DS threw bully’s phone in lake

[CandidBeaker]

DS, 13, and his friend were being bullied by some other children in the park yesterday and a girl was filming him having his books thrown on the floor so he grabbed the phone from her and threw it into the lake. She hit him and then they all ran over to the lake and DS and his friend came home.

I received an angry voicemail from her mum this morning demanding that I pay for a replacement. I was fuming. I’m not paying for a new phone when she was the one who caused it herself by joining in harassing my son. It’s called karma. If she thinks I’m buying a new one she can fuck off. AIBU?

What do you mean? Will they dock his pocket money by 50p each week?

Diddums!

I would be telling the mum that her daughter filming your son being bullied makes her daughter a bully too! And rather tran defending her daughter she should be disciplining her!

They can fuck off then fuck off a bit further!

Shed be better off claiming off her insurance and telling her nasty little daughter not to film people being bullied because it makes her as bad

Perhaps ask the other mum if she really wants evidence of her daughter being involved in an assault and the making of malicious communications... Or would she perhaps think it wise to drop it and tell her daughter to keep away from your child and her from you.

I wouldn't pay for it

What I mean is that if he gets a job within 6 years or gets the money in some other way, they will be able to take it.

Can’t believe some of these responses!

If your son had knocked the bully out I would say “Good!”

I was raised ti believe bullies deserve what they get so if a bullied child fights back and hurts the bully that’s tough.

Interesting how angry everyone gets when someone uses the word 'bully'. He threw her phone in a lake and for all we know she didn't do anything at all. He could have been the one bullying her. He did throw her phone in a lake. I would ask the other mother what her DD says happened and if the two stories don't match I would look into it further.

Of course you have to replace the phone or at least pay the insurance excess , all these children will have gone home with differing versions of this incident but the only one who has actually done any material damage is your son .

So they'll wait around until he's finished school? Or Uni? And then sue?

Tell this woman she can retrieve the phone from the lake, and if it still works, she'll see why your son threw it there.

Yes to this.

Save the voicemail

If it played out how your son said, I say good for him! Nasty girl got what she deserved!

Good for him
I'd tell his mum she can sing for a replacement, while you report her daughter for harassment and assault

Why don’t you say a year of DS’s course work has been thrown into the lake and that is bloody priceless, since it accounts for hours and hours of time. Ask for her solicitors details and say you’ll be taking it further - no phone replacement unless one of the other bullies has photographic evidence that your son was the instigator. Say you are happy to review any footage she has.

I would report it to the police and school. She shouldn't be able to get away with bullying ( and good luck getting a 13 year old to pay for a phone)

Just because males are responsible for the majority of violent and aggressive crime, that in no way means that women and girls never perpetrate it. Girls bullying other children, completely unprovoked, deserve to be punished for it just as harshly as a boy would be.

Also, why are people assuming that his books were undamaged by being thrown on the floor? Yes, they were probably still just about 'functional' - in a way that a phone being thrown on to concrete or into a lake won't be - but it's highly unlikely that they wouldn't have suffered some significant damage by being thrown to the ground. It doesn't overly matter what property of his it was, though; his belongings should have been automatically respected and not taken from him, then this would never have happened.

I would tell my son I'm proud of him for standing up for himself. You are not being unreasonable. Bullies and active audiences, like the girl whose phone got thrown into the lake, shouldn't do what they do if they cannot cope with a reaction to their horrible actions.

I hope something is being done about the bullying. Maybe then everyone gets to keep their phone.

Fuck me, some of the responses on here!

Children filming incidents of bullying is rife, and are equally as culpable as the ones carrying out the attack.

A 13 year old boy who is highly distressed will not be thinking straight, he'll just want it all to stop and get the fuck away. Him grabbing and throwing the phone would be a reflex action to make it stop and prevent his humiliation being passed around the school and the internet.

This needs to be investigated and dealt with by the school, as they all go to the same one and your sun is being regularly targeted. This needs to stop. Don't respond to the mother of the girl, get in touch with the school first thing and take it from there.

Great tell lies , that is an excellent example to set to your children .

I would literally deny all knowledge and block the mum. Brave of your DS to take action against children who film bullying

I’m not very tech savvy, but aren’t videos etc backed up on iCloud or similar? Obviously we don’t know if the video saved before being tossed into the lake but it would be interesting to see it as that would be the evidence.

I haven’t read through so sorry if this has been suggested/shut down already.

Good on him. I wouldn’t pay a penny!