Colleague has said I'm vain a few times

[Spottttty]

Well not said it, but heavily implied it. I could understand if I'm going around saying 'Look at me I'm soo beautiful' but obviously this isn't the case.

She's said this because I sometimes put make up on or use a mirror at work at lunch. So what? Like it's not affecting her in any way.
She's made comments about 3 times, I've just laughed but next time I'll say something maybe?

It might just be friendly ribbing as she's nice otherwise but not sure what her goal is. She's someone who doesn't wear a scrap of make up and that's up to her, I'm not someone who can do that and that's just me.

Or you could just not adhere to the so-called social rules that are patently ridiculous, like this one. It’s fine to decide you won’t abide by some rules as long as no one gets harmed - and nobody is going to be harmed by someone applying makeup in public. Sure, they might think it’s uncouth or tacky but frankly, that’s a them problem!

Showing an ankle used to be considered outrageous. A woman alone used to be considered outrageous.

But the colleagues isn't saying 'ere mate, do you have to do that here, I'm trying to have my lunch'

She's saying 'I think your motive for wearing make up is your unhealthy regard for the value and importance of your appearance'

Colleague is making a value judgement not a conduct complaint.

This whole 'the reason she's being rude is because she's objects to your breaking social etiquette' is entirely in the heads of pp here.

My eyes are able to move around in their holes, so if someone is touching their make up up, but I don't want to see, I can do this thing where I sort of move them around so they are in a different position. Like looking down or to the side etc. Sometimes a curtain type thing will come down over them and everything goes dark and I can't see at all.

Can others not do this?

You haven't answered what the harm or negative effect it has though, just that your feelings and preferences are what should be prioritised over someone elses. She's not changing a sanitary towel in the middle of the room, changing her bra or using a pumice on her dry feet, so why is applying concealer to her face, a private act if applying chapstick isn't?

I actually did answer this on a previous post.

So, everyone is wrong and you are right?

Is that how you live your life? never taking advice? never reflecting on anything that is ever said to you?

only hearing what you want to hear?

Why on earth did you start an AIBU? about this anyway? you clearly don't think you are, and laugh at anyone who suggests otherwise.

Good idea, if you want to sound snobby, superior and classist too!

Not quite what I said, but, sure !

They do: but it's about 70.

Someone of the posters here (including OP) must be the kind of people who give Brits a bad name abroad. Violating local customs left right and centre because they’re too thick to understand what a social norm is, or what manners are.

Very odd to assume all that.

In what way is it vain to care about one's appearance? Or is it the fact that OP dares to care about it in front of other people that makes her 'sound vain'?

I swear people couldn't be more offended if the OP was squeezing her spots into people's sandwiches. You aren't are you OP?

Me personally? No thanks. I have enough trouble keeping track of them and performing them without trying to figure out which stupid rules actually need to be adhered to and which stupid rules can be chucked in the bin. I'll let the NTs figure that out and just update when they do 🤣🤣

I’m not seeing what the issue with OP touching up her makeup is either. I would say the colleague mocking the OP is the bigger issue here and isn’t appropriate workplace behaviour

But dear old Barbara says below that that we mustn't spend too long in the cloakroom (NB Dame Babs refers to it as the cloakroom not the powder room, take note PPs, she literally wrote the book on etiquette!) or we will annoy our suitors!

A drunk or hatless man in public used to be thought of as outrageous, now no one cares.

The lipstick only became ok when the packaging became phallic. 🍆 💄 funny old world.

Oh dear 🤦‍♀️

It's a bit thick to think that Spaniards complaining about Brits Abroad are complaining about women quietly touching up their make up in a public place and not the noise, the public urination, the vandalism.

But sure if you want to assume that I'm one of Those Brits Abroad that's fine. I'm not so insecure that an internet stranger's opinion means anything to me.

Unbelievable that so many people are not only in a flap about a woman applying make up gasp in public, but also think it justifies others making rude personal remarks. Sorry, but this really is just policing women's behaviour.

...and we're done with the banana custard. (Kidding 😂)

As someone who worked with holidaying Brits abroad for many years, from youth to prestige, I can assure you that pedantic, condescending, holier than thou Brits are just as irritating to the locals.

What local UK custom is being violated due to op applying concealer at a table?

😂