WhatsApp group being ruined by underwear pics

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I don't really know if I'm overreacting here.

I'm in a WhatsApp group with some mums originally from reception. Our kids are teens now. We are loose friends for years, have a night out about twice a year and a summer get together with the DC. These gatherings usually have about half the group there so while we keep up-to-date with the chatting on the group it's not unusual to not see a person in person for a few years.

One of the women, Natalie recently got into fitness working out with a PT twice a week. She was slim already. A few months ago she went to her school reunion and shared that she was nervous. She posted a photo of herself about to go out and we all told her she looked gorgeous - she did! Later she said some of the women were unfriendly and we all joked that they were jealous of her. She then made some nasty remarks about them being very fat and old looking now. It was a bit weird but the conversation moved on.

Some of the women in our group are struggling with their self esteem and upset about their weight. I don't know why as I only ever see them looking great but this is what they have shared.

Natalie, possibly spurred on by our compliments is constantly posting photos of herself. What started with outfits is now underwear shots every few days referring to her thighs, snatched waist or whatever.

I personally am delighted for anyone working on their fitness and feeling good about themselves (I'm in that camp) but the relentless photos and self congratulating are really peeing me off. It's not a group about fitness, nobody else is sharing progress photos and frankly it's bloody annoying.

It's gotten to the point I have muted the group and rarely post. I am holding myself back from making a caustic remark.

Yabu : she can do what she wants and is possibly inspiring the others
Yanbu : what a tedious bore - tell her to get a grip.

I'd just make a new group without her.

I'd be tempted to put a pic or two of Celeste Barber roasting celebrities in their underwear .
Or at the very least commenting that I feel like I see her in her undies more often than myself.

"You're looking great Natalie. Maybe you should set up a separate WhatsApp group to share tips and tricks with those who are interested in them?"

I think it's quite sad that she's obviously so desperate for validation. It comes from a place of insecurity even if it looks like showing off! Genuinely confident people don't need constant likes and comments from others. I would just ignore her posts & I'm sure others will do the same eventually. If she's not getting attention for them, I'm sure she'll feel embarrassed and stop after a while.

Can't the admin of the group chuck her out?

She's got Samantha Brick syndrome; other women are jealous of her good looks rather than because she's obnoxious.

It's tricky. She clearly isn't as confident as she would like others to think she is or she wouldn't be seeking so much validation from others.

I think it would be reasonable to ask her not to post underwear pics. Who actually thinks their friends want to see that?

This is what I'd do and then she can keep posting pictures and might get the hint when nobody comments. It's quite sad really.

Who does that!!!

Hey Natalie! You’ve forgotten to put your clothes on! AGAIN 😂

So this is how this would go in a group full of men

"Bloody hell Dave, I see more of you in your undercrackers than I do my own wife. Yes, you're very sexy, now rein it in"

And then a bunch of laughing emojis, and the problem is solved.

Just be blunt and jokey about it.

Start another group with the same name but a 2 on the end and just don't add her. 🙈 Or is that far too childish? 🤣

I'd probably mute her and hope she gets bored. Maybe do a Celeste Barber and recreate her pics yourself. I'm sure you'll get better response.

Oh we had one of these at work. The group become this person show. Didn't comment on other's stuff but was the biggest brag I've ever come across. People who are like that are insecure and have a point to prove.

Anyway, I too, muted and archived the group as I couldn't stand it.

Not to be too outing but this person then really rubbed it in for the creator of the group and sent her a personal message with accompanying pic of said personal matter and said don't worry youll have this one day. No prior messaging, no prompting, just a rub it in more brag. Any way this upset the group maker so it took a couple of weeks of pent up resentment then she kicked her from the group and blocked her on everything. Never been so happy that happened 🤣🤣🤣🤣 I no longer get daily updates.

Drop some Arnie or Hulk memes in response or similar. Diffuse it by making the point in a way that could be interpreted as complimentary by her but using the samd, very repetitive memes will soon make the point about how samey her messages are.

I want to know how Natalie is

I thought of Celeste as well 🤣

Looking good Natalie, I’m sure you’ll start to see some results soon so keep at it!

na, tell her you're worried about her self esteem as she seems compelled to post half-naked photos of herself so frequently

Let us know how it goes!

This is the approach I’d take, sounds very tedious.

Suggest she get an OF page.

We had something similar in a WhatsApp group. A friend of a friend was brought into the group. She was going through a divorce and didn't have many friends

She started going to the gym etc and then the posting of pics started. At first compliments were plentiful but then it just got boring.

We did ask our friend to tell her enough is enough. We weren't interested in photos of her.

She posted a pic of herself in a bikini. My SIL posted a pic of a blender. It made no sense but was hilarious. Every time she posted a pic, someone responded with a completely irrelevant photo of something in their house. No explanation just the photo.

She eventually stopped. Yes it was very passive aggressive but it was hilarious.
(You probably have to be as weird as us to appreciate it!)

Start a new group and all leave the old one en masse. There's a message every time someone leaves the group, and at some point she'll be the only one left. She might realise then.

That's what I might do, make a semi joke give it a rest this isn't OnlyFans you know post, I would 100% not want underwear photos from even my closet friends.

However given you haven't seen her for years I'd simply start another WhatsApp group and invite all the old group members without her, she really doesn't sound very nice.

Can't you send her a personal message saying you feel it's a tad disrespectful to some of the other members who may be struggling with their body issues for her to keep posting these pics?

She'll probably think OP is jealous or struggling with body issues.

As Natalie has been slagging off women I'd go with the poster above "that's unnecessary. Bit too much focus on looks around here lately for my tastes."