To think it's not right that DD(19) has a 61 year old mum

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Don't know why it's just hit me at 10.45 on a Saturday night in June.

Just feels weird that a girl not yet out of her teens has a mum over 60!

I’ll be 62 when my son is 19.

Doesn't sound like you know many people in their forties.

Lol 😆 🤣...oh love..don't worry.

My best friends are both in their mid sixties and we all have 20 year olds. Their children had more trouble with bullying at school than they do now. If it has never mattered before, nothing has changed. Age is merely a number.

I think it's about personality rather than age. Also lifestyle.
Growing up my best friends mum was 11/12 years older than mine, but more relaxed and sociable. She never seemed old and still seems about the same age as my mum.

I'm 39 with a 6 year old, but some of my friends the same age are saying that we are getting old and need to slow down, even the childfree ones. At 39! I still feel 19 😅

My ex colleague was 51 with a 10 year old and was very youthful, I didn't believe her when she told me her age.
My SIL had kids at 16 and 21 who are in their 20s now but her and her husband seem old in their 50s as they don't look after themselves really.

You can't change it. You sound like a lovely mum x

I'll be 65 when my son turns 19, 66 a month after.

Similarly, my parents has us relatively late and are in their late 80s now. I was so surprised when a schoolfriend put up a birthday wish on Facebook last week for her mother's 70th. That just didn't add up to me.

I guess we get used to what we know.

I’ll be 63/64 when my son is 19. I’ve never regretted it and neither does he. We’re on holiday at the moment and he’s asked if I’ll go clubbing with him so I hardly think he’s bothered by my age and nor am I 😂
Live your life and enjoy your daughter - many don’t get the opportunity - I nearly missed my chance and I’ll be forever grateful that i was lucky enough to have him x

I'll be 62 and 65 when my DD and DS hit 19. My brother will be 73 when his DD reaches 19. Not a lot we can do about it but we are loving it and the kids are happy. And that's all that matters!

When my DS is 19 I will be 65

I'm the same age as her, and I'd hate to be the one to break it to her that grey hair can happen in your 30s!

Same here. It’s never been an issue.

@TheTruthWillSetYouFreeMaybe my gran was 43 when my dad was born - we didn't lose her until he was almost 50, and I was almost 20. So try not to worry about him not having you for long - he might have to put up with you for many, many more years to come ☺️

What? It's not weird at all, it's very common nowadays for people to have children later in life for a vast variety of reasons. Do you take care of your health? Keep well as best you can? Is there a reason why you're suddenly contemplating your age? Your age doesn't matter in the slightest, your relationship with your daughter is the only thing that matters

😂

She looks much younger and is very pretty. The bf hates it cos lots of his mates fancy her 😂

One of my closest friends had older parents and I don’t think it was ever a problem for her or them. 🙂She had never known anything different, after all.

PS If it’s any consolation, a friend of one of my old managers conceived naturally at 52! She already had two children in their twenties. I often think about her, even though I never met her!

I feel the opposite although I had my DC late twenties. I do understand how you feel. When I was a kid people were grandparents at forty or fifty and some in their early sixties were great grandparents! My Mum had me late and was always being mistaken for my Grandma. Also I lost both my parents before they reached 62 and I'm glad I was older to be able to deal with it.

My DS is in the same boat… just coming up to his 21st & I’m 62.
I don’t worry about it & neither should you 🤷‍♀️

It's sad that people are so judgemental. There is no ideal age to become a mother. I am an older mum: due to divorce and PCOS I ended up having my 2 sons in my early 40s. It wasn't my plan. Meeting their dad and having them were the most wonderful things. I swung around on zip wires with my young sons in my 40s and 50s, taught them to ski, ride bikes, played footy with them and raced them. I'm feeling older now I'm over 60 with a 20 and an 18 year old but they have never indicated that they were embarrassed by my ancientness. These days it's really common for women to have a baby in their late 30s and early 40s. I know when I was a child it was pretty odd. Having children later in life after a real struggle to become a mum made me determined to keep as fit as possible and also have as positive a mindset as possible. I hope I set them a good example by running and swimming and working hard to nurture my mental wellbeing as I know how much this impacts on those around me. My maturity meant I'd done a lot of thinking and growing by the time my sons came along. I don't know if my boys will turn round one day and say how could you have done this to us you ancient old fossil? We are all imperfect parents trying to do our best by our children.

When I’m 61 my DDs will be 22 & 24, not far off, and when my sister is 61 her youngest will be 20. My best friend will be 61 when her youngest is 19. I don’t think anyone thinks much of it these days x

I'm also 61 with a 19 year old DS. He's never thought of me as old and tbh I did far more with him when he was young than many of the younger mums. I was WWE wrestling buddy, Nerf gun opponent, water fight buddy you name it we did it. I taught him to dive and also how to do his first shave (now that was the most nerve wracking lol). I guess you're as old as you feel, I've never really felt my age apart from the odd aches and pains now 🤣. I don't remember doing much stuff with my parents so I think I wanted him to have a childhood full of memories, age didn't really come into it. I never felt old at the school gates either, had friends who also had a child in early 40s.

Please try not to worry about this. My sister and I were the daughters of an older mum and we loved it. In the early 1980s my mum would collect her state pension and my sister's child benefit from the post office at the same time. We never thought of her as too old - even when she was in her 90s and we were in our 50s. She always said we kept her young - as I'm sure your daughter will do too!😊

oh shut up

Thanks for all the lovely posts 💐

WTF has it got to do with you?

Don’t ever worry about your age, I was 32 when my current youngest was born and I don’t worry about how old I will be compared to him. I turn 36 in 2 months and we are trying for another and I still will not worry about my age as my children grow because I know it’s not about how old I am compared to other parents, it’s about how my children are raised.

I have been the youngest mum on the playground, I was 17 when my oldest was born and now I am one of the older mums on the playground and neither scenario has ever bothered me.