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WhatsApp group being ruined by underwear pics

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Boreoffwithyournakedpics · 16/06/2024 16:16

I don't really know if I'm overreacting here.

I'm in a WhatsApp group with some mums originally from reception. Our kids are teens now. We are loose friends for years, have a night out about twice a year and a summer get together with the DC. These gatherings usually have about half the group there so while we keep up-to-date with the chatting on the group it's not unusual to not see a person in person for a few years.

One of the women, Natalie recently got into fitness working out with a PT twice a week. She was slim already. A few months ago she went to her school reunion and shared that she was nervous. She posted a photo of herself about to go out and we all told her she looked gorgeous - she did! Later she said some of the women were unfriendly and we all joked that they were jealous of her. She then made some nasty remarks about them being very fat and old looking now. It was a bit weird but the conversation moved on.

Some of the women in our group are struggling with their self esteem and upset about their weight. I don't know why as I only ever see them looking great but this is what they have shared.

Natalie, possibly spurred on by our compliments is constantly posting photos of herself. What started with outfits is now underwear shots every few days referring to her thighs, snatched waist or whatever.

I personally am delighted for anyone working on their fitness and feeling good about themselves (I'm in that camp) but the relentless photos and self congratulating are really peeing me off. It's not a group about fitness, nobody else is sharing progress photos and frankly it's bloody annoying.

It's gotten to the point I have muted the group and rarely post. I am holding myself back from making a caustic remark.

Yabu : she can do what she wants and is possibly inspiring the others
Yanbu : what a tedious bore - tell her to get a grip.

OP posts:
Yummymummy2020 · 20/06/2024 15:30

I hear you op, she is a bore! I have a friend like this! Honestly at this stage I think I have seen her in her bra and knickers more than her husband. I archived the chat so that I’m not showing up as left but I also don’t have a half naked woman flashing up almost daily😂 I’m also delighted for her but you can be happy without needing constant updates and photos. It’s ridiculously inappropriate it’s in a school group though at least my friends chat was just between us! I can’t imagine sending the other mums at school photos like that 😂😂😂

Joelkimmo · 20/06/2024 15:59

Boreoffwithyournakedpics · 16/06/2024 16:25

The group was set up at the beginning to organise an event. It hasn't been about the DC much, they went on to different schools. It's a really nice group and I wouldn't want to leave it. I know I should scroll by but it's getting under my skin for some reason.

She’s 100% selling something like juice plus or herbal life and she will start trying to sell it to you soon

muddymuckymoody · 20/06/2024 17:52

Reckon very soon she will reveal how she’s done it with juice/aloe/shakes and encourage everyone to join “her team”. Screams MLM recruiting early fodder

MixedCouple2 · 20/06/2024 17:57

I joined a birth month group and we moved over to whatsapp and I really want to oeave due to 2 Mums the rest are fantastic and so supportive. If I could boot the other 2 out I would.

willowtolive · 20/06/2024 18:33

Think you need a direct approach, god how self obsessed . I'd also find a way of making a joke out of it but pointedly taking the piss as well. Ffs put it away 🥱

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