Colleague has said I'm vain a few times

[Spottttty]

Well not said it, but heavily implied it. I could understand if I'm going around saying 'Look at me I'm soo beautiful' but obviously this isn't the case.

She's said this because I sometimes put make up on or use a mirror at work at lunch. So what? Like it's not affecting her in any way.
She's made comments about 3 times, I've just laughed but next time I'll say something maybe?

It might just be friendly ribbing as she's nice otherwise but not sure what her goal is. She's someone who doesn't wear a scrap of make up and that's up to her, I'm not someone who can do that and that's just me.

I can’t really picture what she’s doing. You said mimicking you putting your make up on but not commenting? That sounds really childish 😂 something my siblings and I used to do to annoy each other.

Definitely look into better quality products if it’s not lasting the day.

I get this @Spottttty I’ve had this sort of thing a few times from non makeup wearers. It’s irritating. My ex sil was always sniping.

I have said that if I were actually vain I wouldn’t bother with makeup but I like the help

I really fail to see why you should adapt this or stop doing it!!
Why?
It’s really NOT as another poster describes as anti social (picking nose etc ffs)

The answers on here are so Pearl clutching and OTT.

OP, for me personally, couldn’t give a fiddlers fart about you putting on a bit of tut. It’s break time, not like you are smearing the bloody stuff all over phones and books.

I suspect from your answers that you can stand your ground, please do so and don’t be battered down by the answers and your colleague. Equally, I really don’t think that she means any offence. (Unless she is usually a bitch)

Crack on 🥳

Mumsnet: people are such woke snowflakes these days they get offended by everything. No one has a right not to be offended!

Also Mumsnet: it is entirely appropriate to be offended by this weird peice of social etiquette not being followed.

* The idea of not applying makeup in public is linked to the concept of painted ladies. Now that we no longer consider women who wear make up in public to be sluts, perhaps we could be less offended by the thought that makeup doesn't apply itself?*

Nah. You're reaching. It just looks daft and contradicts the aim of looking good in said make up.

So don't watch her then? Are these colleagues sitting on your lap? Get on with your work fgs!

Yes putting lipstick on without a mirror after eating is within normal social bounds I think.

Applying concealer and mascara is a bit odd. She should still not say anything though.

Well then it’s also not for you to dictate how she responds to it 🤷‍♀️

You are doing something slightly unusual. I’ve never seen anyone put on make up in public like this. If you do something a bit unusual, some people will probably comment.

This^
your colleague is softly sending you this message.
disclaimer: I also wear make up and often redo lipstick or touch foundation but in the bathroom.

It doesn’t cause ‘distress’. Who is saying that? You are coming across as a bit of a defensive dick here. I wonder how you behave at work generally. Why post the question if you can’t handle the responses?

As it appears that she didn’t actually say this, YABU.

Plus, go to the loo to check your makeup, as others suggest.

"Common" is such a nasty insult, it's always used in a horribly superior, classist way with a veneer of snotty superiority. A glance at various dictionary sites suggest it's a specifically British use of the word and sounds like something stuck up ladies with RP accents use in those 60s Pathé newsreels about men with longer hair or girls in miniskirts, recoiling at the horror.

Some people here need to find better words (ideally ones with some basis in reality)! and stop being so snooty

Common:
Showing a lack of taste and refinement supposedly typical of the lower classes; vulgar.
"she's so common" (Oxford Languages)

Oh relax 🤣🤣 yes I believe terribly at work, I should probably be fired immediately.

Call me common, it's fine, I'll own it 😉

It perhaps is a little vain, but she is rude to laugh and mimic you, unless you have that sort of relationship where you are happy to give each other a bit of a ribbing.

Enough with the laughing emojis

Goodness, the answers here are bonkers 😂

Who'd have thought that touching up one’s slap at lunchtime was so offensive? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Why have you posted a thread entitled

Colleague has said I'm vain a few times

when this isn’t what she’s done?

There are enough people here (and I’m one of them) who think doing your make-up publicly in the staff lunch area is a bit off. I wouldn’t say anything - although I’d be thinking it - but at the very least, I would think someone who’s comfortable enough to do their personal grooming in front of colleagues would also be thick-skinned enough to put up with a bit of gentle teasing without the need to start threads with inaccurate titles on MN.

Im so sorry, are you the police? Didn't realise laughing was banned.
Here, have a few more 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 might stop you being so miserable.

I think I would just play along and make light of it.

A bit childish of her to mimick you touchingnup your make up. Do you ever say anything to her? Perhaps you could ask her whether she'd like to borrow your mirror next time she does it?

You are posting in a very immature way. Even my teens have grown out of this style of communication and black and white thinking.

They are, and I've just been told off for using laughing emojis 😁

Im happy for them, you must have raised them very well.

Yep I really did.

I’ll slink off with my makeup and crass emojis.. 🙈😃