Colleague has said I'm vain a few times

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Well not said it, but heavily implied it. I could understand if I'm going around saying 'Look at me I'm soo beautiful' but obviously this isn't the case.

She's said this because I sometimes put make up on or use a mirror at work at lunch. So what? Like it's not affecting her in any way.
She's made comments about 3 times, I've just laughed but next time I'll say something maybe?

It might just be friendly ribbing as she's nice otherwise but not sure what her goal is. She's someone who doesn't wear a scrap of make up and that's up to her, I'm not someone who can do that and that's just me.

Doesn't anyone remember Queen Elizabeth putting lipstick on whilst watching horse racing? She was in public, was she rude?

I wouldn't be offended but I probably would find it a bit odd for someone to do it in a public space especially regularly. I've never ever seen anyone do it in all my years at work or when in education. The loos, yes or private offices. It wouldn't have occurred to me to do it other than maybe put on a bit of lipsil.

I'm not quite sure why OP put this in AIBU? as she is coming across as defensive (and snarky at times TBH).

Agreed.

I can’t understand why people are so offended by how someone else behaves when it really doesn’t affect them at all. Hair brushing or blowing smoke in their food I could understand but a bit of make-up retouching in a mirror is completely harmless.

The more I read the more I think you're a bit unpleasant, OP. You seem to take offence and respond childishly.

If you continue to put on concealer in public, then there will occasionally be comments/strange looks as it is considered a bit unusual. You can blithely ignore these and carry on if you like. They can't control you and you can't control them, so have a live and let live situation.

Honestly, you can think whatever you like !

It's a typical AIBU, yes YABU, no I'm not!

I know it's normal to be defensive and not get the answer you want.

Nope, when people refer to me as common and other names then, I'll reply to that, as is my right to do so. Most people have made valid points which I'll take into consideration, some haven't.

Have we slipped back to the 1950's?

I came on here to discuss a colleague mocking me. Just because some people think it's horrendously offensive to apply a bit of whatever in a rec room, it doesn't mean it's ok to make jibes?

I came on here to discuss jibes, not whether you you're offended.

So did the colleague say something or not? Because first she doesn't, then she does.
The dripfeeds are confusing.

And now she's making "jibes".

As I said in my OP the colleague has mimicked/mocked a few times.

It's not usual to work in a workplace common room. Now that would be weird!

I'm apparently not on my own to feel that way. Everyone can do exactly as they please. OP was wondering why the remarks from her friend and people have told her why.

You also said she hadn't said anything.

Whereas I was thinking that op was being good humoured and relaxed in the face of a pretty po faced and somewhat unwarranted stern drubbing

Anyone who uses the word 'common' as an insult just outs themselves as a snob tbh. I thought we'd left this misplaced sense of superiority and unwritten social 'rules' back in the last century.

All you're doing is saying that you think you're better than other people for 'knowing' certain rules that don't even exist IRL. It's a sign of your own low self esteem because you're convinced everyone is going around judging you when in actual fact they barely notice you.

To the PP, I wrote in my OP that she has made comments around 3 times?

It’s in the canteen….

People are explaining why she might be noticing and directing attention to you reapplying make up. It’s an unusual thing to do in public, but rather than accept that some people might find it odd and a bit uncomfortable to watch someone doing this you’re getting very defensive.

What would be a better way to let someone know that you are making them feel uncomfortable by applying makeup in a public place?

I shouldn't have said canteen, it's a rec room. There are a big group of us, some are reading, some are talking, some are on phones, some eating. I am not getting all my slap out on the table or putting it near anyone's food, I'm literally getting a small mirror out of my bag and a concealer or whatever and quickly putting a bit on. Anyway I guess I'll be common 🤣

I might be stupid but I really fail how that could make her or anyone else terribly uncomfortable?

It doesn’t matter what the room is, the issue is that you’re doing your make up in public. This is a bit weird and unnecessary and it does give the impression that you’re vain. So don’t be surprised when somebody brings this to your attention.
It’s not that it’s offensive, like you mentioned, it’s just weird and also very unprofessional. I know you’re on your break when this is happening but usually there’s still a certain level of professionalism expected as you’re still on work premises.
Also you’re coming across in your posts as incredibly immature, if you’re 18 fair enough, but if you’re any older maybe you need to give your head a little wobble?

Ok, but even in the canteen one isn't required to watch anyone. People with delicate makeup -related sensibilities could just not look. I really think this is very far down on a list of indiscretions tbh.

If someone put on their make up in front of me every day at lunch time in public I would think they were
a) a bit of a vain Instagirl.
b) very insecure about their appearance.
c) making a flourishing obvious dig about the fact I never wear make up.

My response would be based on other aspects of their personality, not just the applying of make up in public.

It's an unusual enough action that I would wonder why you were compelled to do it. I probably wouldn't say anything though.