does stop it being easily visible as it turns/keeps the limescale white.

The posters who never do a thing for their children the minute they turn 18 . I mean really - you’d never make them a meal while cooking and throw their washing in with your own ?

Well we mustn't have had water that caused limescale then, because when I grew up we had an avocado toilet (of course we did) so white limescale would have shown up.

Scrubby cloth and elbow grease. Gets it a lot cleaner than a brush.

If someone dares to ask you to pick their DC up from school and take them to their gran's house or your house and they haven't reciprocated by picking up your DC then they are USING you for childcare
You airily tell them it'll cost you £15/hour and here's your bank details , if they want you to look after Barry.
You can charge for babysitting you cannot charge for CM unless you are a CM.

Car parked in a CF spot on the road
I'd let the tyres down/I'd superglue the locks/I'd write on the windcreen in lipbalm/I'd "accidently" leave nails scattered /I'd block them in then when they come storming , go to the door with a glass of wine

No . you wouldn;t . <sigh>