Colleague has said I'm vain a few times

[Spottttty]

Well not said it, but heavily implied it. I could understand if I'm going around saying 'Look at me I'm soo beautiful' but obviously this isn't the case.

She's said this because I sometimes put make up on or use a mirror at work at lunch. So what? Like it's not affecting her in any way.
She's made comments about 3 times, I've just laughed but next time I'll say something maybe?

It might just be friendly ribbing as she's nice otherwise but not sure what her goal is. She's someone who doesn't wear a scrap of make up and that's up to her, I'm not someone who can do that and that's just me.

Do you think the song is about you?

lol

Putting makeup on in public isn't an old fashioned thing to do. In the past it would have been hideously inappropriate for women to "groom" in public. Any female grooming had to be very hidden, not talked about or acknowledged, and done in private.

It's bizarre some people still have these attitudes in 2024.

I actually think being open about female grooming is a feminist issue. We shouldn't shame women for putting on makeup on public and tell them it needs to be private. How old fashioned

Totally ignore her, or just give her a 'look', then totally ignore her.

Yep I find the deodorant thing offputting too. My friends DH keeps one in their kitchen and sometimes has a squirt when he comes in .

I prefer not to be that involved to that degree in his odour management.

Iv read it all and I still think it’s batshit to get upset over someone putting a bit of makeup on in public. One must have lead a very sheltered uneventful life if this upsets them. Tell me- what exactly is the difference in putting a stick of lipstick to your lips and putting a stick of concealer to your skin?

Nothing.

Except plain old 1950s misogyny that’s what.

Go to the bathroom to do your makeup. I assume she is trying to be polite rather than telling you to go somewhere else to do it.

Either they are living sheltered and uneventful lives or they just go to different sorts of places and move in … ahem… different circles.

I am not shaming someone. I just don't want to see people filing their nails, putting on make up, picking their teeth and cleaning their nails etc in a public area. Why should I? Nothing to do with feminist issues or being old fashioned. I think it looks crass. I don't want to see men putting on their make up there either.

Trying to imagine my reaction to a fellow colleague thinking they can "tell" me to go somewhere else to touch up my make up 😬

I think I'd laugh assuming they were joking tbh.

Exactly.

Is it shaming to not want to see people having a crotch itch? It’s a perfectly reasonable thing to do after all …

I would say it - I may laugh at the same time, but I would still say it. I really don't want to see people putting on make up and mascara. A bit of lipstick is different, but anything else ....

Come on. The two aren't remotely comparable.

Why not? They are both ways of making sure her body is good to go

And I'd absolutely ignore you once I stopped my awkward laugh.

Why is lipstick different to mascara?

You think putting mascara on is the same as squatting & picking food out of a beard? This is what I mean about the comments being batshit

I'm interested in how many of the people responding negatively consider themselves feminists?

It’s not a feminist issue. Men have bodies too. I don’t want to see theirs getting prepped for presentation to the masses.

You don’t have to look at them. It really is that simple.

Are people doing these things really causing you to become so uncomfortable?

Public areas are going to have the public there. You’d probably be better off spending your time in complete solitude.

How would you feel if a male colleague sst there with his nasal hair remover whirring up his nostril?

Don't be silly. Grooming is not something that should be done in public - for men or women. Go somewhere quiet and go for it. As I said before, a bit of lipstick is fine. But anything else go somewhere else and do it. I don't have to look at them, but they don't have to do it in front of me. Why are they right and I am wrong?

Maybe you wouldnt have acne if you weren't putting make up on twice a day.

Your skin needs to breathe.

Have you been to the GP to look at acne treatments?

Why are people coming up with completely unconnected things thinking its a "aha gotcha!"? It's really not.

Trimming nose hairs means the person is deliberately risking unhygenic parts off their body flying around the place or being left behind.

Are these rules about how much makeup , what kind of makeup, if you are at a desk, if you are in a canteen, a restaurant written down anywhere?
They must be, so many people seem so absolutely certain about them 🤣🤣
Tbh if I wanted to apply some lipstick in public, I would. It's not harmful to anyone, nor could it ever be..... If that constitutes offensive behaviour or even just rude, I find that hilarious and trivial .
Should white gloves be worn on a Sunday? 😆

😂