DH, Anita Rani and the see thru dress

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Going to a ball soon, and I want to wear something lovely, also fashionable.

I was looking at more transparent dresses, as they seem to be in and I definitely have the figure for this. I am 46.

DH said it's all inappropriate. He's never really been fussy about me looking sexy before, he has always liked me to look classy, I call it Princess of Wales style.

So I said, what about Anita Rani, she is my age and looked amazing. "Let's see" he said, "I have always thought she is beautiful". So he looks at the photo for a while, says nothing about her, but says I should not wear something like that as it would be sad.

So, AIBU, or do you need a divorce like Anita to wear what you want at 46?
She has credited her divorce as the catalyst for wearing this, and I think she looks amazing frankly!

This dress was linked on a style thread earlier. Sheer but a bit more elegant. It seems to have a mini skirt fitted under and I assume the bra is lined but the torso is sheer. Perhaps you can find something nicer than the swimsuit dress with still a bit of sheer fabric.
https://itsmilla.com/products/misty-rose-sheer-sleeves-maxi-tulle-dress?utm_source=RAN&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=2116208:Skimlinks.com&utm_term=10&ranMID=52898&ranEAID=TnL5HPStwNw&ranSiteID=TnL5HPStwNw-QYb18XKje5jJuGrgwCBWbw

That's a beautiful dress 😍

That's a dress for a ball.

That's gorgeous @Winter2020 😍

I would be embarrassed if I were your husband too to be honest. Most people will think WTF if you turn up at a ball in a see through dress, regardless as to whether some celebs do it.

Bloody hell that pink chiffon thing is a monstrosity fit only for Barbie.

Not keen on Anita’s outfit either and agree would grab attention for all the wrong reasons outside the red carpet context. There must be more options!

Wear whatever you want to wear because you want to wear it, not because you husband says so.

But expect that if you wear something attention seeking, you may well not get the type of attention you were looking for.

That's a red carpet dress, or clubbing dress - rather than a ball dress.

Also, don't like the big knickers at all. That's the only thing I'm coming away with in my head "big knickers, huge knickers". Few people look good in big knickers tbh.

The alternative, of course, is not big knickers ...which would be even more inappropriate at a ball. And probably even more unflattering.

Just get a vampy ball dress, if you want vampy.

I don't like the dress.
Absolutely nothing to do with age, size, sense of decency or any of that judgmental crap. I'm just not keen.

There's a world of difference between a red carpet or a fashion runway than a charity ball in St Albans.
Whether we like it or not there are unspoken social 'rules' and I wonder whether this type of dress would 'fit'. If that doesn't bother you then go for it.
It would help to have a little more detail about the event.

As for your husband. I always ask mine for his opinion but the demure princess crap wouldn't be welcome.

I don't really get what the question is.

Is AR's dress nice? IMO no (even though she's gorgeous)

Should you wear what you want? Yes

Should your DH tell you what to wear? No (but you did ask his opinion)

She's attractive but that picture is not a good look.

Don't go to a nice ball with your arse out.

I prefer classy to trashy so it’s a no from me.

What celebrities wear on the red carpet is a totally different thing to normal actually appropriate attire.

If you wear that you will look a fool and be laughed at. If you don't care about that then go for it. You're the one who will be wearing it and you're the one who'll deal with how others react. So it can only be what you are comfortable with.

Debobbler 😆

I don't think her DH tells her what to wear. She said he likes her to look classy. SHE mentioned Princess of Wales, not him. Also I'm sure he does like her to look well. Same as she probably likes him to make a bit of effort and look well too.

Jesus! Men get a hard time on here for the most innocuous things.

Transparent dresses are still a "No" from me @DontShow

I mean, I don't think a see-through dress works in real life; it's more of a red carpet trying to grab a headline type choice.

However - your DH can shove it with having an opinion on how you 'should' look as it's entirely your business and not his.

It’s a very silly dress.

I do think that about most dresses that are allegedly in fashion these days though tbf.

I don't like that at all.

It looks awful imo. Like beige shape wear under a net curtain. I strongly believe in wearing what you choose and I'd have given any man who told me to look 'classy' short shrift a long time ago, but, if I decided to go out in this I'd expect my family and friends to be honest and gently advise me against it. Because as well as being awful, it's way too much of a statement for a traditional type occasion.

On looking again, I'm not even sure if that's a body suit or a bra and big knickers (?)

Either way, I think flesh toned body suits/knickers flatter few people.

Screams mid life crises and tacky.

I also assume this is some sort of lame joke. Who the hell wants to wear a transparent dress in day to day life. Anita doesn’t pull it off and she’s on the red carpet, doing it for the publicity. She’s not off at some private social event.

I mean seriously though, don’t be daft 😂

I think your DH has been amazingly diplomatic.

She looks dreadful. Although you say you “have the figure for it”, you cannot go to a formal ball wearing that and expect anything to happen other than people talk about you all night (behind your back, because they’re too polite to do it to your face).

It's ridiculous. Why would you want to wear a dress to a formal occasion where people can see your arse?

Well if my husband decided he as going out in transparent clothing I’d have something to say about it, and if he insisted, I’d not be seen with him. So meh, in this circumstance I’m team dh as are most posters.