Colleague has said I'm vain a few times

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Well not said it, but heavily implied it. I could understand if I'm going around saying 'Look at me I'm soo beautiful' but obviously this isn't the case.

She's said this because I sometimes put make up on or use a mirror at work at lunch. So what? Like it's not affecting her in any way.
She's made comments about 3 times, I've just laughed but next time I'll say something maybe?

It might just be friendly ribbing as she's nice otherwise but not sure what her goal is. She's someone who doesn't wear a scrap of make up and that's up to her, I'm not someone who can do that and that's just me.

Not really sure why OP started this thread tbh. She seems to have firm opinions on whether she is being unreasonable so what’s the point? 🤷‍♀️

Well watching people apply mascara and eye makeup creeps me out too! F

Personal grooming in the canteen ! No doubt you brush your hair whilst the person beside is eating their lunch too. Poor form.

why not go the whole hog and say “your just jealous” then stick out your tongue 🤣

Personal grooming shouldn't be done in a room where people are eating, it's crass in my view.

More or less crass than mimicking and mocking your colleagues?

Yeah, it was the canteen until OP realised this wasn’t going her way, so it morphed into a rec room…break room…

Oh but 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

Enough people think it's an odd thing to do in public for her to arguably nbu and for you to bu.

Eh? So whatever the herd thinks is the correct thing to think?

Nope, it's because when I said canteen some people took that to mean a silver service restaurant so I had to be clearer.

In fairness, I would reapply a slick of lippy if I’ve just eaten and am going on elsewhere without a bathroom stop. But not concealer, I think that’s embarrassing. And mascara is bizarre, definitely overstepping the appropriate in public mark for me.

Well no, a canteen is where people eat. That’s the point I think you’re missing.

OP you’re not being unreasonable.

some of these replies are absolutely mental, like something out of some decrepit etiquette manual from the last century.

she’s being bitchy to you, even if what you’re doing WAS rude or weird (it’s not it’s totally normal and fine) she could just say ‘would you mind not doing that’. She won’t. Because her primary aim is to make you feel stupid and vain. You’re not, she’s weird.

🤣🤣 thanks for making me laugh, some of those replies are just bonkers, at least you have a sense of humour

I honestly think some have just saw the first post referring to "personal grooming" and thought it sounded great to repeat 😬

Better never move a strand of hair out our faces in public or quickly re-do a sagging ponytail, surely that's classed as "personal grooming"

You do sound vain so that’s probably why she said it

Next time I'll be sure to slip off privately and discreetly to powder my nose in the lavatory.

I wouldn't apply makeup in public beyond lip gloss/ balm. Probably best to save it for the bathroom.

Makeup in the break room is slightly unusual, personally I would do it in the loo but only ever touch up lipstick, the rest of my makeup stays on until I remove it, you should get a good setting spray.

Your colleague sounds unpleasant and bitchy, if she had a problem with the makeup she should talk to you about it, not mock or mimic that’s actually verging on bullying behaviour.

You both sound very young, is this your first job out of school? (Not meant to be insulting, just asking because it takes time to learn how to behave in a place of work)

I'm laughing my head off with some of the answers 🤣

OP I have seen loads of women re apply lipstick in public places. I'll bet half of the responders on your thread here have done it. It's obvious it's not a canteen and more a staff room. Dabbing a bit of concealer and a quick touch up of lipstick is neither here nor there. If it was me I would ask her if she had a problem.

I will look at setting sprays! Thank you

Make sure its a tinkley lady laugh op you don't want to draw any attention to yourself, it might make others feel uncomfortable about themselves

So lipstick is ok, concealer is embarrassing and mascara is creepy, got it

Oh I know, have to be a lady at all times after all.

It wouldn't bother me if you did this - though I wouldn't - but if you do more than a 2 second powder then I don't think it's rude of her to make a vanity joke. As you can see, lots of people think it's a bit odd, she's clearly one of them, so just accept you disagree and not worry about it.

I'm not writing this clearly, sorry. For you, doing your touch ups is a priority and socially acceptable. I don't think you're 'wrong' but if a colleague did this I might also think it's kinda on the line of professionalism...so you open yourself up to an on the line comment.