Colleague has said I'm vain a few times

[Spottttty]

Well not said it, but heavily implied it. I could understand if I'm going around saying 'Look at me I'm soo beautiful' but obviously this isn't the case.

She's said this because I sometimes put make up on or use a mirror at work at lunch. So what? Like it's not affecting her in any way.
She's made comments about 3 times, I've just laughed but next time I'll say something maybe?

It might just be friendly ribbing as she's nice otherwise but not sure what her goal is. She's someone who doesn't wear a scrap of make up and that's up to her, I'm not someone who can do that and that's just me.

OPs opened a real can of worms.

Roll up everybody! Do you want to put women down for wearing make up or for not wearing make up? Or both? Either way, this is the perfect thread for you.

Never check your hair, make sure there's no spinach in your teeth, or accidentally rested a pen on your face and had to check for ink?

I've just looked now as I had something in my eye but maybe I should just have left it

🤣🤣

I once sewed up a pair of pants that had ripped in the arse area for a colleague while he sat in the office in his kecks. Beat that everyone 🤣

Not virtue signalling - is it virtuous to not care about appearance? I genuinely wouldn't think of looking in a mirror other than when I get up. I'm sure no-one notices or cares what I look like.

I am not. I just meant if people are incapable of applying it in the bathroom then maybe don’t bother

I never wear makeup (cba and don't like the way it feels) but after 37 years on this earth I am hardly surprised to see others wearing it, and I think it's very strange to be upset by someone doing something non-intimate, non-odiferous, and silent like putting on makeup in the same room as you.

Jesus Christ people on this thread are vile to the OP…. Absolute character assassination for no fucking reason!

No it bloody well isn’t.
If she comments on it again ask outright ‘ why? Does it bother you?’

This is interesting, there used to be loads of threads about applying makeup on buses and trains and how DISGUSTING it is but do it in a canteen with food around and it's all well and dandy !

The OP is loving it! Think it's made her day.
She asked a question. Didn't like the answer and is now reveling in the banter! 🤷

This.

It makes you look like you're 12.

Either you’re so drop dead gorgeous that you are confident or can’t bear looking at yourself in a mirror.
In any case your friend is more likely to feel anxious about her looks than vanity.

Some people are definitely vain and that's okay. I work with people who are constantly taking selfies after spending time on a make up refresh. I find it baffling but each to their own.

Her reaction is upsetting you a fair bit which makes me think you know you're vain but are unable to admit it. It's got nothing to do with her if you are vain though.

I also think its fine on a bus I'd only be worried the mascara wand might poke her in the eye if it goes over a bump!

The food thing intrigues me, what could possibly happen to someones food if op is putting mascara on?

@Spottttty
Well, I’ve just sat down to have my lunch, was going to adjust my makeup after wearing a mask all morning, but realised it’s not the right thing to do!
So will now return to my afternoon with smudged mascara and tear marked cheeks after crying with laughter reading this thread. 🤣🤣
Thank you for or a lunchtime giggle, even if it didn’t help the make up

That’s what I was thinking 😂

Or…… have we gone back in time and it’s now 1920?

I would think ‘Claire’s putting her retouching her makeup after lunch.’

Judging by other replies, you should do your make up in the asshole-end of nowhere in a dark corner because someone will be offended. If it's rude to do it around people and unsanitary then surely you can't do it in a public toilet either because people wash their hands there.
It's not like you're there popping spots around peoples lunches!
I have a small compact powder with a mirror at my work desk that I'll quickly just check if I'm shiny and need to quickly dab some powder on! Or just to check that I still look okay as I'm customer facing and want to make sure I'm presentable. Never ever had an issue.

It's not "misogyny" to point out that many people, whether you agree or not, consider putting makeup on in public to be poor manners, even though it's relatively minor. Women who don't wear makeup often generally also do tend to think it's quite vain to do so (and just so you're aware, at one time, it used to be considered misogyny to expect women to wear makeup and "internalised misogyny" by those who choose to continue to do so) but she hasn't actually called you vain, has she? That would be quite rude of her. I'd also consider it very rude if she commented negatively on the fact you want to wear makeup though (as some people do) but generally, it is poor etiquette to do choose to keep doing something at work that lots of people consider to be rude.

I do wear a little makeup personally, but in awareness of the fact that so many people consider it rude, I wouldn't sit there applying it in front of other people, I'd go to the ladies. Being aware of what other people find rude and abiding by it unless it's one person being weird is just etiquette, basic good manners, especially with work colleagues. Sounds like your colleague is hinting. She's as entitled to her opinion on it as you are.

How about putting on deodorant? Very similar to make-up, but I think more people would find it weird to do in public.

I like to look good. If you want to borrow any make up. Just ask

I was thinking more of powder going everywhere rather than mascara tbh.

Deodorant is a no because it can make people cough. Not similar at all to makeup as the only way mascara can make others cough is if op launched it into someone's shocked open mouth.

Roll on - hmm....I wouldn't care if someone did this at their desk or canteen, I probably wouldn't notice or think they are just scratching their armpit.