Colleague has said I'm vain a few times

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Well not said it, but heavily implied it. I could understand if I'm going around saying 'Look at me I'm soo beautiful' but obviously this isn't the case.

She's said this because I sometimes put make up on or use a mirror at work at lunch. So what? Like it's not affecting her in any way.
She's made comments about 3 times, I've just laughed but next time I'll say something maybe?

It might just be friendly ribbing as she's nice otherwise but not sure what her goal is. She's someone who doesn't wear a scrap of make up and that's up to her, I'm not someone who can do that and that's just me.

I feel uncomfortable doing that in front of others. It's a bit passe, like something secretaries in the 50s would do. It's also about gender stereotypes and women working hard at being pretty and attractive, because that's expected of them. Of course most of us want to feel pretty and attractive but you don't want others to know that :). That's just my take on it.

Oh yea, no loose powder on a bus it's a waste if it spills!! Pressed powder ok.

That's rude isn't it?

A quick check of make up before going back to work isn't unusual is it?

I don't wear make up but I'd often brush my hair at lunch/retie it.

It's really just the same as that isn't it?

Yep wot Megifer said about deodorant is also entirely my view.

that said, Megifer has been beaten by the stick of patriarchy to such an extent she was wantonly sharing a room with a man in his underpants and sewing his trousers so is probably an unsaveable woman 😂(oops childish emoji use)

Ugh, Mumsnet is so Mumsnet sometimes.

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@DappledThings Aren't you a bit embarrassed that you feel so insecure you need to be mocking people?

That's a bit weird and attentiony.

Put it on in the bathroom. Thats a place for eating not getting ready

You know I half expected someone to seriously pick up on that 🤣

Only reason i stepped in was i felt so sorry for the lad he was making a right hash of it.

I miss that workplace, we were all so comfortable with each other, no one batted an eyelid when he just strolled through the office in his Simpson boxers with his blazer round his waist asking if anyone had a sewing kit

Lipstick is socially acceptable, nothing else.

I think my favorite part of this entire long shitshow of a thread is that out of 400+ replies almost nobody has addressed the actual question posed by OP.

But the pile on is amazing! OP your coworker sounds like a jerk to me, anyone who resorts to mocking another person isn't worth engaging with. If your touch ups actually bother her she could idk be an adult and speak to you about it but instead she acts like a child imho.

Also I hope OP is properly ashamed of herself and just wears a paper bag over her head with little eye holes cut out. Picturing her trying to eat with the bag is giving me strength to get through the day, a few of my coworkers are passive aggressive and appear to be spoiling for a good bicker today.

Why?

The important word in all that is “personal”!

No one wants to see others’ “personal” grooming. It actually doesn’t matter what OP thinks. If here people find it unacceptable then it’s unreasonable for her to continue.

Neither has it anything to do with feminism. I doubt any man would get much support for whipping out his electric clippers to trim his beard in public.

It sounds like something from a 1950s women's magazine.

You are doing nothing wrong. It’s not bad manners. My Mum and all her girl pals are in their early 80s I was picking them up the other day from one of their posh lunches. After they had finished desert, all four of them got a lipstick out of their handbags and applied a fresh coat. All very nice ladies who belong to the WI - They are not insta wannabes or insecure about their looks or making a thinly veiled swipe at women who do not wear makeup, they just know they look better with a bit of make-up on. Keep doing what you’re doing.

I think you need some better makeup OP if your concealer and mascara can’t last past lunchtime!

Beard shavings can waft about and enter even the tightest cats bum mouth, so not the same at all.

Yes people are very divided on whether it is ok or not.
Some people see it as infra dig. Traditionally it has been seen that way.

Ha, nope. A bit of mocking eye-rolling (which is all OP seems to have suffered) is entirely justified when someone's making their own embarrassing reliance on checking their reflection so public.

If they don't find it embarrassing I'll still be embarrassed for them but it doesn't sound like they'll be arsed about it

Fixing spray is OPs friend here.

Who knows - the etiquette guardians of yore maybe.

So then it doesn’t fucking matter does it 🙄

Why though? Why are you so bothered? It’s utterly pathetic to be so bothered by someone else when it literally does not have any impact on you whatsoever. It’s not like the OP is going around trying to apply the makeup onto her colleagues face is it 🙄 no wonder everyone seems so miserable on here.

Not done in public. Besides, as my late DH would have said, you know you were perfect when you came out so there is no need to either look in a mirror or titivate. (DH was quoting Beau Brummell btw, early nineteenth century leader of fashion).

It's bad manners, that's why everyone is bothered.