DH, Anita Rani and the see thru dress

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Going to a ball soon, and I want to wear something lovely, also fashionable.

I was looking at more transparent dresses, as they seem to be in and I definitely have the figure for this. I am 46.

DH said it's all inappropriate. He's never really been fussy about me looking sexy before, he has always liked me to look classy, I call it Princess of Wales style.

So I said, what about Anita Rani, she is my age and looked amazing. "Let's see" he said, "I have always thought she is beautiful". So he looks at the photo for a while, says nothing about her, but says I should not wear something like that as it would be sad.

So, AIBU, or do you need a divorce like Anita to wear what you want at 46?
She has credited her divorce as the catalyst for wearing this, and I think she looks amazing frankly!

I get that it might not be appropriate for a school event but l really think majority are being incredibly judgy.

Think it’s comparing chalk and cheese, Cher’s dress is very well made for her. Anita’s dress doesn’t compliment her stunning self, or her colouring.

She does look incredible, but she's on a red carpet. Celebrities/well known people wear things that the average person wouldn't just because they can.

Definitely agree.

My opinion of AR has only gone down since I saw her in that.

I wondered why someone who is intelligent, who is on Countryfile and Woman's Hour has to stoop so low as to wear that .
It's as if she's revisiting her teenage years by doing something rebellious. Which at 45 is just ridiculous.

It's not quite Kane West's wife's look but it's heading in that direction.

Another person who went that way is Carol Vorderman. Clearly very intelligent, pretty, nice figure and she goes and ruins it all by looking like a Kardashian some of the time.

IMHO, the bodice is lovely, but the bottom of the dress is a little cringe. It's really not sexy, and just draws your attention to the crotch area. NOT in a good way.

In which case why on earth would you go in a see through dress?
It screams of attention-seeking (not in a good way) and looks trashy.

Something like this could work OP if you have your heart set on sheer embellished kinda dress. With a similar colour slip for modesty maybe…

https://www.ohpolly.com/products/isabeau-long-sleeve-gown-mocha

Celebrities at celebrity events can get away with things that mere mortals, even beautiful ones at expensive private school balls, cannot.

She looks fabulous in that picture but she's not a "real" person at a "real" event...her job is, in part, to be seen and create images that just aren't part of "real life".

This doesn't mean you must not wear it, but you should remember that people like her wear dresses like this in a completely different context to more or less anything that you or I would be in, even if we're stunning (and I'm definitely not; you might be, but it's still a different context). It just won't be taken in the same way and you can't convince people otherwise. If you're OK with that, go for it. If not, perhaps a nod to the style; some sheerness on top but otherwise opaque or something?

https://www.wolfandbadger.com/uk/red-dress/

I think this could be perfect...

(Maybe not)

OMG! That looks ridiculous. I don't care what your age is, or how fantastic your figure is, it's a big NO! I'd far rather look classy and sophisticated than tarty. Less is more and is sexier than showing everything.

She looks great
Go for it

This coast dress was posted on another thread and I think would suit the event you are going to. You need to dress appropriately for the event and not because you like a certain style.

😂😂😂

It’s good it comes with a free matching thong.

Very thoughtful.

I don't think Anita Rani looks good at all in that dress. It just looks like a net curtain with bobbles over a a swimsuit. She's usually better dressed than that.

Personally, I don't think it's appropriate for a private school ball as it is a very bold piece, and will certainly attract attention.

However, wear what you want and what makes you feel good.

Oh my. I’ve just read this update. Glamour. Expensive. Private school. School. Where your children are educated. None of that fits with that dress. It makes me cringe just thinking about it. That kind of event needs class and glamour. Not red carpet Instagram bait.

Firstly, he shouldn’t be dictating what you wear.

Secondly, why the hell would you want to wear something like that?

It's a
Look At Me
Look At Me dress!

She wore a beautiful dress when she did the Portsmouth DDay commemoration programme - she looked very classy.

The ONLY person’s view that matters is yours.

I have always loved that dress Scarlet O’hara is wearing. It’s so sumptuous and gorgeous, it makes me want to swoon.

I am a firm believer in legs or boobs (I never actually like boobs on display). My style icon is Audrey Hepburn so my taste is very classic.

Not when it comes to business/networking/professional events or events at your child's school.

It’s awful, and still would be at any age! Have some self respect and wear something classy!

Tbh unless you are below 30 and slim hourglass this dress will not look good on you. Evem thn you can get much better one.
It does not look good on her.

You can 100% wear what you want and not listen to anyone telling you about "oh my it is immoral!"...
But there is like thousand dresses that flatter body and make you look actually sexy and not like defrosted duck left in Aldis.

Looks awful, is it classy, absolutely not!