I’ve bumped my husbands new car 🚗

[StaceyAl]

I’m in a panic. My husband bought an expensive new car last week. He was having an afternoon nap so I just borrowed it to collect my son from sports training. I’ve reversed into a low wall in a car park (couldn’t see it in my rear view mirror) and have dented the rear bumper.
He’s working from home tomorrow- is there any chance I can get up early and take it to a garage to get fixed and return it without him knowing?
what should I do, I can’t tell him he’ll be furious and I took it without asking

Firstly - it’s just a CAR. Is it some super car worth hundreds of thousands or something like that? With which way - it doesn’t matter - it’s a piece of metal designed to take you from a to b safely. Secondly - your husband sounds like he is dickhead if he is going to be angry at a bump on a car, what does he plan to do, wrap the car in bubble wrap when he drives? Thirdly - why on earth do you have the music that loud that you can’t hear the sensors that are there to warn you - that’s pretty stupid and irresponsible, youre lucky it was just a minor bump.

The problems here are that you took it without his consent and you were driving it without proper attention.

It can't be that good a car - my Ford drops the volume of the stereo when the parking sensors beep. Plus it has a rear camera.

You really must tell him

Why would he me mad, he surely would only care that you are ok? It's just a car.

I’ve told him, it didn’t go well. I’m ok but I’ve learned my lesson and won’t do it again

I wrote off my Husbands car, he didn't care as I was ok and DD has scraped the bumper (twice) and other than a bit of an eye roll and piss taking about her parking abilities that was it.
If your H is anything other than mildly annoyed there is something wrong

Didn’t you hear the reversing sensors bleeping before you hit the wall? An expensive car ought to have them

Major consequences!!!

what do you mean by 'not going well' and what won't you do again? Use his car?

I wouldn't even think to ask permission to take my DH's new car and neither would he think I needed it.

OP I just want to say that you are not a child and your DH is not your parent. There should be no fear or punishment. You should be able to tell him and not fear the consequences.

What lesson have you learned? Jeez, you're not 6!

This is so sad. In my marriage everything we have is shared, certainly major purchases like cars, we don’t have to ask. And zero fear or worry in telling the other about a mistake.
Is this embarrassment or genuine fear? He gets to be angry but not at you or furious hell no, he’s an adult not a child.

What on earth do you mean by major consequences? It was an accident.

She was playing music too loudly to hear them.

Broke trust? By borrowing a car? 50 50 in my marriage. No big purchase belongs to one or the other.

I hate when people say this. Of course there is such thing as an accident.

@StaceyAl I've done similar. I had just passed my test when DH went away for a week and told me to use his new car for work. I hit a pillar in the firm's underground car park and had to ring and confess. Yen later in the week I took off my boss's wing mirror! It was a good couple of years and more lessons before I drove again.

AppleDumplingWithCustard · Yesterday 21:20
I wouldn’t get violent but I’d be fucking angry if you took my new car without asking and damaged it. Even more so if it had sensors but you ‘didn’t hear them’. You sound like a fucking liability.”

I don’t understand this at all. We use “each other’s” cars all the time, no need to ask, they’re joint property.

Tell him and offer the 900 ready to pay for the repairs.
You can't be anything but sorry; no one was hurt so all's good.

You really should get the vehicle assessed by mechanics suggested by your insurer so the work will be trusted.

Imagine if you bought a brand new car, and your DH used it without letting you know, then he damaged it, then he panicked and decided to not tell you about it in case you got angry with him. You might not be steaming mad, but you'd be a bit cheesed off, wouldn't you?

Same. Nor would there be any using my or his money to fix it, it would all come out of joint.

The vocabulary you use sounds more like you’d be referring to a child “major consequences”, “learned my lesson”. You’re an adult. We all make mistakes.

If it was a brand new car my husband wouldn’t be impressed but equally I’d be pissed off too because it’s just another problem to fix which is always an inconvenience. BUT there’s no his and hers when it comes to cars (the one I use more often is actually the more expensive one!). And it’s just a car…

Yes, you should ask the registered driver to use their car. What if they needed it and then it's just gone? This is just normal, and there's no indication OP doesn't have her own car or actually needed his

In this thread people are stunned upon finding out that not every family shares absolutely everything.