First date - is this not a bit weird of him??

[Lilifer]

I joined an old fashioned dating agency a month ago and was sent a match last week. The way it works is that if you like the look of the profile of the guy you let the agency know, and they then contact the man to let him know to contact you, and they give him your number,

So far so good, man, let's call him John rang me on Tuesday to see if I would like to meet up. I suggested we meet up in a city that's half way between us both, (we both live rurally) initially I suggested coffee but he said he would like to go for lunch so I said that's fine, pick a restaurant and let me know which one and I'll see you there at 2pm Saturday.

I waited to hear back which restaurant he was choosing. Yesterday he messaged me to ask where I would be parking so that he could choose a place that's within walking distance of where I parked. (Which I thought was considerate of him.) I told him where I was parking and heard nothing back until just now when he messaged me to say that if it's ok, he'll contact me at 2-ish tomorrow to let me know where he is.

Aibu to find that bizarre and more than a little annoying? He's had 3 days to figure out a restaurant, it's not that hard to settle on a place. And we were meant to be meeting at 2 so what's with the "I'll message you at 2ish" about?? So I'm meant to drive an hour to get to the city , and park and then wait to be given my instructions ... 🤨 I'm a bit unimpressed to be honest.

He did say a couple days ago when we chatted on phone that as he lives rurally an hour from this city he's not too familiar with the restaurants but we all know how to google these days, it's not that hard.

I just think it's weird. I was already a bit nervous of this date as it's my first time getting out there since my divorce and now this has kind of thrown me and I don't know what to respond to him .. can anyone advise?

Best of luck! Enjoy your date 😊

Says someone whom used the word ‘meh.’

Keep us posted right up until the ring 💍 🤣

Least I read the thread.

I think I know where the OP is on her date ☕️ 🍰 🥪, very nice indeed.
I hope it’s going well!

RTFT @Dontgetdebtpet , all this was clearly explained.

Just consider what your socialising style is as well going forward.

I'm a 'planner' and by the sounds of it you are, too. Meaning, I like to have a definite place, and time, and what we'll be doing, several days in advance, whether it's a bf, friend, family member. It's partly because I have a fairly full diary and will need to plan every day's logistics beforehand.

If a guy would text me late the previous night or the morning of the day to firm up plans, I'm sorry, I will have already made other plans if he hasn't sorted himself out by then. I've had a few occasions where the bf says 'let's do something Sat morning' and then by the time comes, actually has to work or similar, and I've ended up wasting a Saturday with no plans, so I no longer have patience for people's last minute plan making.

The man that really impressed me told me on Tuesday 'I have booked restaurant x for time x for Saturday 7pm, does that suit?' I operate similarly myself and that caught my eye, and that's an important quality for me in a person, I have realised. I like concreteness.

So in the longer-term, if you have found so far in life that last-minute plan makers/ flakey people really frustrate you, and it's an important need for you, I'd suggest and evaluate to communicate accordingly early on, and not compromise on that.

Good luck with the date and make sure to update how it went! 😊

Make sure you update after!!!

It's not the 50s. Choose somewhere and tell him you'll see him there at 2pm.

How'd it go?

Only just caught this thread, hope you're having a nice time @Lilifer

Looking forward to seeing how this went!

Looking forward to an update, I'd love afternoon tea.

I’m looking forward to the update!

Looking forward to the update!

Hope you have a lovely time OP.

I hope the date went well.

It's not a big deal. I'm sure he'll let you know by the time you've parked up anyway. And then you can go straight to where he's chosen. Maybe he just wants to check the eateries in person, as he's unfamiliar with the area. I highly doubt he's going to leave you sitting in your car for ages!
It's not ideal, I grant you, but I'd give him the benefit of the doubt this once, in case he's a nervous Nellie and wants to get it just right.

He let her know I'm advance which you would know if you read the thread.

I'm living up to my user name, waiting for update.

My OLD date and I met at a pub at 2pm for food - I didn't think it was a strange time, anyway he's now my DH

have a fun time @Lilifer

oh my, sounds like all is going well now for the first date, clear plan in place (eventually) and I hope for a good update later this evening.

Hi date I'd rather have a place decided incase I can't get hold of you. I've had a look on Google and restaurant a or b look good. What do you think?

I think their wedding should be live on mumsnet!

Did you not read the updates?