DH, Anita Rani and the see thru dress

[DontShow]

Going to a ball soon, and I want to wear something lovely, also fashionable.

I was looking at more transparent dresses, as they seem to be in and I definitely have the figure for this. I am 46.

DH said it's all inappropriate. He's never really been fussy about me looking sexy before, he has always liked me to look classy, I call it Princess of Wales style.

So I said, what about Anita Rani, she is my age and looked amazing. "Let's see" he said, "I have always thought she is beautiful". So he looks at the photo for a while, says nothing about her, but says I should not wear something like that as it would be sad.

So, AIBU, or do you need a divorce like Anita to wear what you want at 46?
She has credited her divorce as the catalyst for wearing this, and I think she looks amazing frankly!

Desperate for attention again 🤢

That dress doesn’t even look good on Anita Rani. It or anything similar isn’t suitable for a ball. It’s only suitable for a red carpet event. And even then it’s very try too hard.

You can definitely still do glamour though. There are lots of stunning glam dresses available that would be infinitely nicer than a dress like that.

Well clearly it's in no way appropriate then!

You don't go to a ball with your child's friend's parents and teachers wearing a transparent outfit,

Having been to private school balls many times it would be entirely out of place, ime.

It doesn't show confidence, it shows someone desperate for attention. People cringe, the way they cringe when a MIL wears a ridiculous outfit at a wedding. People will feel sorry for her, or just laugh at her.

Kate in her golden dress doesn't look desperate, she looks stunning. That's the difference.

Because fashion makes fools out of women….

Not just private school fundraisers.
Plenty of state schools, especially in well heeled areas, have fundraising balls too.

No children at any of the ones I went to.

Totally agree with both posters here. It's hilarious that you're even mentioning feminism when discussing wearing something that's arguably designed to highlight to men your sexual desirability.

Because "GIRL POWER!!!", apparently.

Is this your first formal event at this school @DontShow ? Might be best to play it safe this time round. If all the mums are there in see through outfits, then you'll know for next year.

“Girl Poser” would be a lot more empowering if it was about the freedom not to look “sexy”. But it isn’t.

Just shows money can’t buy class

If you want to look like you've wandered into the buffet hall on a Tui all inclusive holiday, having spent the morning prone on your sunbed smothered in coconut oil, then you've nailed it.

For a private school ball, then it's a no from me. Your DH is right. Wearing a see through dress isn't showing girl power, it's cheap and tacky.

That dress gets a big no from me. I think Anita looks uncomfortable in it.

Power not Poser 😳

It's awful, it looks like one of those beach cover ups you throw on over a swimsuit to walk to the bar/toilet etc. Not classy for a ball (and I generally like quite "sexy" evening dresses and think age is not an issue if it suits your figure). Will turn heads but not for good reasons.

Not to mention the practicalities- won't all that synthetic fabric right next to your skin make you feel all sweaty and stinky?

Yes that would look just as "good" wouldn't it.

its inappropriate for a ball, no matter age or figure. It screams ‘I’m desperate for people to think I’m sexy’.

You’re not a Z list celeb at an awards show. You’re going to a school event, fgs.

Call me old fashioned (I am) but I don't think you should be showing your underwear at an event at any age. Maybe a beach club abroad I guess.

She looks good but could look so much better in something more appropriate!

You seriously want to embarrass your children forever more as the mum who turned up showing her underwear? Whether there are children in attendance or not I think the sight of you dressed as a desperate twenty year old would soon reach their ears one way or another due to the hilarity it will provoke irrespective of your personal opinion on your figure.
And for future information showing your knickers is not a feminist act and “girl power” was purely a stupid slogan promoting the ladettes of the nineties who were just as conditioned by men as we all were.

OP. Just no.

It looks cheap and tacky.

@DontShow There are some lovely transparent-ish dresses round, personally I don’t like that one. I might have used the word ‘sad’ too. What @DustyLee123 said 🫣🤣 is spot on.

I have seen worse on Florence Pugh. But I agree that it would be inapppropriate for non slebs, particularly at a school balll

I think it smacks of desperation tbh. It would look like you wanted everyone to see how fabulous you look in a swimsuit. If it’s a school event, you’ll have the other mums’ claws out and this might impact your DC.
You say you have the figure for it and it’s great that you have such self confidence but I think that you’re very naive if you think the other mums’ will see it as ‘Girl Power’
Personally I wouldn’t wear anything that could put my DC in the firing line.
I’m not condoning bitchiness of women but I’ve witnessed it and it’s awful.