To think some of the things said on here, very few people actually think/do in real life?

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Some of my favourites

• The classic ‘toilet brushes are disgusting’. Observationally everyone I know has a toilet brush. I’ve been checking when I remember at friends and family’s houses and so on since the last time I saw the post

•Money is a poor reason not to consider a second child. Just don’t be so shallow and never go on holiday, the kids can have bunk beds in one room well into their teens!

•Expecting favours from your family, particularly your parents or in-laws, is wrong and selfish. (Feel like this one is usually people who are bitter that they don’t have a close relationship with their relatives or live too far away for it to be possible!)

•Don’t be so naïve- of course you can’t work from home ever at any point with your child around you unless the child is of high school age

I’m sure there’s more that I’ve missed. It just baffles me how people say these things yet in real life I know of many people who would do the exact opposite of the advice or sentiments on here.

Oh, I can tell the difference.

I've projectile vomited once in my life...When I was a teenager, I was sometimes nauseous before I had a period. (No, I wasn't pregnant.)

One time...look away now if too much info....

I always had very irregular periods. (Later found out I had endo. No idea whether that had anything to do with it - sometimes it would be 42 days with no period.)

Period was taking its time to start. I felt rotten. I was so sick that it hit the ceiling. I have no idea how that happened. My poor mother...

Everyone l know thinks like that.

I only know one Tory voter. All the rest of colleagues, friends and family wanted Corbyn.

This site has been a real eye-opener for.

I never realised how awful women can be to each other.

Most of the time it wasn’t that bad - but you do have to be very organized and you can’t do ‘everything’ - so DH had to step in and do more cooking/cleaning etc.

It was very lovely to be able to be with her all day though. Made up for the times it was stressful.

When people are being really awful, I tend to suspect that they're male trolls. Yes, I'm sexist.

Amazingly other people chose to live their lives differently to you OP

• toilet brush - never owned one.
• money - is a pretty sensible reason to determine the size of your family
• expecting favours - I agree with you on that
• WFH with children - actually once they get to about age 8 its pretty easy and its usually only for an hour or so after school

The amount of people who use the phrase no contact baffles me. Yes in extreme cases people do this and rightly so, but its thrown around so casually. SiL annoyed me, DHs best friend said something I don't like etc, and the advice is go no contact. Like cut someone out of your life forever. If I cut out everyone that ever pissed me off I'd have no friends of family. We have to tolerate each other sometimes surely, whether we disagree or not? Maybe keep a wide berth for a while or not extend invitations, but to cause such a rift in a family or group without thinking of the consequences to everyone else is utterly selfish and crazy really.

I think you're blind to how awful women can.

I've been a teacher for 25 years. The most vile, nasty bullies I've known have all been girls. The bullying online by girls today is a whole other world of evil. To suggest that awful comments are not made by women is just delusional.

And it's often because he committed the crime of not breathing to his wife's satisfaction so LTB is the advice!

No - because you leave the brush in when you flush and give it a bit of a shake in there too. With a good brush holder you can then dip it back into a few inches of disinfectant cleaning fluid or bleach till next time.

When someone is struggling for money, they always get told to move somewhere cheaper. Just up and leave, away from everything. They can somehow magic up the money for a deposit/move, have a new job lined up, and be ok with no friends around them whatsoever.

This would not happen in real life. I would never tell a friend to move away.

@XenoBitch yep- that really annoys me. I would honestly rather manage on much much less and eat beans on toast and toasted cheese sandwiches than move to somewhere I don't like knowing no one at all unless there were huge career reasons to do so - not just for a bigger house or cheaper rent

I get pissed off with the posters who tell other posters to just 'leave the bastard' when the husband's annoying her a bit - or behaving a bit shittily. Because when you're married and you've got kids and all your finances are tied up with one another, and your whole lives are enmeshed, and you virtually 50 to 60% depend on him financially and sometimes totally depend on him - (because men usually earn a lot more than money than women,) it's soooooo easy to just walk away isn't it? 🙄

Just go and get yourself a brand new shiny life, it's sooooooooo easy!! Just get a brand new home, a whole new bunch of friends, go and retrain for a new career, get yourself a university degree, and you will be on 100,000 pounds in a year - and you will meet a lovely, wonderful, amazing man with no flaws whatsoever, and who is on £250,000 a year.

Because you know, a woman who's divorced or separated from a man -with kids in tow, and no money or assets, is going to be a real catch for the real top tier of men, isn't she? And top employers will be biting her hand off to employ a woman in a very important role paying £100,000 a year+, who is middle aged with 2+ kids, and has no-one else to help her, and very likely doesn't even have a car!

Really boils my piss how people make out you can just fucking walk away and leave! This isn't Coronation Street.

UPFs. Nobody I know goes on and on and on about them the way people on this site do. Don't get me wrong, obviously too much junk is very bad, but a few crisps aren't going to kill you.

Leaving your husband over the most minor of things and cutting out every friend or relative who has once said something vaguely insensitive to you.

I'm amazed people on here have any person left in their life 😂

I mean, the never getting pissed off is unrealistic, but my husband does not watch porn (I would have no problem if he had, so he isn't hiding it from me) and drinks moderately and we have a good relationship. I actually find it more annoying that people seem to assume that all men are awful bastards and that women are all downtrodden. I see it a lot on here and I can't fathom it.

“Can you downsize?” to someone with immediate money worries. If they’re £300 short for the mortgage this month because the car needed work (or vice versa) then they can afford to market their house, find another one, pay for surveys and moving costs!

I once read a thread about raising teenage boys. One woman claimed to have raised three sons to adulthood without a single moment of stroppiness! I really struggled to believe this.

That’s the kind of thing my father would have said. No stroppiness in our house was through the absolute fear of being beaten black and blue or burnt with an iron for any transgression (luckily I was removed at 7).

People bragging about a lack of normal behaviour in their homes always make me wary of them.

The moving house one thing is interesting because to me it's often the opposite to what PP have said that, in that I am surprised by the extent to which so many people seem to live where they live and base other life decisions around that rather than consider moving.

I have moved several times for work, including internationally, and I guess most of my friends are similar.

I'd really hate to have to move. All the upheaval, leaving behind friends and odds are not being able to make any more, dealing with kids having to change schools. It's not something I'd choose to do and I really admire people who manage regular moves.

Opposite sex siblings (wanting to share a room) until one moved out at 19? That's weird and sus nothing to do

I was chatting to a young friend recently about her first year at university, she said it was the first time she had ever slept alone. Apparantly she had always slept with her mum.

I don't think anyone enjoys it, I guess it's about what you value more than the inconvenience.

So for example I have seen people say, and there was a recent thread from someone along these lines things like "we live rurally and it's a huge pain with childcare and the schools are rubbish so we have to go private" and I would totally just move rather than deal with that.

But now we have children in school, we will minimise moving and it's part of why we live in London - lots of career opportunities without having to move.

Nobody should ever expect a legacy from even their own parents, when the relationship has always been fine. If you do, you’re ‘grabby’, and you have absolutely no right to feel hard done by if they leave the whole lot to the Donkey Sanctuary.

To be fair I'd never live rurally to begin with. I think I'm one of those people who values convenience over pretty much anything else.