DH, Anita Rani and the see thru dress

[DontShow]

Going to a ball soon, and I want to wear something lovely, also fashionable.

I was looking at more transparent dresses, as they seem to be in and I definitely have the figure for this. I am 46.

DH said it's all inappropriate. He's never really been fussy about me looking sexy before, he has always liked me to look classy, I call it Princess of Wales style.

So I said, what about Anita Rani, she is my age and looked amazing. "Let's see" he said, "I have always thought she is beautiful". So he looks at the photo for a while, says nothing about her, but says I should not wear something like that as it would be sad.

So, AIBU, or do you need a divorce like Anita to wear what you want at 46?
She has credited her divorce as the catalyst for wearing this, and I think she looks amazing frankly!

sorry but this
I don't see too many men wearing see-through clothes

I’m with your DH OP I really dislike the trend of this type of clothes. You could have an elegant or sexy dress without showing lingerie.

Just my opinion but I don't think anyone looks good dressed like that. Even if you have the best figure, I think you're going to look much better with solid fabric that skirts the curves nicely and shows your figure that way. This just looks like a confused mess to me.

And that aside, it's not appropriate for a family event. There's a good chance your child will get a good ribbing forever about this. I think Hollywood can get away with this in some contexts, but not everyday contexts. By all means, wear what you want, but it just can't look good (in my opinion).

@DontShow OP I think the issue is WHERE you want to wear it. It just isn't suitable for a ball. Whether it's right or wrong there are dress codes.

Um, guys? You know this is a windup, right?

It’s nothing to do with age for me. Not sure why anyone, male or female, wants to strut around in their underwear and throw a bit of net/lace over it and think they look classy.

No I wouldn't.

I think what you are missing here is that these sort of couture dresses are for red carpet events - they are literally about wearing and parading the couture and attracting attention for the purposes of career promotion.

These are not dresses meant for real life or even sometimes sitting down in - just have a look at some of the stuff that peole wear to the Met Ball.

It doesn't matter whether you have the figure for it. What matters is are you attending a red carpet event to be photographed to promote yourself?

If not, then it's a hard no.

I say wear a dress like Anita Rani’s if you like.

I would imagine people would be nice to your face but slag you off behind your back. At the very least you’d be called tacky and tasteless and a try too hard.

The school ball may be glamorous - this dress isn’t though. It’s a dress designed to make people talk and get attention on the red carpet.

No matter how good you think you look, people will talk and it won’t be complimentary.

And the people who wear them on the red carpet often change as soon as they get inside. No one actually wears a lot of red carpet couture - they pose in it then get out of it asap.

There was an article once in which an A list actress was followed getting ready for the Oscars. She travelled there kneeling on the floor of the limo because the dress wasn’t designed for sitting down in and had a second dress to wear inside.

That dress is not suitable for a ball. Neither is it glamorous.
Anita Rani is a beautiful woman. In that dress she is giving off "look at me, I'm recently divorced and doing what I want to" vibes.
It's not a good look on her or anyone else.

You're going to look desperate and attention seeking, all eyes will be on you for all the wrong reasons.
Go for it. 🍿

Whilst it should be 100% your choice, why should you just follow some awful fashion?

If you do wear a similar dress, and I wouldn't recommend it, I hope you will look happier in it than Anita Rani looks in the photograph. Her expression says 'omg I so wish I hadn't started this!'

I think the comments on this thread are probably pretty representative of the comments that other parents would say to each other if you did go to the ball in it.

It's inappropriate and too attention seeking and just not a nice dress.

I think you have totally missed the point @Anotherparkingthread. This isn't about ageism, it's about reading the room and dressing appropriately. The OP would be remembered for all the wrong reasons.

Tbh regardless of thoughts on the sheer dress - that style is on its way out so I’m afraid you’re late to the game OP!

Are we sure the OP isn't winding us up?

Would you be happy if your dh decided to wear a transparent suit to the ball> maybe a matching set for the both of you!

Wow, Anita Rani looks terribly ill at ease in that picture.

It’s an attention seeking dress for all the wrong reasons.

Think Bianca West, Kanye’s new idiot girlfriend/wife.

Its trying in a vapid way to be sexually daring:shocking but it looks grim to me.

Choose something genuinely stylish!!

I would just be embarrassed, feel like the school bike in that!

Hahahahaha-! Sorry, no. She looks ridiculous.
Good figure does not mean you have to go around in underwear. Amongst other school parents no less. Your poor husband and your poor son/daughter!

You’ll be the talk of the school parents - and then once the students see the photos your son/daughter will get teased mercilessly.

Google shows that AR is no stranger to a revealing frock. This one misses the mark though.

💯

Her defensive repostes suggest not!

It sounds like you have more money than sense. Why not engage a personal shopper instead?

I think these kind where you wear flesh coloured but obviously seen knickers underneath look tacky and I'm not prudish at all. I'm all for skimpy and sexy, hell go out in actual lingerie if you want but this just looks a bit crap like we can all see your spanks.