DH, Anita Rani and the see thru dress

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Going to a ball soon, and I want to wear something lovely, also fashionable.

I was looking at more transparent dresses, as they seem to be in and I definitely have the figure for this. I am 46.

DH said it's all inappropriate. He's never really been fussy about me looking sexy before, he has always liked me to look classy, I call it Princess of Wales style.

So I said, what about Anita Rani, she is my age and looked amazing. "Let's see" he said, "I have always thought she is beautiful". So he looks at the photo for a while, says nothing about her, but says I should not wear something like that as it would be sad.

So, AIBU, or do you need a divorce like Anita to wear what you want at 46?
She has credited her divorce as the catalyst for wearing this, and I think she looks amazing frankly!

You can wear what you like, be prepared to be avoided by most people on the night though and the topic of conversation for a while.
It's not a good look, even on a celebrity. I think it's the colour more than anything -it's just not aesthetically pleasing.

That beige colour is awful, it makes her look like a maggot.

I agree with PPs above - it’s a ‘look at meeeeeee’ statement piece. Doesn’t work if you are the korean mother of the bride (see another thread on this) or even when worn by Anita Rani, Carol Vordaman or anyone else because it appears like a desperate, attention seeking act by an aging or narcissistic woman.

Really, you can find some exquisite, sexy dresses that will get you the ‘Wow’ response, compliment your DH’s evening wear and avoid the pitting snickers.

I literally just did this…

This thread has given me quite a laugh this morning.

OP, seriously no. You'd be a laughing stock, remembered for years to come.

No no no and another million nos

This just proves you can't buy taste or style !

As an aside, I find it sad that the "I am 46" sounds relevant.

It really is not. It's a ridiculous outfit even for a 20 year old in that context.
In a tart and vicar party, it's fine at any age if you think you can pull it off I might have been watching Bridget Jones last night

That's a cocktail dress not a ball gown and it's a desperate thing to wear OP.

Classy will always be....classy.

It IS a bit maggoty...lol.

It's an awful colour, shape, the bobbly texture...the undergarments, it looks pretty bad to me.
But...taste is very subjective. You see something that I don't.

If you want people to be sniggering behind their glasses at you then go for it. Sorry those dresses are not appropriate for any age, any figure, anyone. It’s just shouts I want the attention on me.

went to a wedding were a guest wore something like this. She strutted around thinking she was the bees knees. Everyone was laughing at her. Sorry I know in perfect world you should be able to wear what you like buts it not a perfect world and people do judge

Awful. My husband would probably find an excuse not to go. As I would if he choose a see through suit.

I think everyone here would absolutely would say wear what you want and stuff DH - but the issue is that this dress is dreadful: shapeless, does nothing to show the wearer’s figure (it blurs her shape, rather than accentuates it) and reeks of ‘I’m desperate for attention’, especially if being worn at your child’s school’s fundraising ball. They will be deeply embarrassed by this when the post-ball gossip reaches their ears.

Just buy a beautiful, sexy, expensive dress that doesn’t look as though it’s been fashioned out of aunt Ethel’s old net curtains.

Maybe it looked better animated? While she was moving?

The still makes it seem an odd choice. Again that's only my opinion.

When did girl power become about being practically naked in public!!!!

attention seeking, me me me power more like it

I think you're getting 'glamorous' and 'glamour model' confused @DontShow

Sorry just seen it’s a private school and the county best will be turning up.
In the case fill your boots chances are there will be other people desperate to attention seek so you may not have the worse outfit after all.

Your DH sounds very restrained, OP. Mine would fall about laughing.

It IS a bit maggoty...lol.
😂😂😂

All the dress does is show what a great figure she has, but it isn't flattering or a good look in itself. There are a billion dresses out there which she (and you) would look fantastic in. If you just want to show of your figure then you may as well wear your underwear.

Just hoping we don't have to have mentioned 'sisterhood'

Even less appropriate at a school event, children or no children there. An event like this could be compared to a work networking event - one where propriety and, yes, classiness are paramount, rather than letting your hair down as you would if you were with friends (regardless of whether you are friends with other attendees). You are, in effect, representing your child and your family. You want other parents and those involved with the school to see you as a serious, intelligent person who inspires respect. You can look gorgeous at the same time, but you need to strike the right note.

She looks terrible, and you would too. I don't care what figure you've got, don't do it.

There's a lot of women here preaching feminism while putting a woman down for wanting to show her femininity just because it's not a way they'd do it.

Girl power is a phrase. Doesn't mean you're a fucking girl.

Bit of support wouldn't go a miss.

Again, that dress is shit but other transparent dresses are gorgeous. Hannah Waddingham is one to get ideas from.

I imagine most of the women there will be rich and many will have nice figures....

So if you want to stand out perhaps aim for something that says class / elegance etc rather than LOOK AT MEEEEEEE