DH, Anita Rani and the see thru dress

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Going to a ball soon, and I want to wear something lovely, also fashionable.

I was looking at more transparent dresses, as they seem to be in and I definitely have the figure for this. I am 46.

DH said it's all inappropriate. He's never really been fussy about me looking sexy before, he has always liked me to look classy, I call it Princess of Wales style.

So I said, what about Anita Rani, she is my age and looked amazing. "Let's see" he said, "I have always thought she is beautiful". So he looks at the photo for a while, says nothing about her, but says I should not wear something like that as it would be sad.

So, AIBU, or do you need a divorce like Anita to wear what you want at 46?
She has credited her divorce as the catalyst for wearing this, and I think she looks amazing frankly!

He isn't and neither Anita.

The point of this is not to shame anyone but to point out that what celebrities wear for attention and career boosting opportunities, is not appropriate at a school or work function.

This was Jared Leto at the weekend..................... I wonder if he was going to a school ball?

Oh wait.....................it was a red carpet Vogue event.

@DontShow are you seeing a theme here on where or not to wear transparent clothing?

Jesus fucking Christ

Does anyone think that looks good?

The worst thing about Leto's outfit are the bloody serial killer fingers

@Ger1atricMillennial I went to a leavers service just yesterday at a public school and there was a dad in a sky blue linen suit with the shirt unbuttoned practically to the waist - the verger had to ask the leaver to ask his dad to button his shirt up before they would let the family into the chapel, the poor kid looked like he want to sink into the floor with mortification.

I just love the guy behind Jared Leto trying to keep a straight face😆

That dress is horrible. Honestly.

I dunno, I’d say that about Rihanna. RiRi’s pregnancy looks were not something I’d suggest the average woman tries out on mat leave.

Yep. This man is all of us,

(I’m thankful Mr Leto hasn’t volunteered to run the PTA tombola in his Pac-a-Mac & Pants combo!)

Hello you!

I don't care about this any more!

Don’t tell us:
you can see right through it 👀 ?

This thread is really sad. A person posted a summary of her conversation with her husband looking for thoughts; this is pretty standard forum behaviour. She also happened to reveal she's very body confident.

36 pages ensued, the majority of which were posters ridiculing her and trying to draw her back in even when she said she decided to go a different direction.

This isn't about a dress or what's appropriate anymore. This is about a woman over 35 thinking she looked good.

Forget the patriarchy, toxic masculinity etc - Mumsnet wins hands down for misogyny.

What did you decide to wear in the end, OP?

TBH @DontShow - I don't really care either. I just saw the photo whilst browsing and thought it was too good not to share it with a 36 page thread on transparent clothing.

So what are you wearing?

I don't think it is your DH's right to tell you what to wear. It is your choice.

But frankly, I would probably have divorced my DH if he had turned up at a function at my dd's school semi naked.

Wear what you like, but be prepared that this may be a step too far for many.

I’m not sure that’s quite accurate.

I think there were two things in many poster’s minds: first, that they genuinely felt it was too “red carpet” a look for a school ball and that, having been asked, it was reasonable to say so. And in fairness, OP took it on board and didn’t, which is really a discussion forum working as it should when asked for a second opinion.

But secondly I think maybe there was an element among many which propelled the discussion on beyond that of feeling disappointed that showing your knickers might be discussed in the context of proper female empowerment. As a mum, op has so much to celebrate about herself that should boil down to more than turning up at school in a dress that shows her underwear to get attention. I don’t think thecfusvusdion that that is not really “empowering “ is correctly construed as misogyny. As people have been at pains to point out, the men doing looked a bit lame too ( except Harry Styles🙊 😂)

I do not have boobs that do that, they won't be so pushed up. I am not flashy so v minimal styling I think it's totally opaque.

Interestingly he doesn’t have the thumbs done, clearly that would have been OTT 🤣

My DH calls this ‘the attention seeking’ type of dress. He said if I wore something like this he’d be very disappointed (I do have the body but wouldn’t wear this as I find it sad; I’m 44)

This is very appropriate for a cocktail party but still quite innapropiate for a school parents gathering OP. I’m aware you have a sexy bod and want to flaunt it but c’mon, can you just wait for the next party/cocktail/girls night out to show off your body? Do you really need to make a statement at your kids school get together? Is the urge to body flaunt THAT BAD?

I don’t agree. It was about someone wanting to wear a transparent dress at a school function. The reactions wouldn’t have been anymore positive if her husband had wanted to wear a see through suit.

You must be trolling as I’ve seen better looking shower curtains than that dress. Failing that perhaps you follow Bianca Censori as a style icon?

That’s fine. I quite like it. Not really dressy though but I like the overall style.

It's not cocktail length though?

I'm going to fit in just fine, it's not my first school ball by any stretch and there are ALL sorts there.

Not just Janet in accounts feeling like cinderella for the night, which sorry is the vibe you are giving me!