Colleague has said I'm vain a few times

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Well not said it, but heavily implied it. I could understand if I'm going around saying 'Look at me I'm soo beautiful' but obviously this isn't the case.

She's said this because I sometimes put make up on or use a mirror at work at lunch. So what? Like it's not affecting her in any way.
She's made comments about 3 times, I've just laughed but next time I'll say something maybe?

It might just be friendly ribbing as she's nice otherwise but not sure what her goal is. She's someone who doesn't wear a scrap of make up and that's up to her, I'm not someone who can do that and that's just me.

Imo you're getting some odd replies here op...

I suspect it's because you're applying it in public OP. Personal grooming like applying makeup should be done in the ladies.

Ok well all the rest aside you need a better mascara then

@DollyPartonsBeard 👌👌👌

Why?

It's also not for her to dictate where I do it
She didn't.

Yes…if mascara/concealer etc is coming off before lunchtime, you need better quality products.

She's projecting because she's a frump

Because it is just common. Read the other posts, very few think this is socially acceptable.
It's as offensive as people walking through foreign resorts in just beachwear, or going to supermarket in night attire.
Common, lazy, acts cause offence

Some people have really woken up on the wrong side of bed this morning. 🤣🤣

Its pearl clutchers unite on here! lol

There is no reason why they should though.

Also what is with the increased use of "common" as an insult on mumsnet at the moment?

Hmmm, I’m also in the camp of a cloak room or bathroom being a more appropriate place to reapply makeup and have a good look in the mirror. OP you don’t seem interested in listening to this but I see it as bad manners / socially wrong. Makeup is messy and I see it as personal grooming, not really a public activity. That is why your colleague is commenting. I also hate it when I’m on a train and someone whips out a makeup compact to apply full makeup.

I only get a mirror out in public if I have something in my eye. I never reapply make up. I might do lipstick if I am out, but I would use the toilets for that.

Says you. Doesn't make it true.

Where do you draw the line from doing what you like because 'it's not hurting others'?
Picking your nose and eating it?
Picking your arse and eating it?
Shagging on the sofa in this rec room?
About half the people in this thread have said they think it's something that should be done in private. So you can either have half the people you work with, thinking this about you, or you could be considerate of them and do it in the bathroom.

What do you mean?

Don’t really wear make up now but when I did at work (lots and lots, it was the 80s/90s 😁) I used to retouch in the loos.

Yeah if you want to make yourself look like a dick.

Believe it not some people do reapply make up/look in a mirror! It's not hurting anyone else, it's nobody else's concern really.

You're making it their concern by doing it in their space. Do it in the loos and it's not their concern. You can't have it both ways. If it's your business, do it away from them. If it's not, expect comments on it.

I agree with OP. It's definitely a thing that applying makeup in public is considered common by some, but it 2024 and I'm not my Edwardian Grandmother.

The idea of not applying makeup in public is linked to the concept of painted ladies. Now that we no longer consider women who wear make up in public to be sluts, perhaps we could be less offended by the thought that makeup doesn't apply itself?

Just because such behaviours don't offend you, doesn't mean they don't offend others. Why is that such a difficult concept to grasp? The rationale for being offended doesn't require explanation. I am sure there are things you are offended by that defy understanding by others.
And not that it is obvious, but the apparent increase in the use common...well, if the cap fits...

And there's the problem. You don't see that something is offensive but she is offended by it.

I don't like having to watch people apply their makeup either. Anything beyond a lipstick touch up definitely should be done in the cloakroom/bathroom.

I'd give a colleague a bit of a sideways look if she started applying concealer in the staff room. It's really unnecessary. I think you are feeling a bit too relaxed and forgetting you aren't actually in your own living room at home.

OP, you obviously have a differing opinion. But lots of people have said they wouldn't like it either and it's probably why your colleague is doing what she is.

No.
It's the feeling that she's sitting in the canteen doing it.
Let's not try and shoehorn an issue into it where there is none.