DH, Anita Rani and the see thru dress

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Going to a ball soon, and I want to wear something lovely, also fashionable.

I was looking at more transparent dresses, as they seem to be in and I definitely have the figure for this. I am 46.

DH said it's all inappropriate. He's never really been fussy about me looking sexy before, he has always liked me to look classy, I call it Princess of Wales style.

So I said, what about Anita Rani, she is my age and looked amazing. "Let's see" he said, "I have always thought she is beautiful". So he looks at the photo for a while, says nothing about her, but says I should not wear something like that as it would be sad.

So, AIBU, or do you need a divorce like Anita to wear what you want at 46?
She has credited her divorce as the catalyst for wearing this, and I think she looks amazing frankly!

Straight out of the book of quotes by Bianca Censori 😁

Then no no no. Not a school ball. No way

highly inappropriate and you might be asked to leave. 😂

Ditto

But she doesn't look amazing. It doesn't do anything for her at all other than generate lots of conversation about why anyone would wear a net curtain over a school leotard.

I can't believe this is real.

No parent whose child attended a top public school would believe for one moment that they could go to a ball dressed like that.

I also doubt that a genuine parent of such a child would be so crass as to boast it was one of the 'best' private schools.

Is OP having a little joke with us all?

I say this as someone who's had professional connections with independent schools and friends who've attended them (top ones, of course.)

The dress would have been lovely if it had been lined in the torso, but this looks ridiculous.

You've really not understood either of my posts.

This ^^ Plus the fact the OP doesn't take the hint and can't comprehend any differing opinions. If she's so sure in her choice of clothes, why continue posting and arguing here?

Probably another troll. Lots of them seem to be around lately.

The dress is just ugly and not sexy at all? Wear what you like but it’s not sexy basically 🤷‍♀️

So many unkind comments on this thread. I personally love the shear ball gown that was suggested by another poster. It’s absolutely stunning and quite reasonably priced.

You seem to be starting with a sweeping assumption with no basis, i.e. that Mumsnet is a ‘hive mind’ and everyone (other than you of course) agrees with each other at all times. You are then making the bizarre assumption that if Mumsnetter A says ‘don’t judge’ or ‘be kind’ or similar but Mumsnetters B, C and D (who have absolutely no connection with Mumsnetter A) say something that contradicts this on this thread, that is somehow an ‘aha’ point that shows some sort of hypocrisy / inconsistency.

I understand your post. I just think you are making no sense whatsoever.

My DH and I have come to this conclusion too. My personal experience of a private (not public) school is that they don’t flaunt their wealth and they certainly don’t do it at a PTA ball - ie a sit down meal, charity auction (for a free week at someone’s villa, spa afternoon at the local village spa, etc), and a dance with a local [or even 6th form] cover band providing the music… all in the school hall. And there is enough cattiness amongst a small section of the mums that you absolutely wouldn’t make yourself a target by dressing like a Kardashian.

She is beautiful but this is really not a good look. It's trying too hard. Your husband is right.

If you have a good body then any figure hugging dress will look great. Why be so obvious and attention seeking?

I have noticed this a lot recently too. lots of rage bait threads for example

annoying as takes the attention away from mumsnetters genuinely posting needing help

I generally take the view that as long as it’s not an obvious financial scam (which this one isn’t since the OP has stressed how well off she and her DH are), with threads like this one, it’s more entertaining to take it completely seriously and go with the flow, even if it seems far fetched.

Even if the OP isn’t accurate, the advice may help someone.

Obviously it’s different with posts trying for significant emotional involvement etc.

Yeh that's not classy, nice, nor appropriate.
Stick with your husband

I thought it was a rather ugly dress, regardless of whether she had the figure for it or not.

I think that a transparent suit with his shreddies on display would also make a fool out of a man!

It would look good with a short sexy dress underneath

This is quite an identifying thread as you've shared a picture of the dress as well as personal details. Plus your determination to wear the dress against good advice is very obvious. If you decide to wear it you may be identified by another mnetter also attending the same event.

To protect the privacy of your children, it might be best to choose another dress.

True, I don't need help, but i dont think mumsnet is exclusively for those in dire personal straits (indeed, it is sometimes very clearly the wrong place for people seriously in need to come asking for support).

Its all mildly amusing, sparked off by a discussion with my DH, which was the main point of the post. It's odd how it's been so triggering for some to discuss see thru clothing!

I'm not sure I've even said I was considering Anita's exact dress, just mused about wearing one like it.

I actually think I'm going to wear something else not transparent, but tight with one shoulder and a modest split.

Except I've said twice I don't want to wear that dress!

I’m so sorry, I hate being nasty but she looks awful! This kind of dress is okay for a celebrity to wear as they’re supposed to stand out but if I saw someone wearing similar at a ball (I go to lots of balls due to my work links) I would silently think how awful that person looks and why did t a family member tell them!

but of course wear what you want it’s your life but I agree with your DH

Tbh both dresses are showing a lot in two different ways, if that’s the look you’re going for I’d wear it. If I had a good enough figure for something like that though there are lots of dresses I’d choose before those two which could still be sexy but not as obvious, that’s my opinion OP. Wear what you want I say.