DH, Anita Rani and the see thru dress

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Going to a ball soon, and I want to wear something lovely, also fashionable.

I was looking at more transparent dresses, as they seem to be in and I definitely have the figure for this. I am 46.

DH said it's all inappropriate. He's never really been fussy about me looking sexy before, he has always liked me to look classy, I call it Princess of Wales style.

So I said, what about Anita Rani, she is my age and looked amazing. "Let's see" he said, "I have always thought she is beautiful". So he looks at the photo for a while, says nothing about her, but says I should not wear something like that as it would be sad.

So, AIBU, or do you need a divorce like Anita to wear what you want at 46?
She has credited her divorce as the catalyst for wearing this, and I think she looks amazing frankly!

Don’t forget your bronzer.

I thought the general rule for ‘classy’ was tits or legs? This puts both (and everything else) on show. Anita R was looking to be gossiped about and get attention - that’s part of her job. Also, as people have said a red carpet dress and a ball dress are very different - apart from anything else, most of the red carpet dresses get swapped for something more wearable for the after parties.

The Princess of Wales does lovely classy sheer dressing - the ones I’ve seen her wear have a solid ‘core’ (to cover the essentials and usually but not always all of the legs) then one or more of a sheer back, upper chest (with the solid bit not too low cut), lower legs and sleeves. If you want to go sheer OP, maybe something like that.

Honestly, when it comes to clothes, WWKW is a good way of playing safe (other than tiaras - don’t wear a tiara).

Also I’m obviously not talking about the famous catwalk dress she wore when either a teenager or just out of her teens. Firstly that wasn’t a ball gown and secondly everyone wears at least one dodgy outfit in their lifetime. She certainly wouldn’t wear it now.

Wear what you want and fuck what your husband thinks

hth

This doesn't "work" as a proper outfit on any one of any age. It "works" as an attention getting statement, designed purely to make people talk about/envy your body.

It's the difference between wanting attention for an acceptable reason (eg Anita promoting herself/her work at a work event) and wanting it to feed your own ego or insecurities (eg you wearing it to a social event).

No don't do it

I’m all for women wearing what they want but for me I wouldn’t enjoy wearing this dress

Fucking hell at our private school you'll be the talk of the parents for weeks.

pretty sure that's the idea 😂

I was that Anita wore it.
I watched her on C4's Aldi's Next Big Thing and was surprised she'd wear a dress like that.
It's tacky looking.

She looks awful in that dress.

Would you happily go to a function with your husband wearing for example a Borat mankini?

There's a difference between wear what you like and dressing like a normal person

Children there or not you'll look like Amanda Holden desperate for attention trying to make everything about her.

I'm not too fond of the dress - for any age. It seems Anita had a point to make and that's one way to do it.

I'm late 50s so could be called a bit of an old fuddy duddy. I've always like Anita Rani, think she is good at her job, is beautiful and thought she had good style from what she wore on TV. But this just made me a bit disappointed that she felt the need to do this...of course people can wear what they like.... but to me it's just not that flattering, even though she has a good body. To me style is how you wear clothes, not how you try to wear as little as possible.

No.

If she was wearing a different dress I'd think she had a stunning figure. In that one, I'm thinking, 'She's very thin ... BUT...'.

And normally I'd be telling myself to not be that critical. But a dress like that is literally inviting people to analyse and comment and keep score. It demands it.

If you're hoping people will give you 10/10 and that women will be envious and men lustful, you need to balance that against them knowing you have a colossal ego and no taste and possibly be secretly very amused.

No idea why, but Trump in his gold house comes to mind.

That dress is horrible! Anita is an attractive woman who looks nice in most things but, honestly, not that!

I think Anita Rani is brilliant, but really that wasn't one of her best decisions. You can go classy and figure-hugging without going see-through.

Good point, I was trying to figure out what it is about it and I couldn't put my finger on it. She's a stunningly beautiful woman, but she actually looks REALLY uncomfortable there. I know it's just one photo of a split second in time, but she doesn't look like she's "working" the dress. She looks like she's thinking "it seemed like a good idea at the time, now I'm not so sure...."

https://rixolondon.com/products/zuri-sequin-gold?variant=41745761468461&gad_source=1&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI4fu34ZvdhgMVQJRQBh1u7gmIEAQYASABEgIbrPD_BwE

A bit sheer but much more classy?

That's not the best pic of her wearing that dress.

That dress is not flattering on her and I can't imagine it's much nicer on anyone else. Your poor DH, I'd piss myself if someone I knew turned up to an event in it, sorry!

https://www.mytheresa.com/gb/en/women/christopher-esber-cristalla-embellished-sheer-gown-black-p00916715

Even this is better but still a bit more underwear required!

Awful dress. Firstly screams attention to me and not in a good way, in a way that suggests problems within the marriage and revenge. The black one linked looks beautiful. Sexy, modern, classy.
The nude colour always makes people look bigger than they are imo especially with a high neckline. As for the shapewear underneath it just reminds me of something my mum would wear to make her much smaller and I wouldn’t even want people knowing I owned if I had a great figure.

No I wouldn't feel comfortable wearing that. Don't have the figure anymore anyway!!
There are many styles way more classy that won't show everyone what you had for breakfast 😆

Sorry but AR looks like a textured condom in that dress. You’re going to a classy function, not a Kardashian at the Met Gala….