DH, Anita Rani and the see thru dress

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Going to a ball soon, and I want to wear something lovely, also fashionable.

I was looking at more transparent dresses, as they seem to be in and I definitely have the figure for this. I am 46.

DH said it's all inappropriate. He's never really been fussy about me looking sexy before, he has always liked me to look classy, I call it Princess of Wales style.

So I said, what about Anita Rani, she is my age and looked amazing. "Let's see" he said, "I have always thought she is beautiful". So he looks at the photo for a while, says nothing about her, but says I should not wear something like that as it would be sad.

So, AIBU, or do you need a divorce like Anita to wear what you want at 46?
She has credited her divorce as the catalyst for wearing this, and I think she looks amazing frankly!

Not this type of glamour.

I have a child at one of these schools and we have a ball in the next few weeks.

If I wore that there would be silence upon my entry and not in a good way.

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If that's the case the, the dress you've posted most definitely isn't the one!

Anita Rani seems to be getting a lot of publicity at the moment. I’ve seen several interviews, magazine articles etc with her. I suspect her agent (or maybe she has a publicist) advised her to wear something that would grab attention and get her photographed on the red carpet. She’s certainly got the figure for the dress but quite frankly she doesn’t look particularly good in it and I suspect it’s been worn because of its ability to further promote her rather than because she likes it or feels comfortable in it.

She has a nice figure for someone of 46, and I'm glad she's confident in herself, but that dress is absolutely vile. I'd have supported her more just pitching up in underwear.

Please don't wear anything like that. It's inappropriate and just screams "LOOK AT MEEEE!". That's not sexy, that's desperate for attention.

A school ball?! Please for the love of God
just wear something appropriate for the occasion. 🙆🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

Then you don’t want to turn up looking like an 80s Cher tribute act, do you? Your poor child 🤯

That’s definitely the cliche post-divorce dressing which is why he thinks it’s sad.

one, it wouldn’t be suitable at any ball I’ve ever been to. Not even university ‘balls’.

two, it just looks like her Spanx are showing.

There won't be any children there. It wasn't the exact dress... just that style I liked .

The ball I went to where the woman wore the red dress with the sparkly heart bikini top that looks straight out of Ann summers was a similar function. Every person there had a lot of money. I’m afraid there was a lot of speculation about whether the woman might have been paid to accompany the person she was with..

I mean you can wear what you want. But that frock is probably a bit much outside of a red carpet style wise. I don't mind a bit of sheer, quite like it, but a toned down version of that might work better for real life

What is it that you are hoping to achieve with a dress like that?

Is it for your husband, and other people, to say that you are and sexy and physically attractive?

Because to echo everyone else the response will be embarrassment rather than appreciation.

If you want your husband to physically desire you then this dress is not the answer

No, but you can bet that that will be photographed and put on social media. Not in an admiring way. My dc would kill me!

Unless you want to be gossiped about all evening (and beyond!!) just don't! Screams '"look at me!!!" which is never classy 🤷‍♀️

Going against the grain slightly… something similar with a longer cami underneath rather than a body suit could look amazing.
go for it!

I've never heard of the woman before but she looks totally ridiculous. If you turn up at a ball at a top public school wearing a monstrosity like that, no matter how wonderful you might think your figure is, you will be a laughing stock. And so will your children once photos get circulated of what little Tarquin's mother wore to the ball - and they most definitely will get circulated.

This is the sort of thing the school mums wear. It’s JW Anderson.

If the ball is for parents of pupils at a U.K. boarding school you’re more likely to get a hushed warning from the House Matron about how you’ve forgotten the slip dress layer of your ensemble and your giant, firm control panty girdle is inadvertently on show.

I don't think matrons come.

They live on site.

No, keep that for the wedding of your children, weddings need a classy non-attention seeking MIL don't they 😂

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Oh come on Op. this is now clearly a wind up

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Is it more something like this that you are after? https://www.coastfashion.com/product/coast-premium-embroidered-organza-midi-dress_bcc07047?colour=champagne

So there is a see through layer but under the layer is another dress rather than a swimming cossie.

If you look for classy fashionable inspiration, you are looking at the wrong person.

Follow Bianca Censori instead. Now that's the way to dress for a ball.