Colleague has said I'm vain a few times

[Spottttty]

Well not said it, but heavily implied it. I could understand if I'm going around saying 'Look at me I'm soo beautiful' but obviously this isn't the case.

She's said this because I sometimes put make up on or use a mirror at work at lunch. So what? Like it's not affecting her in any way.
She's made comments about 3 times, I've just laughed but next time I'll say something maybe?

It might just be friendly ribbing as she's nice otherwise but not sure what her goal is. She's someone who doesn't wear a scrap of make up and that's up to her, I'm not someone who can do that and that's just me.

Oh I acknowledge it, and I think it’s insane. Those people make me want to start wearing makeup just so I can do it in public and annoy the pearl clutchers

Horrible post.

Exactly, I might just WFH permanently so I don't have to traumatise the poor souls 🤣

It's not great watching your colleagues plastering on makeup, doing hair etc at work. It should really be in the bathroom. I'd probably rather go outside and do my makeup in the park instead of at my desk!

I do find people who keep looking at themselves either in the mirror or phone camera massively tiresome when in mixed company

This thread is cracking me up. I can't imagine even really clocking this behaviour (the make up) let alone finding it 'gross'. It's really not the same as flossing in public 😂Sure, I tend to do make up in the loo, but I can't say I'd even register it generally.

I also don't think she's jealous (WHY IS A WOMAN ALWAYS LABELLED AS JEALOUS FOR MANIFESTING IRRITATION FFS), but maybe you do it more than you realise and she's just teasing you?

I dunno, either way, I am enjoying the reactions on here.

This!!!!!

she sounds like a right pick me girl

Ahhh good old Mumsnet, touching up concealer and mascara is plastering on makeup and 'keeps' checking herself out in the mirror and camera.

Nowt like a bit of exaggeration to make a totally irrelevant point.

Personally if I needed to touch up makeup or do something with my face, I'd nip off to the loo. I wouldn't do it in public. I would feel embarrassed what everyone would think if I got my mirror or makeup out. I would also judge coworkers slightly who would do it in public as your colleague has OP. Just my opinion.

It's normal to adjust your behaviour according to your surroundings. At work, with colleagues is very different to at home with friends or family.

There's theoretically nothing wrong with brushing hair, putting on make up, plucking eyebrows, brushing teeth etc in public. But they are actions associated with the private, relaxed sphere. It feels like forced intimacy to have your colleague suddenly do their makeup (all the way to concealer) in front of you.

There are many other actions that have a similar public/private divided that not everyone agrees on so can lead to some tension. Heavy kissing, sleeping, doing your nails, private phone calls, certain topics of conversation.

At work, where a variety of personalities have to coexist in the space, it's perhaps better to err on the side of caution.

@Spottttty / so you weren't just looking in a mirror, you were reapplying concealer. Doing that in public is not ok in my opinion, it's rank & always had been. I wear a lot of makeup & it wouldn't occur to me to do that.

Why though? I'd consider that a very weak excuse for judging someone tbh. Quite bitchy in all honesty.

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Yes, dearie.
Your cod psychology will take you far

No, repeatedly using the word common makes someone come across as a complete snob.

This thread is bonkers. I don't find seeing someone putting make up on offensive.

I would more likely be thinking that they needed better quality make up if it needs retouching.

I wear make up to work - tinted moisturiser, blusher and lipstick and it stays put until I get home (except for lipstick after I have eaten, but I don't bother reapplying it).

OP I reapply my lipstick at my desk but if I wanted to do concealer/blush I would probably do it the bathroom. However I wouldn’t give a shit if someone did a full make up routine if I’m honest!!

But then I also brush my very long hair at my desk which according to Mumsnet, makes me criminally insane 🤷🏻‍♀️

Of course it does. In your narrow world.

Redoing your make up in the canteen is a bit unusual. Most women either wouldn't bother to top up their mascara during the work day (if it's gone by lunch you need a different brand!) Or would go to the toilets. You are drawing attention to your grooming by making it public, so your colleague has noticed something she'd usually be none the wiser about, and obviously thinks its excessive. She shouldn't have commented though, it was rude.

My narrow world. About which you know nothing. You're just waffling now.

I'm loving that people are not seeing the irony (?) in their own posts, it's glorious in fact.

"Op your behaviour isn't good social etiquette and is impolite, you insecure, performative, vain, unhygienic, mirror shagging It Girl"

I know who I'd rather be around. I'd apply your concealer for you op rather than want to be around some of the 'performative' judgers on here.

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You are hilarious

Why thank you!

I've been called dirty (or heavily implied) unprofessional, vile, common, attention-seeking, performative, odd, immature. Not bad for a Wednesday morning 😁

Will be perfect on your cv!

I'm one of the few people in my friendship group who spends time and money on my appearance. I have a reputation for being vain and compared to my other friends I suppose I am vain. Not because I think I'm beautiful but because I'm insecure and want to present as well as I can.

I get teased but it's all good natured so it doesn't sting.

That being said, I wouldn't apply make-up top ups in a public place. I'd go to.the loo or a private corner. Personal grooming is personal not normally an activity for communal areas.