Colleague has said I'm vain a few times

[Spottttty]

Well not said it, but heavily implied it. I could understand if I'm going around saying 'Look at me I'm soo beautiful' but obviously this isn't the case.

She's said this because I sometimes put make up on or use a mirror at work at lunch. So what? Like it's not affecting her in any way.
She's made comments about 3 times, I've just laughed but next time I'll say something maybe?

It might just be friendly ribbing as she's nice otherwise but not sure what her goal is. She's someone who doesn't wear a scrap of make up and that's up to her, I'm not someone who can do that and that's just me.

You are both doing things that some people consider rude or annoying. It’s a wash.

If she wants to pull faces ignore her, if you want to put your concealer on do it. It's a total non-issue.

Tbh if you were putting make up on in public at work I would be a bit weird about it too. Totally unnecessary

What do you want exactly, OP? You asked for people's opinions and you got them. Then, especially earlier on the thread, you seem not to want to hear the answers.

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How about just don’t bother wearing it? Or survive a full day without having to redo it? Gets plenty of time back in your life

I so agree. It gives me the ick. canteen is for eating, not grooming. No thanks! Not while I’m eating!!

@Spottttty

I've been called dirty (or heavily implied) unprofessional, vile, common, attention-seeking, performative, odd, immature. Not bad for a Wednesday morning 😁

Actually no-one called you odd OP. Every poster who used the word 'odd' (including me) said they thought it was an odd thing to do and one poster said "there is something odd about caring how you look so much that you need to reapply your mascara, but not caring that you look a bit daft doing it"

How about just don’t bother wearing it? Or survive a full day without having to redo it? Gets plenty of time back in your life

Because I like wearing make up and I like how it looks on me. I wear it to please myself. I am aware that I would "survive" without it and I manage my time just fine. Thanks for taking the time and care to think of my wellbeing though, I appreciate it.

Works both ways - I'd be pissed off if I wanted to go to the loo and was met with someone sprawling their Charlotte Tilbury all over the sink taking ages while I had a danger wee (where you think you might fart loudly)

It's a work toilet not a personal dressing room, id judge anyone doing this. Piss off out the toilet and let me fart in peace.

I’m sorry OP but it is cringe and antisocial to top up your makeup in front of loads of people in the break room. Same as brushing your hair in a cafe or on the bus etc (hate when people do this!)

If it was a normal thing to do, then your colleague wouldn’t be commenting on it.

It takes two seconds to walk to the ladies loos and use the big mirrors in there.

I would find it off putting if I was trying to eat, read, whatever, and a colleague was sat there applying makeup.

Why not fart in the canteen along with all the other personal stuff taking place

@Aussieland Why are you telling women what to do with their own bodies?

"I would find it off putting if I was trying to eat, read, whatever, and a colleague was sat there applying makeup."

Don't look then? No ones forcing you.

What a bully!! Perhaps she is self conscious herself and trying to put you down

I find it really funny people have issues where people apply makeup. It's hardly a crime is it? 🤣

Op just carry on doing what you want to do. I regularly check my makeup throughout the day in my little mirror, as I tend to get smudged eyes or maybe lipstick moved if I've been eating. I'm in and out of my bag all day. No one would tell me if I got mascara under my eyes so I always check.

I also think it's a form of stimming for me ( gives me comfort with ADHD) and no one comments on me because they aren't nosey arses. Just keep reflecting it back at her. You could say why does it bother you? And keep repeating until she buggers off.

Because there's a risk it will make a noise, obvs 🙄

I must say though I would never apply makeup in front of colleagues, other than lip balm

This is the most batshit set of responses I’ve seen for a while!

Really grim to be doing your make up anywhere outside the bathroom at work/in public.

Why is it grim? I only reapply lipstick at my desk. Not like she is dawbing makeup over others.

I can't believe you lot function in society day today.

People are out in public sneezing and coughing openly, scratching their bums then opening doors, slobbering down lunch messily and not washing their hands after wiping their arse but no. The REAL MAJOR CONCERNS are someone getting a mirror our to put some concealer on in the break room.

Utterly fucking mental, all of you.

Continue as you are. I put make up on in all kinds of weird places and it's nobody else's business what I'm doing. I've never had anybody rude enough to comment but I think that owes to the fact I can be extremely relaxed about conflict and they are afraid I'll comment something worse back.

What exactly is grim about it?

Lip balm? How performative to maintain your smooth lips in public.